In a male dominated society, women are forced to conform to the moulds that have been prescribed for them. When they do not fit into the categories that have been defined for them, they face ultimate rejection and suffer the consequences of non-conformity. This male dictated view of women is evident in the writings of 19th Century women writers who unconsciously view society through the perspectives that have been imprinted in their minds by society. A case in point is Kate Chopin through her work, Desiree’s Baby which chronicles the tale of an abandoned baby that is raised by a wealthy couple, the Valmonde’s. They were childless and raised her lovingly as their own.
She is allowed to sit unbothered with two kids and she needs to utilize each chance to supply fundamental needs both for herself and for her kids. Conditions make ladies submit to their fathers or jobless men; they acknowledge their destiny when they fall pregnant and submit to their lovers or husbands. For instance, Mrs. Brown does not have a spouse to deal with her and kids, to help her in making a decent living, to give her passionate backing. That is the reason she feels as though she must be as one with Arthur and her sweetheart, despite the fact that she some of the time can 't stand his scent or feels nauseated when she shares the bed to him:
In the 1930’s, women were supposed to stay at home and do chores while their husbands were away, and then wait on them when they returned. Curley’s wife felt that her family was holding her back from her dreams, and the only possible way that she could find out of her situation was marriage. Because she was a woman, she could not just go to Hollywood herself and demand an audition, or confront her parents, which seems almost silly now but was a real issue back in the thirties. Curley’s wife is more outgoing than most women, and she is rewarded with names
‘You can run away, but you cannot escape the fact that I am your mother…’” (Kincaid 95). Since Lucy believes that her mother is a victim of a patriarchal system, she wants to disassociate herself from her mother and the submissiveness she represents. She also feels betrayed by her mother because her mother encouraged Lucy’s brothers to become successful and independent, while failing to defend her gender and expecting Lucy to become a nurse - a subordinate position – instead of a doctor, implying that Lucy is meant to take instructions and submit to the patriarchal rule that is a feature of the neocolonial system. Since Lucy expects her mother to be loyal to her gender and empower her, it bothers her that her mother wants nothing more than a nursing job for her. She is also angry at her mother for marrying her father, and not pursuing a grander goal that would defy society’s
Janie does not love Logan, but believes that with time she will fal in love with him. From Logan, Janie learns that marriage and love cannot be planned or arranged. This is different from what her grandmother believes. She discovers that it takes work, effort, and a lot of attention to maintain a happy and healthy marriage. Janie ran away from Logan to marry her second husband, Joe.
Jane Austen Marriage is a paramount concern. Marriage is not only a personal question but rather it affects the whole social group, because marriage is just not a matter of love or companionship, but much more than that. It is a political, social and economic alliance between two people, and their families. One of the chief characteristics of Sense and Sensibility is the lack of a father figure, at that time the father’s used to take decisions on the future marriage of their daughters. In the absence of the father, mothers had some authority to do so.
However what Nea does not understand in all her youth and idealism , is that sourdi does not want to be saved: She willfully accepts her fate and her marriage to Mr.Chhay because she finds financial stability and a secure future. Since the beginning of the story Nea believes that she is saving or protecting Sourdi from the expectations of her mother and Mr. Chhay. The mother and the uncle have fix a marriage with an older man named Mr.Chhay. Sourdi is a young girl that has a boyfriend name Duke, But her mom really dosen’t cares what Sourdi thinks or wants. So Sourdi meets Mr.chhay and she feels uncomfortable in the
The latter quote is clear evidence that people should not leave it to others to inform them of how certain concepts in life work. Janie listened to her grandmother’s ideas about love and went into her first marriage enormously unguided. In the end she felt very disappointed with her marriage to Logan, but nonetheless, she was able to learn that marriage and love were not always synonymous. If Janie would have never experienced marriage herself, it is very possible that she would have remained ignorant to the fact that a marriage between two individuals does not result in love every time. People should learn from Janie’s experience about witnessing and living things for themselves instead of just trusting the opinions and beliefs of
Both woman tried to advance at the peak of motherhood while tending to a family of children. However, Tillie Olsen viewed motherhood as a hindrance to her success. She allowed herself to indulge in self-pity, at times seeming regretful to her parenting position. Although she never swayed from her mothering duties, an image of depression marks her character and a jealousy towards the male class is portrayed, as she relates in her story: "But where it is forced because of the circumstances for the sex into which one is born – a choice men of the same class do not have to make in order to do their work." In contrast, Anne Tyler, while assuming the identical role of a mother with similar obstacles in her career advancement, accepted her destiny and embraced it with love and a sense of fulfillment, as quoted in her essay: "They may have slowed down my writing for a while... after all who else do you have to love, no matter what?"
According to Patria one of the three sisters involved in the movement, states that she and her other sisters were not willing to offer their family for the revolution until Minerva did “But Minerva, your own child- I began and then I saw it did hurt her to make this sacrifice she was convinced she needed to make” (Alvarez, 155). Patria’s compelling words show the determination of Minerva to end the sadistic presidency. Minerva doesn’t not want to give up her child but she does so for what she believes in. Such determination leads to worthiness of the sister’s sacrifices. Dede, the only sister who survived insists that she would have joined her sisters but she couldn’t because of her husband “Even so that night, her ears still ringing from Jaimito’s shout, Dedé had been ready to risk her life.