Arranged Marriage vs. Free Marriage Generally marriage is a significantly hard decision and affect all aspects of our lives. Moreover, all the marriage will not be successful with a happy ending. Choosing your spouse and married free with love is popular and legal in many countries and Arranged marriage in which parents choose who you can marry are two types of marriages. Both systems have benefits and drawbacks, but deciding about your life and choosing your partner seems more logical and natural. With marriage freely people have a chance to know each other better before marriage, understand their partners’ priority, and last but not the least they can marry with love.
In her work Sense and Sensibility Jane Austen is closely looking at the injustice done to women, and she is especially rejecting the idea of Marriage for money rather than love. Austen also did not agree that women should depend on men for economic-financial protection, thus as not to look kindly on patriarchy and the merging of interests of the upper class and middle class. Convenience marriage was common. Women were deprived of the freedom to earn or inherit money. So marriage for them was a safety net which will save them from a life of poverty and despair; thus, women felt that the only way to achieve social fulfilment was to compete on the marriage market, where Men were the buyers; women were the sellers.
4.0 Personal Angle by Fatima Baram Alkali Fatima Ba’aram Alkali is one of the emerging female writers from Northern Nigeria writing in English. In Personal Angle, she delves headlong into problems encountered in modern day marriages prominent amongst which include lack of fulfillment in marriages as exemplified by Zaria. Zaria, her heroin is wife of Balarabe Jr., the eldest son of the late patriarch Alhaji Balarabe. She has been married to Alhaji Balarabe Jr. for over a year but rarely meets intimately with her husband. She does not find fulfillment in marriage as a result.
Living Unhappy in marriage will affect both the husband and the wife badly, it can hurt them more than do them good, some times divorce is the best solution. In India divorce rate is low maybe because the women is afraid of getting divorce so she continue living her life unhappy, or she could be afraid of the reaction of her family and in some places people do not get divorced because they fear of what their society will say about them
To some extent this may be true but love marriage couples can uproot the unfair traditions like dowry with their mutual consent because they own the independence to decide for their own and the understanding that has been built up between them can curb this customs among families. Likewise, they have the authority to limit the extra spends in wedding that today causes huge problems. These traditions can even affect their marital life for a long period of time after the wedding and can grow hate in any side toward the other side’s family. In love marriage may couples sometimes do not have families support at their side but they can get along anyway because there is the understanding between them that make both side agree for the little things they own to make a happy and satisfactory life for
are many social rules surrounding marriage and individuals are under enormous pressure to marry within their caste and religion, though almost all prefer to marry within their community on the belief that they share common beliefs and practices. To break such rules could cost the support of family, friends and community, a heavy price in such a community oriented society. According to sociologist Lynette Clemetson, the relative lack of support, that inter-cultural couples might receive from friends and family in the initial period of their relationship, can give rise to trust issues between them, later which makes the relationship difficult. (www.loveinindia.co.in). This is what Mrs. Mehra was afraid of and she desperately takes Lata from Brahmpur to Calcutta where her son Arun Mehra is living.
She moves in with her lover, continued to live with him disregarding any future consequences. Also, her lover doesn't and can't fathom any sense out of her mother possible disapproval if she eventually knows about it. He calls it irrational. Furthermore, the lady in the second story seems not to be in tune with her culture. She wants something new and different.
Love is a myth, I don’t believe in love as it gives us hope and that hope will destroy our life. In the story Eveline written by James Joyce it portrays love as an illusion and an opportunity to escape from her troubled life, the story also represents the symbol of epiphany as Eveline realized that she must leave with Frank to create a fresh start for her life but she realize that going with Frank can also drown her new life. Human emotions and responsibility also are being pointed out in the story; she did not go with Frank because of her own promise to her mother and also the memories of happiness that she got from her family. This creates a circle of indecision that relate with how people are still stuck with responsibility and memories from the past that will affect their future decision, most of the time in real life situation the path to escape created by love usually overcome our rational minds but in the story Eveline prevail. The story
Since the marriages in the novel tend to be forced, they are not likely to be influenced by love. For Nana, the prospect of marriage was ruined by a ‘jinn.’ She remembers the lost prospect fondly. Mariam finds hope in her marriage as something that could lead to contentment and possibly to love, but the marriage actually devolves into abuse and oppression. Only Laila escapes the abusive bonds placed