For a child to grow up having a bright future, it is necessary that from a young age, he or she develops a healthy childhood as well as being raised in a healthy family structure. Every child should have the right to be raised in a healthy family structure and the ideal one is being raised by a mother (female) and a father (male). Being raised by the same-sex parenting is harmful, complicated, and confusing for children, although it is already confusing for them the idea that people of the same-sex are getting married. Children can be comparable to little sponges that absorb everything they observe or hear, especially by their parent’s actions. Their earliest exposure to what it means to be male or female comes from their parents; for example, they see their father shaving as well as their mother applying makeup on her face. Parents’ genders teach children the gender role they have in the world. Children with an ideal family have the opportunity to relate to both sexes. On the other hand, same-sex parenting is harmful to children because it is very limited for them and also they tend to be more likely to be sexually confused and the psychological help must be required for them.
When children are not allowed to do things on their own, they can not fully grow, which can cause problems for their futures. When children with overprotective parents are finally given some freedom that “freedom can lead to greater risk-taking behavior for children of overprotective parents… Teens often test the boundaries of their overprotective parents because these children have likely not developed a sense of responsibility for their actions.” (Hewitt). When children feel like they have been caged all their lives they tend to go crazy when they finally have freedom. This is because they do not have the experience and can not handle themselves responsibly. By giving children a small amount of freedom at a young age, and slowly adding more you are allowing them to interact in “Skill-building activities, such as many physical, learning, and creative endeavors, not only provide stimulating challenges, but can simultaneously build strong brain pathways.” ("Teens and Decision Making: What Brain Science Reveals"). Because children are able to stimulate their brain, they can learn some new things that can help them along in the future. A child should be able to have an amount of freedom, no matter how big or small it is it allows them to feel independent and helps them to grow up into great people. When a child grows up without that feeling of independence, that can cause them to be dependent on their parents for everything. In a worst case scenario, they could be so
I do not believe that to raise a well-discipline child you need to use physical discipline. I thing that one of the most basic ways we can raise your children is simply by being a good role model for them. As Karen Stephens (2007) said parent play a major role in how children turn out. Parent should try to use teaching method to help children to development a sense of responsibility. Also, parent should have more than one strategies to raise a child. The way you respond to a child’s manipulation as a baby sets the tone of the rest of the life together. In my opinion, parents should try to avoid spanking because those children are going to do the same thing on their siblings, their classmate or their friends. Those children who discipline with physical are more likely to become more aggressive and
Spanking is a form of discipline that parents use towards their children when they are doing something that is deviant. However there are both pros and cons when it comes to spanking a child. A study done by Murray Strauss was conducted to see if spanking increased antisocial behavior in children. A total of 807 mothers, with children ages 6 to 9, were chosen in the study (Strauss, Sugarman, & Giles-Sims, 1997). The results showed that 45% of mothers that spank their children do it around 2.1 times a week (Strauss, Sugarman, & Giles-Sims, 1997). As the years progressed and the spanking continued, Antisocial Behavior tended to worsen as well. The study also found that when parents reduced their tendency of spanking, Antisocial Behaviors tended
Many people think that the reason for this is easily described as “if you hold the reins too tight, the horse will buck.” Over punishing a child can be a bad thing, it will make the child want to retaliate more so than if one were to cut a little slack. However, under punishing a child can be bad as well, not teaching a child right from wrong can majorly increase the odds of the child doing the wrong thing. Reasons that parents give for spanking their children are to make children listen better, and to encourage better behavior, especially to put a stop to children's aggressive behaviors. Research shows, however, that spanking, or indeed any form of physical punishment, tends to have the opposite effect. Children who are physically punished more often tend to obey parents less with time, and to develop more aggressive behaviors, including toward other
"The Revolution Will Not Be Supervised" by Hannah Rosin is an article written for The Atlantic and is about parenting. The article is in the subject of how overprotective parenting has changed our kids over the past few decades. In my opinion, parenting should not be as overprotective as it is now, and kids are suffering from this. This article is very well written and there are definitely parts I both agree and disagree on. The statement, "The idea was that kids should face what, to them, seem like "really dangerous risks" and conquer them alone. That, she said, is what builds self-confidence and courage" (page 2). I agree with this statement completely. Kids need to be able to take risks and feel danger. If kids never take risks, they won 't be very successful in life in general. To stand out, you need to take risks, and playing it safe doesn 't always work. Also, the statement, "Trust in general has eroded, and parents have sought to control more closely what they can: their children," (page 5). People now are nowhere close to people in the 1970 's. They are just not as close with each other. For example, I don 't even know my next-door neighbors ' names. I feel as though in this world today, we 've looked to the term "community" as something that 's on our phone screens, and not
While it is becoming common knowledge spanking has negative impacts on the emotional and psychological health of children, the practice still endures in American society. This is because our society regards the practice as one rooted in the saying, “Spare the rod, spoil the child.” In addition, this concept of discipline is believed by some to be a means of teaching a child their place in the world. Though this phrase and system derives from Judeo-Christian faith, in modern times it has become a senseless punishment tradition. The way in which religious customs turn into pointless ideologies or means to obtain the upper hand is frightening. As seen in “The Lottery,” by Shirley Jackson and, “A Good Man is Hard to Find,” by Flannery O’Connor,
