Spanking Makes a Parent Wrong, Not a Misbehaved Child Despite being commonly practiced throughout society, spanking remains a highly controversial topic. Spanking is analogous to abuse in nature- it involves inflicting pain (usually by hand) onto the rear of a child in response to socially unacceptable behavior. A 2013 study conducted by The Harris Poll revealed horrifying statistics that eighty-one percent of Americans believe it is “sometimes appropriate” to spank their children (Corso) in order to establish discipline. Although this is believed by many parents to promote good behavior, it in fact does the opposite.
One piece of evidence to support my claim is a passage from bell hooks’ essay Childhood Love Lessons. hook makes a point that studies showed that that males and females who were violently humiliated and abused repeatedly, with no caring intervention, were likely to be dysfunctional and will be predisposed to abuse others violently (hook 15). This piece of evidence shows that we are shaping the way how our children will react and do certain things in their future. They will learn different meanings of love and discipline than other kids will. By the parents or abuser, the kids will learn that this is the only or right way to discipline a child so this will happen to their children.
A big problem in the system that they fail to see is abuse. Abuse can be done emotionally, sexually and physically also mistreatment and neglect, all done by these certified state caregivers. Liftingtheevil.org cites the "troubling statistics from one study, claiming that over 28% of the children in state care are abused while in the system"(2017). There are many stories of abuse, and the abuse comes from the foster parents. We expect the children to be placed in safe homes.
As I watched the documentary “Road Beyond Abuse,” I experienced a whirlwind of emotions. From disgusted and disappointed to impressed and joyful, I felt it all. It truly disturbed me to hear about the experiences both Michael McCain and Johnnetta McSwain endured. I was disgusted that no one protected these innocent children from being verbally abused, beaten, raped, and left to fend for themselves. It was shocking to hear that these children withstood this amount of abuse from their family members until they were teenagers.
If the child is not receiving a corporal punishment and just occasionally a parent is in their right to do what they saw as appropriate. These are a weak point because does source any reliable data that stat the psychological aspect of children being spanked. He also does not he is biased on the information he is present in the article. Section #3 Dear Mr. Ponnuru, Even though you make some great points in your column on “In reality, spanking your child doesn’t make you a monster” I would have to contradict your claims.
My fight that is when a child is placed in a foster home that the people taking the kid in are checked into to see if they are going to treat the child properly. I chose this topic because it bothers me deeply that foster children aren’t treated correct. I mean, if anything they should be treated better because the people taking care of them don’t know what happened to them in their lives and the parents are there to take care of this child. Instead, they are just taking advantage of them and telling them to do stuff they do not want to do. Foster children are just like any other child and they should treated like it.
Do you enjoy holidays with friends and family? Do you get a lot of gifts? Unfortunately, many foster children would answer “no” to these questions. Many foster children were mistreated before entering foster care. These children not only need to cope with the trauma or neglect they may have faced in their pasts, but they need to adapt to their new foster environments.
When my grandmother called me, I’d say, ‘Yes ma’am.’ I wanted to say, ‘Why do you hit me? Am I really a bad child? Why do you treat me like I’m not part of your family?’” As I’m reading his story he has a very remarkable story in my opinion, and he’s a perfect reason we need to change this system.
When an incident such as abuse occurs, child welfare systems are given a huge opportunity to step in and give these children their basic needs back. “The child welfare system is a group of services designed to promote the well-being of children by ensuring safety, achieving permanency, and strengthening families to successfully care for their children.” (National Center for Homeless Education, 2007; Pg.3). The irony in that definition is that most children in welfare systems are not safe and neither do most children attain permanency. Child welfare systems are a dangerous place for young children to enter.
Parents believe their children are angels and therefore deserve credit even though they do nothing to earn it. This ideology results in children being raised to believe that they are able to cheat and get away with it. These children continue to be babied by their parents, which allows them to rely on them to deal with the challenges they face. Thus when they are challenged they either give up or take the easy way out, such as lying and cheating. Pelton resigned solely because her students complained to their parents, who then decided to defend their students who were already in the wrong.
Sarah Forsyth was tragically exposed to sexual abuse by a trusted family member and many safe foster homes. In Sarah’s case we don 't know if her mother was part of Sarah’s life, therefore one absent thing in Sarah’s life was having a family member or a person to trust. If Sarah had someone she could consult with and explain the abuse she was facing at home, the abuse might have stopped sooner. Sarah was also abused in many of the foster homes she was placed.
• Psychodynamic Theories The Psychodynamic theory explains child abuse as a “parental dysfunction.” Followers of this theory such as B.F. Steele (1987) stated that ‘the abusive parents submit their children to traumatic experiences similar to those they had endured during childhood.” Therefore, child abuse is explained as a cycle due to the parent having experienced such behaviours from their parents as a child, hence now displays similar behaviours to their child as a parent. • The Sociological Theories There has been much agreement with Steele’s approach, however, it has been criticized to the extent that abuse against children is not necessarily only due to the parents’ experiences as a child but the abuse of children can also be as a