“I learned a long time ago that some people would rather die than forgive. It’s a strange truth, but forgiveness is a painful and difficult process. It’s not something that happens overnight. It’s an evolution of the heart.” (Kidd) Lily Owens lives in Sylvan, South Carolina in the 1960s with her abusive father T Ray who never lets her forget the day when she was just four years old that she accidentally killed her mother while witnessing an argument between her parents. Through the process of forgiving herself for her mother’s death and forgiving her mother for abandoning her, Lily finds her courage, independence and self-worth. In the novel The Secret Life of Bees, Sue Monk Kidd demonstrates the hardships of forgiveness through the interactions …show more content…
We can assume from T Ray’s abusive actions towards Lily both mentally and physically that he is a bitter and angry man. He is violent, selfish and cruel towards Lily, but what made him this way? We learn at the end of the novel that Deborah left T Ray because he abused her and their relationship. Lily tells us that T Ray refused to speak of Deborah to Lily at all. Once when Lily asked him a question about her mother, he got so angry at the thought of her that he threw a jar of jelly at the cabinet. He is so angered by even the thought of Deborah, leaving us to assume that T Ray is still very angry with her for leaving him. He loved her but she left him and because Tiburon, the town they lived in, is such a small town everyone knew and his pride was damaged. He has so much hatred towards her but because she is gone, he cannot talk to her about it. At the end of the novel, T Ray finds Lily at August’s house, where Deborah had also run away to. When he shows up and demands Lily leave with him, Lily refuses and he slaps her. T Ray becomes very violent with Lily, grabbing her, calling her Deborah and yelling at her about leaving him. It isn’t until Lily screams “daddy!” that T Ray stops attacking her. T Ray confesses that Lily looks almost identical to her mother, that they share a lot of personality traits and when he finds that she ran away to the same place Deborah had, he was instantly reminded of Deborah and all his emotions came flowing back to him. Finally Lily understands why her father is so bitter, “But seeing him now, I knew he’d loved Deborah Fontanel, and when she’d left him, he’d sunk into bitterness.” (Kidd 293) T Ray has never forgiven Deborah for leaving him. Forgiving her was so hard for him because Lily looked so much like her that she was a constant reminder of his wife who left him. T Ray was hurt by Deborah so he took his anger out on the closest thing to her
“I wonder if he was mad because i was inconsiderate, or if he was mad because he was afraid. I had gone missing the day the body had turned up. “You're right,” i said, because he was”(90). Ronnie is starting to let Tomas in and listening and processing what her friends and family say. Even though Ronnie is still mourning her best friend's death she still is starting to process everything.
In the Secret Life of Bees, Deborah and Terrence, despite rarely being in the book, and not at all in the Deborah’s case, have one of the most complex relationship in the story. Terence and Deborah are the parents of Lily Owens, and in the first chapter it’s established Deborah is dead, and Terrence refuses to have her name spoken. This is all perceived through Lily’s point of view so it comes off as this rule exists out of hate instead of grief. Later we get clues indicating this is not the case. Sue Kidd draws sympathy from the reader by starting off with the perfect dead mother picture then creating a more human image; in the end Kidd constructs a situation revealing T. Ray drawing in more pity than sympathy.
“Daddy!” Most often, this is a proclamation of joy, a child announcing happiness toward their father. However, in Secret Life of Bees, a novel brilliantly written by Sue Monk Kidd, this is a cry of despair, a plea for one’s life. This stirring story is the tale of a young white girl, Lily, who with her black nanny named Rosaleen, runs away from home in search of secrets and a better life. Although often portraying events similarly, the book occasionally contrasts the film, which lends itself to the fact that various techniques are necessary when using different mediums.
In the book, “The Secret Life of the Bees” Lily Owens suffers the guilt from the loss of her mother. Growing up was difficult for lily as she struggled with the abuse of her father and being socially awkward at school. Lily finds influential characters throughout her childhood years. Rosaleen her housekeeper is known in lily's life as her stand-in mother after lily's mother's death. Lily is often dreaming of being Rosaleen adoptive child.
