When the word “domestic abuse” is put forward, people may think it is far from their lives. However, it happens around each individual and it is closer than they think. Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to violence. And while physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. (Smith and Segal 2) This horrible thing can happen to everyone, for example, in the memoir The Pursuit of Happyness by Chris Gardner, the author’s childhood is closely related to domestic abuse. Rather than causing negative emotions to all family members, it also leave them with physiological and emotional trauma, especially to the children. More crucially, Chris’s story …show more content…
For short-term effect, children may suffer from increased anxiety about being separated from a parent, intense worry about their safety or the safety of a parent and so on. For long-term effect, when they grow up, they can have physical health problems, behavior problems in adolescence and emotional difficulties in adulthood. (“ Children and Domestic Violence”) Chris is exactly such a kid while he is living with Freddie. In this family, Chris fears everyday that “I’d come home to find my mother murdered.” (Gardner 35) and “much more damaging to my psyche, the powerlessness that came from the fear that never seemed to let up at home.” (Gardner 35) Home should be the warmest harbor for a young kid, instead, it is a scaring hell for Chris. Everyday, he lives in fear, worry and anxiety, which is the typical short-term trauma for a child experiencing domestic abuse. Fortunately, Chris never learns that “it is acceptable to exert control or relieve stress by using violence.” (“Children and Domestic Violence”) He has set his goal from a young age and acted this out in his adulthood: “I was never going to terrorize, threaten, harm, or abuse a woman or a child, and I was never going to drink so hard that I couldn’t account for my actions.” (Gardner 38) Nonetheless, not every child has the luck to realize this as Chris does. Children of domestic violence are 3 times …show more content…
One evident phenomenon that affects the living conditions is victims will get away from their home. However, this will only make the situation worse. Abusers often increase their use of violence and abuse to stop their partners from leaving, or to force their partners and children to return home following separation. The abuser may attempt to take the children away from their mother to punish the woman for leaving. (“ Impact of Domestic Violence On Children and Young People”) According to The Pursuit of Hapyyness, Chris’ mother is well-prepared to take her children away from their home at anytime. “Moms slept on the living room couch with her shoes on --- in case she had to run, carrying the baby and dragging the rest of us out of the house fast.” (Gardner 35) After they finally get out once, Freddie comes back again. “Barely gone more than a week, we packed up and returned to the back house, with Freddie giving us a respite of no less than a week without violence.” (Gardner 41) To stay in dominant in a family, abusers are sure to punish those who disobey them, since they have the one goal “to have the complete control over the family”. Although they may force their family back, their living conditions are never going to getting better. The house is still surrounded by tension and fear, victims live on tenterhooks with little power to fight back.
Dave grew up with two older brothers who were never really touched, but Dave got it the worst and he never understood why. He used to live the life any kid would dream of living, but after noticing his dad showing up less and less, he knew the outcome wasn’t going to be good. In this book, Dave proves that when children experience severe physical abuse, they are mentally and physically traumatized and develop to lose their sense of self and worth.
Relationships with parents and spouses can influence the type of person one might grow up to become, for better and sometimes worse. As a child, one can't always achieve independence and escape from an authoritative household, but can later alter their lifestyle and learn from it. Abuse is the impetus for wanting to escape, yet some people choose not to out of fear and traumatic
Next, an individual can leave their home because of abusive relationships with family. Melanie, who has grown to a 22 year old woman, runs away from home because at age 14, because she is abused by her father. Melanie was accused of stealing money from their basement, leading to physical harm from her father, and her eviction (Without a Roof). This shows that abuse in a relationship can lead to one’s removal from home, leading to homelessness. Lastly, one can leave their home because of intimate relationships with family.
Danny’s child and teen years will eventually be considered as “years of suffering” (288). Reb Saunders’ parenting style also has aspects of emotional abuse to it. Emotional abuse is defined as “behavior by parents or caregivers that can seriously interfere with a child’s cognitive, emotional, psychological or social development” (“Emotional Abuse”). Though Reb Saunders’ is not an abuser, his parenting style could have lead to behavioral issues with Danny, though it fortunately did
Valeria Oceguera Violence in the family Professor Hoffman February 23,2017 A Child Called ‘It” A Child Called “It” by Dave Pelzer is a story about a child named David, who is a victim of abuse from his mother and tells his story of how he struggles to stay alive, search for food and the problems he has in school. David lives with his mother, father and brothers, but at the end of the book, he feels a strong hatred for his family and a strong hate for the people who knew about the abuse, David also regrets being born and questions if God exists. There are many health issues that happen when abuse happens to a child specifically and these include, “suicidal thoughts, eating disorder, PTSD can develop from a childhood of abuse.”
