Marriage: What Does It Mean Today?
They Didn’t Want an Arranged Marriage by Lavanya Ramanathan and Saying “I Love You” by Kyle Waltman present the reader with the different views they have about the ways a romantic relationship should impact a life. In the essays both authors express their mindfulness about how society has developed flawed notions about how love should enrich life. Ramathan and Waltman have similar opinions about how society has come to understand romantic love wrongly, however have conflicting ideas about what love is. They Didn’t Want an Arranged Marriage and Saying “I Love You” asks the reader to consider the ever evolving relationship between marriage and love; both present the equally insightful yet contrasting ideals
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Ramathan’s outlines how her ideals were instilled in her by both her culture, and her personal observations. Ramanathan begins her essay by utilizing a storyline style to illustrate the love story of Sahil and Devi Rajans.Ramathan quotes Devi writing “Once she shed her reservations, Mehta realized Rajan “understands my family, my siblings, my world,” she said. But there’s more. “I feel happy and loved and fulfilled, because he makes me feel that way.”(pg.352).This excerpt was of particular importance because it gives the reader insight about what resulted from a marriage that was originally built on convenience. Additionally, to the Rajan’s Ramathan cites an additional observation, her very own parents. Ramathan references a conversation with her mother noting “It was all we knew,” my mother said. She had seen so many good marriages, she trusted the system would work for her.” (pg.352). Ramathan expresses in this excerpt another reason many people agree to arranged marriages is because of the culture and the positive results they had seen other couples get from it. Lastly Ramathan appealed to logos and provided a credible source and a study to strengthen her argument. Ramathan cites “She found that 10 years into the relationships, satisfaction and passion among the couples …show more content…
Waltman wrote “To say “I love you” is to say “I choose you today, tomorrow, and every day thereafter because you are the one that I want.” To say “I love you” is to say “I see the good and the bad in you, and still, I choose you.” To say “I love you” is to say “I choose to have these eyes for you and you only.”(pg.351).This excerpt serves as an example to what the whole essay was like. Walton accomplished one of the things I love about English, that someone could write lines like that and make me feel so out rightly moved without having to really dissect what it means or critically analyze
There are two major types of marriages in the world, arranged and love marriages. An arranged marriage is when a partner for one of the individuals is chosen by their family, and no love is usually involved. A love marriage on the other hand is when two individuals choose to marry each other because of the love they share for each other. A successful marriage is when both individuals can love, care, trust, and are happy with each other even through the ups and downs. Even though arranged marriages have their pros such as lower suicide and teen pregnancy rates, love marriages are more successful than arranged marriages because the individuals actually love each other from the start, there is the freedom of choosing their own spouse, and there
Cornelius Eady’s “I’m a Fool to Love You,” provides a simple message of the blues by using different metaphors and similes. Feeling blue, in regard to love, is not a feeling that is lost on many people. Eady exemplifies these blues by using metaphors that create the perfect illustration of what the blues are. The words in this poem are placed in a way to make the reader remember how they felt when they went through these blues.
Freelance writer in New York City, Polly Shulman, in her article, “Great Expectations,” commences the article by integrating a short description of the word “marriage,” which the definition of marriage has modified over time. She develops her credibility by citing specific psychologists, implying that Shulman was committed to her particular topic (Ethos). This is also followed by the repetition of the word soul mate, which the clarity increases overtime. In addition, Shulman employs the logical appeal by incorporating a percentage of divorce rate and historical evidence of divorce-law reforms, which leads her to form a generalization or conclusion of the particular topic.
Robert Nozick gives quite a clear and relatively detached explanation of romantic love, its main purposes, and elements, as well as its limitations in his Love Bonds essay. I his view romantic love has three principal elements that must be present. According to Nozick, the first feature is a sense that well-being of one of the partners is directly “tied up” with another’s. In other words, when good or bad things happen to the person one loves, they indirectly happen to another partner. Furthermore, Nozick considers that both partners must abandon some of their autonomy.