From my own personal experiences, some unruly children only respect a firm spanking with the law prohibiting this practice of parenting it can cause children to go down the wrong path because they don’t have the proper respect for their parents which is where children are supposed to learn respect for an authoritative figure. As the snippet of the comment from Allison, 2014 would suggest it is necessary to spank a child this is evident when the text states “Many of the parenting books that dismissed spanking as wrong pushed that a parent should reason with a child. However, science has proven that due to brain development, it is impossible to reason with a four-year-old. A four-year-old is still developing the concept of cause-and-effect and the beginnings of understanding empathy. Only discipline, causing pain to the four-year-old (and by pain, I do not necessarily mean physical pain) teaches him/her what is allowed.” This comment backs what I stated about a child learning to respect authority. From a more scientific approach in a Newsweek article that followed a nurturing study related to spankings conducted by Drs. Jennifer Lansford and Ken Dodge revealed some insightful details on the effect on corporal punishment in early age development this is apparent when the article states
“Ohana means family, and family means no one gets left behind” (Lilo, Lilo and Stitch). Family, one of the few things in life that you are born with. Family, your one safe place when it may feel like the world is against you. Family, and parents in particular, are always there to look out for you. They do a lot for you, from when you’re born all the way up to until you leave the house and start living on your own. Good parenting skills are essential to put children on the right track. Whether it’s being there when they’re going through a rough time in life or helping with picking out the right college, their impact is huge on their child’s life, for the moment at hand and for the individual's future.
The foundation and idea of a consequence for a wrongful action sets down a ground basis which enables the child to gain an idea of “right” from “wrong” at such a young age. However, using physical discipline can only make a problem worse. When I was young, my real father had a lot of anger issues. There were days where my father would come home and would simply find things to get mad about and take it out on my little brother and I. All this did for my brother and I was create ultimate fear towards our father. It caused us to never be defiant or raise our voice towards him. As many people may see the ultimate obedience as a positive affect, what was it like for me growing up in fear of my father? Well I’ll tell you, it wasn’t good. An article about Child Discipline stated “While it may teach a child what not to do, it fails to teach a child what is expected of him or her and what is an alternate behavior”(Straus, Sugarman,, & Giles-Sims). Many parents struggle with the idea of what the perfect discipline is or what the perfect parenting overall is and what we should do to be able to focus on strategies that would overall help our parenting
For many, spanking a kid is deemed to be one of the best ways to raise a kid. Since the previous generations, also known as the older generations were raised this mode, many accredit that applying the almost exact same method on their kids can lead these youngsters to learn and grow straight, therefore expecting that a spanked kid will aftermath in a prospective society with future gracefully informed and well educated adults. However, corporal punishments aren’t indeed the appropriate way neither the best solution to deal with the misbehavior of a little bairn.
Each year three hundred thousand to six hundred thousand children are victims of child abuse. Of those children forty percent of those victims are five years old or younger (Berger, G. ). Not everyone has the same opinions about child discipline. On one side of the debate are those people, mostly parents, who feel that any kind of violence, including a slap on the hand or spanking, is harmful (Berger, G.). Parents on the other side of the debate however feel that strict discipline - up to and including corporal punishment such as beating - is necessary to prevent children from growing up “spoiled” (Berger, G.). A 2014 survey showed that a majority of parents say they approve spanking their children. For he past two decades these numbers have
Instantly, several parents are struggling to find a way to raise their children effectively. Permissive parenting is one of their choices. Being permissive is treating children with plenty of love, caring and nurturing but not much authorities, rules or punishments. They might make their children lack of self-control or aggressive, but alongside with these disadvantages, there are also numerous benefits. Permissive parenting helps children to be successful, have the courage to achieve their dreams and gives parents greater understanding of their children.
Some parents believe that children’s behavior is improved when spanking is used as a form of punishment. They believe that spanking is the most effective, and that the feeling of pain causes children to remember not to perform the same behavior again, according to Matt Walsh. Jessica Pauline states that spanking is not a correct form of punishment, and there are other options such as a timeout, or a favorite toy being taken away from the children. Doing these activities instead of spanking teach the same lesson, but instead it
This article states that physical punishment can lead to an increase in aggression and mental health problems. “It’s a very controversial area even though the research is extremely telling and very clear and consistent about the negative effects on children,” says Sandra Graham-Bermann, PhD, a psychology professor and principal investigator for the Child Violence and Trauma Laboratory at the University of Michigan. 30 countries have already banned all physical punishment. This law is used also to educate parents of other effective ways to discipline children. With plenty of ethos support, Smith stated, “There are indirect changes in how children think and feel about things.” This article also strongly addressed opposing views. There is a lack in positive studies about physical punishment but hundreds of studies with negative outcomes.