Externalizing problems are disobeying rules, physical aggression, and threatening others. As a result of constant interparental violence, a child's coping ability may be, depleted, which, can result in physiological problems(Kelley 1025) And over time, the more these children are exposed to this violence, their ability to regulate feelings of, fear and worry, is weakened causing them to be, more vulnerable to internalizing problems. However, the children who are better able to maintain these feelings are more likely to experience internalizing problems(Kelley 1026). Witnessing parental violence affects a child's
While the effects of abuse can be severe and long-lasting, children who have been abused or exposed to violence can and go on to have healthy and productive childhood and adult lives. Research has found that children exposed to violence, abuse, left unaddressed, or are ignored are at an increased risk of having emotional and/or behavioral problems in the future. Children who are abused may not be able to express their feelings safely and as a result, may develop difficulties regulating their emotions. In their adult, they may continue to develop a struggle with their feelings, and this may lead to depression or anxiety. Direct effects include: depression, anxiety, dissociation, difficulty concentrating, problems with learning, difficulty connecting with others, flashbacks, Increased hyper-vigilance, and difficulty sleeping.
Universally, domestic violence is referred to abusive behavior that is used by the intimate partner to control or power over the other intimate power. This can be in the forms of psychological, sexual, economic or emotional threats or actions that will influence your partner (Kindschi,2013).Domestic violence studies provides that psychopathology, which happens when in violent environment in child development can make the argument of domestic violence progress of being a generational legacy (Kindschi,2013).I chose to write about the Feminist Theory to explain why people commit domestic violence. It believes that the root causes of domestic violence is the outcome of living in a society that condones aggressive behavior by men, while women
In a recent news article, Lauren Derrett shares her personal experience as a victim of domestic violence. She starts off with a detailed account of “coming back from a state of unconscious, with my [her] husband standing over me [her]” (Derrett, 2017). She expresses that that particular incident would be the last time, after so many similar incidents in which she forgave her husband. She goes on to describe several past domestic violence encounters with her husband, and explains how he would use her own insecurities against her to convince her that she could not find a better relationship. Derrett justifies her quiet acceptance of the abuse as a means to save her kids the pain of another divorce.
The Good and the Bad Victims of domestic violence are not at fault for the abuse that is inflicted upon them. A lot of people ask why the victim stayed in the first place, but in some cases the answer is not always so simple. According to Why Do Abuse Victims Stay, “We often put ourselves in the place of the victims and imagine ourselves leaving at the first signs of abuse. But breaking free of abuse is not simply a matter of walking out the door. Leaving is a process.”
Maltreatment has a severe impact on a child’s current and future functioning and development regarding their emotional, social, cognitive, behavioral, and physical wellbeing.(Frederico 345). Different types of abuse, such as physical, emotional, and sexual have different consequences, but the consequences of all maltreatment, are likely to happen in three stages. Firstly, a child may have an initial reaction such as post-traumatic symptoms, painful emotions, and cognitive distortions. Secondly, children develop coping strategies that are aimed to help increase their safety or reduce their pain. Thirdly, a child 's sense of self-worth is damaged and develop the feeling of shame and hopelessness..
Surprisingly it was also found that some children go on to have normal lifes. It was always thought that children who suffer from domestic violence are the children who go on to perpetrate the subsequent violence on their own families or are the person who is the victim of dv, but this isn’t necessarily the case as shown in ….. (need to look for stats.)
As defined in “Establishing A Domestic Abuse Care Pathway”, domestic violence is “Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those… who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality. The abuse can encompass… psychological, physical, sexual, financial, or emotional [abuse].” Domestic violence is common, with around 1 in 4 women experiencing it at some point in their lives, and there are many things that need to be fixed about the handling of domestic abuse cases. (Bradbury-Jones) Our society should fix how we deal with abusers, set up an improved care pathway to deal with domestic abuse, and in this pathway improve the response to
Domestic Violence has become an issue that has lacked the attention of the public that needs fixing. Both of the articles demonstrate the obstacles that are presented in domestic violence cases. The image gives the awareness of the life threatening they live through, and have difficulties looking for help. Many people are unaware or underestimate the obstacles and difficulties that are presented in domestic violence, but a closer look will illuminate these issues that require action to be taken.
Domestic Violence: Early Exposure to Violence and How Violence Affects Children and Families By: Emily Lopez Texas Woman’s University 03/06/2018 Abstract Domestic Violence is an issue that is prevalent in the United States. Domestic violence can have a tremendous impact on individuals, children and families and last a lifetime. This paper will examine two theories, social learning theory and conflict theory, and will be used to address the issue of domestic violence.