It is evident that marriage is full of ups and downs, but the way couples manage these fluctuations in their relationship determines the strength of their connection. Both partners in a committed relationship must feel the same way and work equally as hard to push through potential obstacles. Being devoted to the relationship can ensure that the marriage will be able to survive the hardships and maintain a healthy, successful marriage. The emotional hardships and positives that a married couple endures on a daily basis are presented throughout the entirety of the poem, “Marriage”, by Gregory Corso. Corso’s poem explores the pressures and factors that influence marriage and sheds light on Updike’s short story about a couple facing divorce.
“The young couple Rita and Deepak married when their parents chose their lifelong partners. They say that their marriage is great. Studies show that arranged marriages come out to be great in the long run. They also show that 40-50% of all American marriages end in divorce because they don’t always work out for the couple” (Modern Lessons from Arranged Marriages 1). Arranged marriages could be healthier for the children than regular traditional marriages because of all the parent involvement going into
“The Beauty of Different Perspectives” Marriage is a milestone that many people want to experience in their lifetime. In comparing and contrasting two different authors’ perspectives, one can learn to appreciate the different views and opinions of others. The following poems involve two very different perspectives, yet they are the same in regards to the topic of marriage. The view in “To My Dear and Loving Husband” by Bradstreet is very different compared to “Marriage” by Corso.
The film The Namesake’s most significant impression on me was how Ashima and Ashoke remarkably influenced their marriage to work through exceptionally intense conditions. They did not have any acquaintance with each other yet after a meeting over tea, they are hitched and moving all over the world in love. Their way of life did not condone separation from marriage, and thus they needed to influence theirs to work. They grew an affection for each other. It immensely influenced me to consider the separation rates in the United States and the number of divorces that we see from individuals surrendering from sustaining their relational unions.
NAME- AMANDEEP KAUR STUDENT NUMBER- A01060475 DEFINATION ESSAY A) DEFINE MARRIAGE.
Arranged marriage is a controversial practice in many cultures around the world. However, studies have found that roughly 85 percent of Indians prefer to engage in this tradition, and have a higher rate of marrital success than a marriage based on personal choice. (Dholakia, 4) Yet, even considering these statistics, it remains a concept that is met with dissapproval, thought to be archaic and demeaning to those involved. Chittra Banerjee Divakaruni’s short story Clothes depicts a young woman transition, from being obliged to follow this cultural norm, and the shifts in her mentality throughout this process. It is not unreasonable for the reader to view the protagonist, Sumita, to be a victim of this presumably inhumane practice.
This contrast on marriage is touched upon by many other sources
However, Rama and Sita’s marriage, which composes the bulk of the epic, overshadows Ahalya’s story to provide a vision of passionate, forgiving, and loving Hindu marriage. Rama, the “ideal man,” and Sita, the “ideal woman,” are models for all Hindus, and their marriage is no different. Their story emphasizes the positivity of both men’s and women’s feelings and sexuality, encourages peaceful negotiation between partners, and presents husband and wife as needing each other
The song "Give the Love Around" by The Script displays numerous sociological concept in the context of its lyrics. The song expresses the needs to spread the love around to stop or lessen the continuum of negative things from generation to the next in a family institution. Instead of circulating negative things in the cycle the song encourages love in its place. In the beginning of the song where he says, "evil comes from the top and it spreads right round", it refers to Karl Marx 's economic structure, where the upper-class have control over the working class.
According to this theory, nature of love is changing fundamentally and it can create either opportunities for democracy or chaos in life (Beck & Beck- Gernsheim, 1995). Love, family and personal freedom are three key elements in this theory. This theory states that the guidelines, rules and traditions which used to rule personal relationships have changed. “Individuals are now confronted with an endless series of choices as part of constructing, adjusting, improving or dissolving the unions they form with others” (Giddens, 2006). For instance, marriage nowadays depends on the willingness of the couples rather than for economic purposes or the urge to form family.
Is there really a need to be married anymore? Does marriage actually benefit your relationship, or is it an outdated institution that we’ll be better off without? In this speech, I’ll convince you that marriage is a thing of the past, and that society’s views on marriage have changed enough in the past decade that marriage really isn’t necessary anymore. One of the main purposes of marriage is to maintain a permanent relationship, but nowadays marriage doesn’t lead to a permanent relationship due to the increase of divorce rates.