Preston Sprinkle goes into great detail on this issue in his book “Born this Way.” In defining the subject Sprinkle takes time to remind us that the sin occurs when someone acts out upon their lusts or entertains their lusts in their mind. Having certain feelings doesn’t make one guilty. How we entertain those thoughts does? This is certainly true outside of the homosexual debate.
Heterosexuals deal with lust as much as homosexuals. To have a thought is not of itself sinful. How that thought is entertained will determine whether that thought becomes sinful. Will I give in to my lusts or will I bring them captive to Christ? A person can identify therefore as homosexual but not give in to their lusts and live a godly life, just as a single man can live a Christian life and wrestle with heterosexual thoughts.
So how ought we to approach those who are dealing with homosexual tendencies, thoughts or even living a homosexual lifestyle? With the same respect and love we would for anyone else!
As complex and divisive as the issue can be if we are willing to live gospel-centered then we will approach others with respect. We do this because our goal is that they would be born again. Sexual preference as both Preston Sprinkle and Dr. Albert Mohler point out do not define a person’s whole life. We would never define a heterosexual person by their sexual preference or by their sins. We shouldn’t do that to the homsexual community either. So we need to begin with a healthy respect