Figure 1 Macoby and Martin’s simplification of parenting styles as seen in Bee’s The Growing Child (Source: Adapted from Macoby & Martin, 1983, Fifure 2, p.39.). Parents only want what’s good for their children and for them to grow intro great adults, for their children to be independent and to be able to undergo hardships. There are quite a few advantages of being over protective parents. Because over protecting parents control their children’s decisions and day to day activities, they are able to monitor their children and ensure their safety (Overprotective Parents, n.d.). Being over protective also helps the child to learn to limit himself and to control their emotions. Children have the urge to mimic their parents when they reach four …show more content…
As mentioned previously, a significant number of parents emphasize the use of punishment to ensure total obedience and submission of the child. Most overprotective parents discipline their child through physical punishment and only a few acknowledge the use of explaining and reasoning with the child. The following is a statement of a father and his experience and opinion in punishments: After punishment [such as spanking], we believe we should always end up reconciled, with a hug and a kiss, and the situation is over. No matter what the situation is or what the punishment is, we always love them afterward. As a matter of fact we show more love toward them after we have punished them. We don’t detract from the severity of the situation, but we want them to know they are not rejected, we still love them very much (Influences on Parent Behavior, p. …show more content…
According to Kentucky Department for Public Health, teens whose parents are more involved with them and know what they do in their free time are more likely to have higher self-confidence, better academic standing and veer away from negative behavior. Positive parental involvement takes time, patience and the skills because it means being available and catering to the child whenever they are in need of attention but it will surely pay off in the future. One great step to becoming involved with the child is to have family dinners which give both parent and child room for conversation in a familiar environment (Drinkworth, Positive & Negative Influences of Parents on their Children). One father stated his goal in parenting this
Parents have a large impact on their children's lives, and depending on what type of parent they are, the child will act differently in the
When I was younger I could tell the difference between the overprotected children and the under-protected children quite easily. You could see that the overprotected children were more anxious, scared, and nervous about socializing, especially in school. The children are not at fault for this issue that seems to come up. This tends to be the fault of the children’s parents. Parent’s whole lives tend to be revolved around their children.
In the article “No Spanking, No Time-out, No Problems”, Olga Khazan uses many rhetorical strategies to support and persuade her audience. That traditional punishment methods of parents will not change a child’s/children’s unruly behavior overall, but positive reinforcement will increase the chances of better behavior not only now, but in the future as well. “Positive reinforcement is the presentation of a pleasurable consequence following a behavior” (Craighead). This twist to traditional discipline teaches children to work towards a resolution instead of teaching them to lean toward violence. “For example, the way that parents discipline their children is how children discipline their peers” (Khazan).
As Karen Stephens (2007) said parent play a major role in how children turn out. Parent should try to use teaching method to help children to development a sense of responsibility. Also, parent should have more than one strategies to raise a child. The way you respond to a child’s manipulation as a baby sets the tone of the rest of the life together. In my opinion, parents should try to avoid spanking because those children are going to do the same thing on their siblings, their classmate or their friends.
Discipline causes children to center their consideration and outrage toward an “unfair” parent, maybe than on learning upon their claim
I think parenting should have risks and this over-protective parenting style is affecting the children. Children now don 't know how to think for themselves and do things on their own because their parents are always there to baby them. The author of "The Revolution Will Not Be Supervised" absolutely has the right idea when it comes to parenting. If parents took a step back and let their children handle their own problems, the children in today 's world would function totally differently. This article has definitely changed my point of view on parenting, and I hope parents get the opportunity to read this article and actually follow through with changing their
Positive parents- child relationship, or healthy social skills for success in life” ( “ Corporal Punishment is ineffective and Abusive”). When kids get abused they get scared and they are scared to do anything in the fear of what will happen. Kids get scared so much and they don't want to talk or communicate with anyone. “ More disturbingly, the study also found a link between spanking and antisocial behavior aggression, mental health problems and cognitive disabilities-- effects that continue into adulthood” (Perry).Spanking found to have many problems so kids won't develop with this problem if the parents don't physically punish the kids. Many kids feel alone and scared.
Spare The Child, He’s learning Growing up in a household of 15, 10 being children under 14, there wasn’t enough time and space for timeouts and physical punishment just wasn’t effective for each different child. ‘A Case Against Spanking’ by Brendan Smith and ‘Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child’ by Leonard Pitts, are two articles expressing their different views on corporal punishment. Even though physical punishment is an immortal disagreement, ‘The Case Against Spanking’, gave efficient evidence and strongly address opposing views to support no physical punishment. My grandmother enforced spanking like it was in the bible.
Spanking can be effective when a child is not listening to a parent. If a child isn’t following proper rules and disregarding their parents’ statement, then a spanking can enforce a form of respect that the child has to follow (Jasmine, 2015). It can be an awakening to reality as the child could now think of how their actions are deviant. Parents that don’t resolve to spanking as the first and only method of discipline is essential for both the parents and the child. I believe a parent should always try to enforce rules by talking and showing examples of how deviant actions are frowned upon.
According to parenting.com, 94% of three and four-year-olds have been spanked at least once during this past year, 74% of mothers believe spanking is acceptable for kids ages one to three, and 61% of parents say they use spanking as the main form of punishment for their children (O'Callaghan, 2014). As seen through these statistics, it is obvious that the majority of parents do spank their kids. However, there are various factors that play into the spanking being done such as the region of the country, family income, and race, and religion. Children in the south are more likely to get spanked, lower income means more spanking, African-American mothers tend to spank their kids more than other ethnic groups, and parents strong religious beliefs spank more than those who are less (O'Callaghan, 2014). It is very clear that spanking is a form of punishment parents use on their child(ren).
Permissive parenting makes the child friendly but at the same time it makes them stubborn too where areas, uninvolved parenting spoils the child and makes them more mature that their peers. Try to be friendlier with the child but at the same time be firm with them. Try to understand them but don’t let them take advantage of this understanding
For many, spanking a kid is deemed to be one of the best ways to raise a kid. Since the previous generations, also known as the older generations were raised this mode, many accredit that applying the almost exact same method on their kids can lead these youngsters to learn and grow straight, therefore expecting that a spanked kid will aftermath in a prospective society with future gracefully informed and well educated adults. However, corporal punishments aren’t indeed the appropriate way neither the best solution to deal with the misbehavior of a little bairn. Spanking a kid, whether it’s with bare hands or a flat object, may lead some kids to actually rebel against their family.
Many people think that the reason for this is easily described as “if you hold the reins too tight, the horse will buck.” Over punishing a child can be a bad thing, it will make the child want to retaliate more so than if one were to cut a little slack. However, under punishing a child can be bad as well, not teaching a child right from wrong can majorly increase the odds of the child doing the wrong thing. Reasons that parents give for spanking their children are to make children listen better, and to encourage better behavior, especially to put a stop to children's aggressive behaviors. Research shows, however, that spanking, or indeed any form of physical punishment, tends to have the opposite effect.
Children who are raised with plenty of love and care are usually creative and have high academic results so they can get pleasing jobs. By the courage and support from their parents, they try to achieve their dreams. On the way to success, they will meet troubles, but their parents, who understand them clearly, will always be ready to help them when they need. If parenting is your concern, then try being permissive, it might bring more benefits than you
Parents continue to use spanking when disciplining their child without realizes how they are affecting their child’s future. Parents have the right to determine the methods they want to use when raising their children, however, parents should be well educated on the effects of the parenting techniques they