In "Are We Having Sex Now or What?" by Greta Christina, she addresses many different definitions and criteria for what she thinks sex is or should be labeled as. She starts by thinking about and conceptualizing what sex actually is. She goes and performs her own tests on what sex is like for her with many different people. Originally, she only accounts for the binary and traditional sex which is between a man and a woman. But she realizes this isn't good enough. She not only wants her definition to include all couples, but she also wants to show how sex changes people and the relationship they are in. It isn't something to be taken lightly, and always alters the relationship no matter what, either bringing people closer together, or pushing them apart. Lastly the final part she wants to …show more content…
She thinks the line between these two things is hard to distinguish, because there is a misconception that if someone is being sexual that they must automatically want sex, which isn't always the case. So, in order to create her definition and really outline what sex is she felt she needed to encompass these three things. Her first definition which she later rejects is that in order for an act to be considered sex, it must be a "conscious, consenting, mutually acknowledged pursuit of shared sexual pleasure" (Christina 6). She came to this conclusion because her original thoughts were based on heterosexual relationships only, but after experiencing same sex love, she needed to reframe her mind and think about sex for all people and all relationships. She thinks back to every sexual encounter she's ever had not just intercourse and feels she needs to include any touching or dry-humping, etc. because she thinks
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She then mentions how transgenders feel excluded due to the use of the words “women” and “vagina”, and how women are standing up for themselves and their body anatomy. She quotes how when actress Martha Plimpton was criticized for defending the word “vagina” Plimpton responded by saying, “given that without a vagina, there is no pregnancy or abortion?” (❡ 21). This is of
"Gender is such a familiar part of daily life that it usually takes a deliberate disruption of our expectations of how women and men are supposed to act to pay attention to how it is produced"(The Social Construction of Gender 65). This tells us that once someone does something out of the "norm" then we start to conceive ideas of what gender is and how it is produced. Once something is done out of what we were taught and perceived to believe is right we then frown upon these actions. Our genitalia is often used as an indicator of which sex we belong to. The reading also talks about gender stratification and how it ranks men above women.
Other readings have discussed the history of sexuality—A history of Latina/o Sexualities. Throughout history, women were supposed to be passive. Women were there to please the man and ofter were viewed as the inferior. Sex was viewed as something that was essential only for reproduction; it was only to be pleasurable during a marriage and through very strict guidelines set by the church. This is still an influential way which women are being treated today.
Inside and beyond the myth and the social impact of the subject as One or Substance. Alan H. Goldman’s essay ‘Plain Sex’ is a central contribution to the academic debate about sex within the analytic area, which has been developing since the second half of the ‘90s in Western countries. Goldman’s purpose is encouraging debate on the concept of sex without moral, social and cultural implications or superstitious superstructures. He attempts to define “sexual desire” and “sexual activity” in its simplest terms, by discovering the common factor of all sexual events, i.e. “the desire for physical contact with another person’s body and for the pleasure which such contact produces; sexual activity is activity which tends to fulfill such desire of the agent” (Goldman, A., 1977, p 40).
For Goodness Sex, by Al Vernacchio, is a welcome relief from the two previous books; Girls & Sex and Man Interrupted, as the focus is about sexuality as a whole; gender, sexual orientation, etc., rather than on the culture of females and males. In a chapter titled “Gender Myths,” Vernacchio (2014) asks the question, “male and female, is that all there is” (Vernacchio, A., p. 112, 2014)? In teaching his class on Sexuality and Society, Vernacchio asks these questions and questions similar, demonstrating that he takes into consideration that there are feelings at stake and keeps in mind the human aspect of sex and sexuality as he is intentionally behind challenging students to foresee and develop their sense of values about sex, instead of constantly being “in the moment.”
The title of the book “Virgins” communicates more than the first sexual act. It depicts the inability to make personal decisions without basing off other people’s opinions and beliefs. The story is an analysis of the progression of two females and their interaction with men. Though different, each girl has a different perception of sexual anatomy and hence Evans is able to communicate his message that virginity or sexuality is something that is a sole decision of someone despite whether they have had vaginal sex or not. Throughout the story, Erica is unsure with men.
Moreover, this restriction on expressing sexuality encourages passive behavior amongst women. In addition, linking a woman’s ethics to her body reinforces the double standard related to sexuality between men and women. Ultimately, being sexual is “stigmatized in women, but encouraged in men” (Heldman, Part 2). This double standard, combined with the expectations of passivity, reinforces the concept of rape culture. Women are expected to refrain from sex in order to embody purity and thus, are defined by what they do not do.
What makes this a feminist statement is that Calixta has no reason to do this as she is not in a unhappy marriage nor does she have genuine feelings for Alcee. From the beginning of The Storm, readers acknowledge Bobinot’s devotion to Calixta as he purchases her favorite snacks and helps in cleaning. This shows there was no brutish husband involved. Since Alcee and Calixta weren't true lovers to begin with, it's clear that the sexual encounter was a purely physical experience.
One could argue that the partner practicing intercourse with females is exactly what the text says it to be, a beastly animal while there is also the possibility that Gerald was referring to the male society based on their disgusting views of
In order to be emotionally ready for sex, a person needs to understand their own needs and reflect on what they value. A scale that determines sexual experience’s morality on a case to case basis encourage the type of reflection that would prepare on an individual for sex. Green also notes that “sexual involvement may be of great and sometimes traumatic significance to the other.” The new system does not change the sex is a big deal and can have a large effect on a human’s emotional state. With this new freedom and flexibility, new burdens arise.
CHIVALRY IS DEAD IN MODERN MEN The term “chivalry” emerged around the 10th century A.D. in France, referring to the medieval institution of knighthood that developed between 1170 and 1220. The code of chivalry back then represented a combination of Christian and military ideas of morality. As time progressed, the real meaning of the word disappeared and was mated with the fancies of love that resulted in a new definition that stressed on social and moral values. Chivalry got romanticized.
In modern music, women are often portrayed as sexual objects and are the targets of rape culture, and this has become a regular occurrence, leaving people to not see the wrong in it anymore. The song I have chosen to analyze, Blurred Lines, by Robin Thicke, featuring T.I. and Pharrell Williams was released in 2013. It talks about a woman who has been “domesticated” by her partner and behaves like a stereotypical “good girl”, while Thicke is saying that there is nothing wrong with exploring her more adventurous sexual side by having sex with Thicke, even though she already has a partner. He cannot let her get away, and assumes that she wants him, even if she says she does not. I believe this song is written around the idea that women are mere objects that claim to not want sex when they “really do”, in the eyes of men, ignoring the idea of consent, which is unacceptable.
But, what exactly sex education is? Sex education is the process of developing in young people’s skill so that they can have a clear idea and can make their own choice based on the knowledge they have gained about the sex. Sex education is the process of obtaining information and forming attitudes and intimacy. We live in such society where beliefs about everything have been rooted by superstitious norms and values.
It suggests that all men will generally enjoy the same thing while all women will not wish to consume porn. This informs the misleading ideologies that are often present in culture about sexuality. In studying the misleading conceptions of sex, often supported and established by the porn industry, a dimension of sexuality can be examined in defining culture. When we dig into what we consider erotic or sexual and our emotion’s impact on that, we are inevitably analyzing culture and what it