Socio-linguist Deborah Tannen illustrates that communication differences within men and women in “Sex, Lies and Conversation: Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other.” Tannen provides an anecdote to describe the same conversational problems that happen on married couples. Tannen states different communication styles of men and women cause misunderstanding or even ruin their marriage. Tannen also provides the solution of understanding “cross-cultural” differences can improve male and female relationship. In the first half of her essay, Tannen illustrates men and women communicate differently since they are raised at a young age. Little girls exchange their secrets to retain their friendship.
Tannen wrote in her essay Sex, Lies and Conversation about how men and women are raised differently, the problems that arise with cross gender communication, and ultimately what the solution is to fix this problem. How a person is raised will have an impact on what kind of person he or she will become. Women and men are raised in different social groups and their behavior is proof of this. “Little girls create and maintain friendships by exchanging secrets,” wrote Debra Tannen (404). As girls grow up they continue to view
In the article “ ‘Bossy’ is More Than a Word to Women” Tannen explains about a campaign called ban bossy. Ban “bossy” is a campaign to make it so women and girls are no longer called bossy for reasons other than trying to speak their mind without softening the words. Women and girls are often called “bossy” because they tell others what to do. The problem with that is girls and boys often speak different “languages”, which enables a girl to seem bossy. Boys often speak in a way as girls do but get different responses from it.
In the article “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” written Deborah Tannen, she states and discusses the differences between men and women communication and refers to it as cross-cultural communication. Females think intimacy and talking are the biggest parts of a relationship, males think less talking and more doing are the biggest parts of a relationship. Different genders have different listening strategies. Females face each other, make strong eye contact while talking about one subject. When males talk they sit angled from one another and their eyes wander the room when talking about multiple subjects.
Women tend to look at whoever she’s speaking to in their eyes, face to face, without any distractions often giving listener noises such as mhm, uhuh, and yeah; she likes the listener’s full attention. Men on the other hand, tend to bounce from subject to subject, not looking at the person they are speaking to, and curiously looking around. Men often find that women’s listener noises are frustrating and one man even complained that his wife only had one view of looking at something, that when he tried to show her another way, she got mad at
His eyes were so shifting, so leering and slippery; the slight cast made one unsure of the direction of his gaze” (Carter, 1967, p. 54). Constructing female identity in light of the male gaze prevents them of forming their real identities and marginalizes female to a sexual tool that satisfying male; Beauvoir argues that the social and cultural norms, which support males, allow female constructing only their stereotypical gender representations; female are expected to belong to male, “she is nothing other than what man decides, she is this called the other"(, 1949, p. 26). Melanie, who is inquisitive about having sexual relationship, turns to change her mind; she recognizes that this experience seems to prevent her from establishing her real gender identity. The sexual relationship that male and female seek reveals the sexual dependent of male and female, which affects the process of gender identity formation and prevents individuals of having an authentic gender
This female’s feelings ranged from an angry animosity to adoration for the former lover. Kizer used the moment to give readers a sense of the hidden inner thoughts of the scorned woman. As the reader, it is quite obvious that during this verbal exchange of former lovers, the woman has internal struggles with her feelings towards someone she used to be so close to. She wants so badly to hate him, but underneath she harbors residual feelings for him. She repeatedly has to talk her inner self down from wanting this man, as she tells her “Down, girl!
Tannen gives evidence of how men and women respond differently during conversation: “Linguist Lynette Hirschman found that women make more listening sounds such as ‘mhm,’ ‘uhuh,’ and ‘yeah,’ to show ‘I’m with you.’” Men prefer to give silent attention, which women are not accustomed to and may percieve this silence as the men not listening. Tannen points out that since these habits are so different, it can be frustrating, which I agree with. Both people in the relationship tend to complain about the other person’s habits, and this can ruin the relationship, which Tannen shows examples of. If this difference in habit is not communicated within the relationship, it will never be solved and could possibly lead to divorce. This is easy to understand with the examples Tannen shares and feels very relatable and simple since she breaks it
Due to Katherina’s harsh tongue, which previously is the reason for being called a “shrew”, the phrase condemning women who think outwardly “muddy,ill-seeming, thick, bereft of beauty” would have each word being emphasized strongly portraying her feisty attitude and intense feelings towards her personal ideals and the people who believe the opposite. Further clarifying the choice for shorter outburst like ways to say these negative attributes she is associating with women who think outwards of her ideas. 3.The scene portrays a different side to Katherina not seen throughout the entire play. Initially Katherina is seen to look down upon men, hence the reason for her refusal to marry. Not only has
Including the gender difference perspective, created by society that gender differences separate a fine line between men and women. Woman’s norms, costumes and expectations for their gender greatly differ from men’s. There are different values and characteristics associated with being a woman, and as a reason for why men and woman experience the world differently. Women are viewed as solf care takers who are emotional, submissive, creatures that are often seen as sexual instruments for men. While on the other hand men are thought to be tough aggressive workers.