“If you can change your mind, you can change your life.”- William James
“There are always flowers for those who want to see them.”- Henri Matisse
Over the years I have learned a truth about life, “Life itself is a healer” and no matter what kind of problem you are facing, life itself will help you to overcome it.
Sometimes we forget this simple truth. And we lost ourselves in sadness and regrets and we wish to change the past.
Nobody can change the past. And nobody can take away your memories. Those memories which are giving you pain will shine through you in the near future. And you will find happiness through it. It will remind you of the good times you had spent.
It will work as energy. And you will find a purpose through it.
In this article, I will share with you 8 ways through which you can heal yourself from a sad moment.
8 Ways To Heal Yourself
Change the concept of the story: Every time you feel regrets or sorry about a situation try to revise it with a new thought and think differently. Ask a question to yourself “whether you can make any changes to it or not? If you can change it, then there is no point to become sad. And if you can 't change it, then still there is no point to become sad. Our thought will make the difference.
The Past is passed; no matter what type of regrets you have still past remain as the past. You cannot reside there nor can you make any changes. You can only move forward.
Take the Moral of the Story: Life 's every setback
Everyone tends to look back at their lives every know and then. The past can be used a tool, a motivator and a guide to help drive their future. Many people rely on their past to help guide them and use it as a tool to help make decisions. Even though looking at ones past is a giid thing Some people rely too heavily on their past and they get lost in it.
Regret also changes people’s life. Everybody has done something they regret doing. Maybe they do not know what is it or they do not want to admit it but everybody has at least regretted something once.
We are humans and a majority of us have dealt with heartache, pain, broken promises, along with the joyous things like dreams, aspirations, and successful futures. Humans mess up and make mistakes, but we have to remember that forgiveness is a very prestigious and powerful thing. Forgiveness affects people’s lives in positive ways through the hardships, difficulties, and struggles of life. There comes a time when forgiveness should not be available to some individuals. However, this depends on the past situations that have occurred in your life as well as other individuals.
In life, people can endure adversities through the aid of the people around them. Wiesel and Houston both reveal this truth among their own passages. In Night, a teen, named Elie, is in a concentration camp and is helped by other characters to surpass the difficulties he faces. Similarly, in Farewell to Manzanar, a Japanese mother and her family are forced to go to an internment camp, where many people help her defeat her challenges. Both Elie and the mother help to prove a common theme between the two passages.
Then the fates will know you as we know you”-Abbé Faria Life has it 's ups and downs. What is important to know is how to react in a constructive fashion to your problems, so you won 't make that same mistake again. “Die? Oh, no,” he exclaimed -- “not die now, after having lived and suffered so long and so much! Die?
Sadly I can’t go back and manipulate things to the way I wished them to happen, but what I can do change the future. Although, I know that I will make more mistakes and have some bad days, as long as, I let those things go, I know I will be the best I can be so I can help the team to the best of my ability. I try not to regret the things that have happened to me in my life, whether it is making a bad choice, saying the wrong thing, not doing something I should have done, or something that happened to me. These things have given me the knowledge I have today. I learn and grow with each choice I make.
“Infuse your life with action. Don't wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope.
However, if individuals fail to accept their past may result in experiencing guilt or depression. They tend to regret their life choices and feel their life was meaningless (Torges, Stewart, & Duncan, 2008). This regret can result in despair which will have a negative impact on the
“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could've, would've happened... or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the f*** on” (Tupac Shakur). People, who play the guessing game on why certain injuries, emotional or physical, happen, tend to hold negative feelings for their own situation. These individuals should strive to correspond with the aphorism to, “Write injuries in dust, benefits in marble”. An individual living by this aphorism should consider their injuries in their past, and they should come back from those injuries stronger than they were, continue to strive towards their successes, and let go of their past failures and hold on to their silver linings.
You have to learn from those moments just like Jeannette and I did. Jeannette and I might not have the same exact life, but we have one thing in common. We learn and live for the moments. We both have a mother and father that want us to be someone better than ourselves. We both will show our parents, we are who we are and if they do not accept that, then they should not come to us when we are good and making money.
As the old saying goes, “forgive and forget”. Unfortunately, that is easier said than done. However, digging deep down and finding a way to let go of the ill feelings that are created by someone’s wrong doings, or what is perceived as such, can be liberating. Harboring such anger and animosity can be nearly crippling. Freeing those negative feelings allows one to experience peace and joy that cannot be achieved with such upset in not only the head, but also the
Memories help you remember the past and help you make decisions.
However, there is a positive side of grief if one looks for it. It is growth. One may grow in various ways out of loss and grief. Months or years after the grief experience when one has recovered from the emotional devastation, one can see traces of growth as a result of going through a painful experience. Some people are able to see positive changes as a result of the unfortunate situation.
Memories are a key aspect in life because they affect our behavior, help us recall events that have happened in life, and last help us learn. Furthermore memories are the events we have experienced in life and due to these experiences they take a toll on a person’s behavior. We may perceive a person has negative or pessimistic but without knowing them we can not assume their personality.
Everyone holds a place in their heart where they find themselves the happiest, the most comfortable, and the most themselves. What is your special place? One place where I find I can clear my mind and let go of everything is the cold setting of the Rim Park volleyball courts. The countless hours that I spend within the complex remind me of what I have been through during provincials, and reminds me of the many things that contribute to make my special place a whole. When I reflect on the place I love most, there are many characteristics that bring it all together and make my place so unique.