Bees are a mysterious species who have an incredible life that we know nothing about; in connection we live crazy, mysterious, lives with ups and downs; goods and bads. The secret life of bees by Sue Monk Kidd is an extraordinary story about a teenager Lily Owens, her abusive father, her mother, and numerous friends. Lily lost her mother at a young age, so she runs away; she ends up living with a loving family of women and finds mothers within them. She learns about friendships, overcoming, forgiveness, and love. In The secret Life of Bees the author shows theme through conflict and symbolism.
He had assisted Mayella Ewell out with work around the house and it resulted with her sexually assaulting him and not letting him leave her home. He did not want to harm her in any way. "Mr. Finch, I tried. I tried to 'thout bein' ugly to her.
Danny's father ignores him throughout the entire story, only directly speaking to him at the very end of the book, but Danny is able to maintain his respect for his father because he loves him. " 'I thought you said your father never talks to you.' ' He doesn't'"(116) Because of his respect and love for his father, Danny tries to comprehend his father's method of raising him instead of deciding to hate him because of it. Love for Reb Saunders perseveres throughout, even if it is a blind love because of the respect and awe he feels for his father.
Lots of times we would consider T-ray the bad guy. It is very easy to point fingers at him and say he was the worst. But in these situations we never know the full story. The reason they got married is because she found out she was pregnant with T-ray’s daughter. These are very extreme situations that many times we do not want to be in.
Family bonds impact them in a bad way, Mr. Ewell does not care for the children or have them get an education for a better life. The children do not interact with the world in the same way others do because their father changed how they viewed others. When Tom Robinson, who was accused of raping Mayella Ewell, testified of the events, he explained that she had forced him to stay and that “she says she never kissed a grown man before an’ she might as well kiss a nigger. She says what her papa do to her don't count” (194). The Ewell’s family bond is broken due to how the father interacts with his eldest daughter.
Stories about children have always captivated humans young and old. From poems and short books written for children about children to autobiographies written about childhood for adults, youth has always been a fascinating topic. Perhaps this is because childhood brings a unique innocence and magic to any story. Sue Monk Kidd’s The Secret Life of Bees and Leo Tolstoy’s Childhood both detail scenes from the protagonist’s childhood.
The major theme of The Secret Life of Bees is forgiveness, as it is a recurring element in the book. Zach yearns for forgiveness for being arrested: “‘I’m sorry,’ he said. ‘It was all my fault. If I’d turn in the one who threw the bottle, I wouldn’t have gotten arrested and none of this would’ve happened.’” (204).
A similar reaction is taken by Rex when Brian is molested by Erma. “ Dad came stomping downstairs , furious at all of us, me for talking-back to Erma and making wild accusations, Lori even more for daring to strike her own grandmother, and Brian for being
Forgive, not because they deserve forgives, but because you deserve peace. It’s not easy to stop blaming someone’s fault, especially for someone who do wrong to us. In the book The Sunflower written by Simon Wiesenthal, a survivor of the Holocaust during World War II, he described his conflict with Karl, a dying Nazi soldier who killed many innocent Jews and begging for forgiveness for his outrageous crime at the end of his life. At the end of this sad and tragic episode, Simon did not response to Karl’s request directly; instead he left us a tough question: “What should you have done?” Based on what Karl had done during World War II and his repentance, each person might have their own point of view about where should we draw the line of forgiveness.
The Secret Lives of People The Secret Life of Bees, by Sue Monk Kidd, is an interesting story that connects human lives to bees. The story takes place in 1964 during the Civil Rights Movement and fourteen year-old Lily Owens leaves her abusive father and her home in Sylvan, South Carolina to go to Tiburon with hopes to find information on her mother. Throughout the story, Lily struggles with many internal conflicts and also meets several mother figures along the way.
A child may feel that a stubbed toe on the playground is the worst pain in their life, while a widow attending her husband’s funeral feels emotional pain. On the other hand, both types of pain may be felt at the same time. People experience pain everyday, and often for different reasons. Sue Monk Kidd, author of The Secret Life of Bees, includes several types of literary devices in her novel. In order to advance the storyline and the personalities of the characters, Kidd incorporates indirect characterization, symbolism, and allusions.