The role of parents in a child’s life is an irreplaceable one. Children are shaped by what they see their parents do and how they see them act. Children can choose to pattern themselves after what they see their parents do or they can choose to avoid being like their parents. In the story ‘Ashes’ by Susan Beth Pfeffer, Recent research shows, fathers affect the lives of their young adult daughters in intriguing and occasionally surprising ways. Ashes’ father can be mostly described as a good parent. Ashes’ father possess qualities that could justified him as a good parent rather than a bad one. Most of the things that make him a bad parent are things he can’t help or that take some time to fix, such as poverty and debt. What makes him a bad
District Common Assessment Essay Ashleigh lives a rough life with tough decisions. In the short story, “Ashes” by Susan Beth Pfeffer, it’s winter and Ashleigh had to decide whether she should take money from her mom’s emergency pot for her dad or just keep it there for her mom. Ashleigh’s parents are divorced, so she doesn’t know what her punishment will be for which ever side she will pick. Ashleigh decides to take the money because she wants to make her dad happy, her mom doesn’t appreciate her as much as her dad, and her dad needs it for something that will let him go far in life.
Father’s have a great amount of influence on their kids, especially on their sons, because they look up to them as role models. Having someone to teach them all about manhood, resourcefulness etc. Although some father’s are absent in a kids life and some are not always there, and some may struggle to provide for their kids, and giving them what they need., Fathers all want the best for their kids, even if that means that they we’re never there physically in their life or are not always there. And as children get older they may develop some hatred towards their father for not being there, Having an understanding and a reason to why they had did what they did, and those kids will eventually realize that after their father that
Ashes feels that her father is “like a warm day in January” (Pfeffer 1), he's the kind of person to always be there at the right time and surprises you with happiness. Ashes father always tells her she is “One in a million”(Pfeffer 2) and to not “let anyone ever tell you otherwise”(Pfeffer 2) because he cares about and loves ashes even and believes that she too should engage in following her dreams even if she might not succeed, she might need the confidence. Ashes and her father get along better than her and her mother, she even goes as far as saying “I wouldn't have any other dad” because all of her friends dads “they just tell my friends to study more”, ashes is happy that she and her dad are like best friends and not just formal like her friends and their dads. Ashes believed in her dad and trust he will keep his promise. Ashes was influenced by her father, she and her mother never had a secure relationship and ashes believes in her father and his dreams, ashes stole the money from her mother's teapot.
We all desire the warmth of feeling special and loved, especially from our parents, but at what point is our desire no longer a playful hope, and turns into a conflicting argument? Ashleigh, or Ashes as her father calls her, is the teenage protagonist in the short story, “Ashes”, by Susan Beth Pfeffer. She is stuck between wanting to believe in her dad’s love for her and knowing deep down inside herself that she is being manipulated. Her dad is the dreamer and her mom is the “level headed” one. In the story, Ashes must decide whether to “borrow” her mother’s money for her dad, finding herself in a spot where her integrity pushes her to do what is wrong.
Almost everyone, if not everyone, has been in a sticky situation like Ashleigh’s in nearing the end of “Ashes,” by Susan Beth Pfeffer. Ashleigh’s parents got divorced, when she was still young, because her dad is a very childish man. Her dad owes two hundred dollars, because he lost a bet to some people. Ashleigh’s father and mother used to live together, and the father knows about a teapot that hold a couple hundred dollars at Ashleigh’s mom’s apartment. Ashleigh will take the money from the teapot and give it to her dad, because she doesn’t want to let him down, her father makes her feels sorry for him, and her father makes promises to her.
In preparation for this paper I chose to read Fire in the ashes: twenty five years among the poorest children in America by Jonathan Kozol. In this book Kozol has followed these children and their family’s lives for the past twenty five years. In his writing Kozol portrays a point of view most from his background and standing would not be capable of having. He portrays what life is like for those who have been let down by the system that was meant to protect them. Kozols writing style can be very blunt at times, not for shock value, but for the sake of portraying these children’s realities, and not sugarcoating the inequalities that they are faced with.
