Respectively each mother from The Joy Luck Club feels pain from the cultural separation between herself and her daughter. In Lisa See’s novel Dreams of Joy it is the daughter that suddenly wants to reconnect with her Chinese roots, even though she is an American born. Nevertheless, the pain from both emotional and physical separation
As discussed in the previous chapter, cultural and language barrier have caused serious obstacles for the mothers and daughters. Not being able to see and think from each other’s perspective blocks the path to effective communication which result in silence between them. The focus of this chapter is to analysis in details of Jing-mei’s change after her mother’s death and her trip to China to meet her lost sisters, which symbolizes that her split identity is healed and her relationship with her mother is reconciled as well. The mother-daughter relationships between the other mothers and daughters in The Joy Luck Club will also be studied When Jing-mei is young, she is the same as the other three daughters - an outsider of their mothers’ world. She laughs at her mother’s “fractured English” and she “[grows] impatient” when her mother speaks Chinese (40).
For instance, when she took the children to her church, she acted very different around her friends and family, than she does when she’s at the Finch’s household. Seeing the way Calpurnia acts, Scout begins to wonder why Calpurnia acts different when she is with her friends and family. Scout now realizes that Calpurnia has life outside of the Finch house. “That Calpurnia led a modest double life never dawned on me. The idea that she had a separate existence outside our household was a novel one, to say nothing of her having command of two languages” (Lee 138).
Zhenyi bravely rebelled against the sexist customs of the day by daring to educate herself, and others. She was born into the late 1700s in China, a hard time for anyone to be educated, but especially for women. Ignoring this, Zhenyi spent much in her time in her grandfather’s library.
At least I thought so. Your mom was just a little girl once too. As for me, it does not seem like my mom feels compassion for my thoughts or feelings. It is almost like she cannot relate to anything I go through. Parents say they are "just preparing you for the outside world," and while that may be their duty, sometimes their harsh teachings can end up ruining your outlook on the concept of family and love.
The adjustment for this alternate environment considerably changed her views on life (Michaelson). The life she lived in China was completely different from the life she began to take on in San Francisco. Although Fae’s family and her had ample opportunities to make a name for themselves in the United States, it was still hard for her to turn her back on her hometown and as well as her other family members. When she moved to the states with her 2 sisters and mother, they were unaware of the extreme culture shock they would face. In addition to the culture shock, they would then face a traumatizing death in the family.
These stages are derived from Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’ (as cited in Ziolko, 1991) five stages of grieving. Drotar et al., (as cited in Case, 2000) supports the stage model for adaption and acceptance, while also comparing it to reactions commonly associated with the grieving period. These stages do not necessarily happen in any particular order and parents may experience more than one stage at a time (Case, 2000). The parent we are working with throughout this case study seems to be going through some of these stages. At first, the child’s mother was in complete denial about the child’s disability, even withdrawing him from public school as a way to avoid administrative pressure to sign an Individualized Education Plan (IEP).
As she only had a “brute” of a father and a “weak” mother, it would have been hard for Veronica to look up to any role models. Despite her father’s abusive nature and the responsibility of raising her siblings on her shoulders, Veronica still managed to stay faithful to her family and even jeopardized her chances of making something of herself for them. As she has never seen anything aside from her family, all she would aspire to is having a family of her own as that is all she has ever known. This partly explains why, later, she refuses to leave the village with Okeke. This also contributes to her life being labelled as a “terrible waste” because she probably did not have any outlandish aspirations as a small child and, consequently, could not form “regular” aspirations as a young adult.
Furthermore education is a lack of things that some people don’t have in parts of the world In third world countries,people don’t really think that girls shouldn’t have an education some believe that she should stand by her husband and stay raising his children also help with cooking. But these girls try their best to stay in school girls with no education are 3 times as likely to marry by 18. Girls tend to drop out of school during the prep of the wedding or shortly after the wedding because she has to tend to her husband and her duties as a
Another theme that is visible throughout the story is that people tend to lie in order to cover themselves and to hide the different side of the same story. The theme is supported by Dawn’s observations of her mother. Even though she is young, she is still old enough to understand what is going on to some extent. She is confused about why her mother is not mentioning herself mourning Janie’s death, and her finding the five-dollar bill in Janie’s pocket . She is wondering why her mother is not mad at her for bribing Janie into accompanying her on the trip.