Poetry is a language of creation and can be a powerful literary form of self-expression. Jesse Thistle, the author of From the Ashes, includes poetry throughout his memoir to share his emotional and inspiring story of overcoming addiction and homelessness. He has now become an author and a rising Indigenous scholar. Thistle begins the memoir with the poem " A Little Boy's Dream," introducing the theme of suicide and displaying Thistle's struggles with his family.
Acording to the website .www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/, more than 50% of marriages end in divorce, which is the seperation of two parents, and Ashleigh and her parents from the article Ashes by Susan Pfeffer, is apart of that 50%. One of the only differences that Ashleigh’s mom and dad have, though, is that Ashleigh’s dad has a debt of $200.00, which he doesn’t have, and resorts to using Ashleigh’s mom’s emergency money, which is located in a teapot at her apartment. Ashleigh is asked from her dad to take the money from the teapot and give it to her dad, or to stay in the apartment if her mom is home and after 10 minutes Ashleigh 's dad will leave the apartment. Though Ashleigh loves her dad, she will probably not steal the
Throughout the life of a child, they experience life lessons and they widley observe their parents behaviour. Children learn what is considered right and wrong and ultimately, become a manifestation of whoever raised them. Although fictional characters are simply fiction, they easily portray the lessons children go through everyday. Characters within media have shown at least one parental figure in their lives that have impacted them somehow. Atticus Finch, the father of Scout and Jem Finch in Harper Lee’s
One of the main personality traits showing in Ashes’ dad in the story is manipulation. On multiple occasions, he tries to butter Ashes up to get her to do what he wants. “‘You look radiant,’ he said. ‘You get more and more beautiful.’ I was wearing jeans and a bulky brown sweater that Mom had given me for Christmas.”
When you Know it Have you ever had to make a decision where no matter what you do, it’s still going to end badly? Susan Beth Pfeffer, the author of “Life as we Knew it,” has left an incredible cliffhanger. In “Ashes,” Ashleigh has to steal from her mom to help her dad. Her other option, which is to not steal, which will help her mom, but her dad will get in even more trouble than he already is. In the end though, Ashleigh chooses to help her dad because he spends the most time with her, he’s having Ashleigh steal to help the mom, and she looks up to him.
Best of the Worst Parenting is never perfect. Every parents questions whether they are raising their child correctly, and no parent ever feels like they are doing the right thing. With no clear distinction between good and bad parenting, it is usually left to personal preferences and judgements to decide which parents have adequately raised their children and which have failed. When a parent so call “fails,” often it is the children with their strong will and determination to survive that collectively raise themselves. In Jesmyn Ward’s Sing, Unburied, Sing, Leonie, one of the narrators and the mother of another narrator, Jojo, is not the most caring, hands-on mother, but is loving of her children nevertheless.
All children have a unique and personal bond with their parents. Whether or not a parent is always present in child’s life, they always manage to have some type of impact on their child’s life. Loung Ung’s father had an extremely profound impact on her life as well as the rest of her family. Without even reading her memoir, First They Killed My Father, you can discern from the title that Loung Ung’s father played a crucial role in her upbringing. Sadly you can also gather from the title that Loung’s father is dead which implies that Loung did not have an exceptionally happy childhood.
We all tend to have issues with our dads, but we are sometimes ignorant of the benefits of being with dad. Two authors discuss their relationships in each of their respective essays: Brad Manning with “Arm Wrestling with My Father” and Sarah Vowell with “Shooting Dad.” I will be comparing/contrasting he essays on: the conflict each author had with their dad, the feelings that encompassed from it, and the outcome of their relationships. To begin, Manning talks about his frustrations with his dad. He would always beat Manning in arm wrestling, and would take every opportunity to fix Manning’s physical skills.
Hello Yilun, I enjoyed your post. To talk more about the remains in the ashes after cremation, I found a website that talks more about this. In the website, it mentions that the cremation process destroys all traces of organic, carbon-based matter and all bodily fluids escape through the cremator's exhaust. As you mentioned, human ashes do not present any health hazard to the environment. After cremation, the only thing remaining of the body is part of the skeletal structure and some small amounts of salts and minerals.