There are two major types of marriages in the world, arranged and love marriages. An arranged marriage is when a partner for one of the individuals is chosen by their family, and no love is usually involved. A love marriage on the other hand is when two individuals choose to marry each other because of the love they share for each other. A successful marriage is when both individuals can love, care, trust, and are happy with each other even through the ups and downs. Even though arranged marriages have their pros such as lower suicide and teen pregnancy rates, love marriages are more successful than arranged marriages because the individuals actually love each other from the start, there is the freedom of choosing their own spouse, and there
However, today there is growing awareness of how harmful they can be, especially for young women. Arranged marriages lack the element of love and mutual consent, leading to a lack of normalcy for young women. This part of my essay will talk about the dangers of arranged marriages for young women. Firstly, arranged marriages restrict young women’s freedom of choice. In many cases, young women are forced into marriages against their will, often for the sake of financial gain or to maintain social status.
The Varied Perspectives of Marriage Introduction What couple do you think of when you hear the word marriage? What does marriage mean to you? What makes a couple ready for marriage? The majority of people’s perception of marriage is influenced by their mother and father’s relationship, as well as by the marriages of the relatives they grew up with. Marriage is the legal bonding of two individuals dedicated to loving each other through sickness and health.
Arranged marriages are not a new concept, having been around since the ancient times, nor are they extinct in today’s world. The general idea behind it is guaranteeing the parents’ choice of a spouse for their children and they take into account multiple variables when choosing a potential mate for their children. “The Family” by Alessandra Strozzi reveals the behind the scenes of a proposed arranged marriage in the Italian Renaissance. While today, it seems silly to Western civilizations to have arranged marriages, doing so in that period was common. Whether it was for convenience, power or just simply keeping up the prestige of the family, we know of these types of marriages occurred through these documents.
Women often marry older men in arranged marriages, because their family wants them to marry wealthy. What they don’t mention is the frustration and fear some women have, when married to these men. “The Leaving” written by Budge Wilson is a short story of a mother and daughter named: Elizabeth and Sylvie. Sylvie lives with her mother (Elizabeth), father and her four brothers in Nova Scotia. Sylvie and her mother are treated with no respect in their household.
Also, arranged marriages from the parents decrease the chance of any physical or mental abuse. The author states, “The global divorce rate for arranged marriages was six percent compared to the fifty-five percent of normal marriages” (page2). This statement from the author proves that arranged marriages can and will last longer than a normal relationship. The claims that I have stated are a lot stronger than this one because the statistics here are not always proven every year throughout the world.
In India almost all weddings are arranged by parents; As Nanda mentions, “I must let my parents choose a boy for me because here we have a chance to enjoy our life and let our parents to do this work and warring for us” (479), a quote from an educated Indian girl. But in the US, American parents rarely arrange the marriage their children. Nanda compares and contrasts
Arranged marriage is a controversial practice in many cultures around the world. However, studies have found that roughly 85 percent of Indians prefer to engage in this tradition, and have a higher rate of marrital success than a marriage based on personal choice. (Dholakia, 4) Yet, even considering these statistics, it remains a concept that is met with dissapproval, thought to be archaic and demeaning to those involved. Chittra Banerjee Divakaruni’s short story Clothes depicts a young woman transition, from being obliged to follow this cultural norm, and the shifts in her mentality throughout this process. It is not unreasonable for the reader to view the protagonist, Sumita, to be a victim of this presumably inhumane practice.
Women are told that they should feel lucky if a man chooses to marry them. We see an example of an arranged marriage in the film when we are introduced to Darshini, who is the first daughter in law and Sita who is the second daughter in law to Dadi. Darshini and Sita had arranged marriages with Dadi 's two sons. The process of Darshini and Sita being arranged into marriage is that both of the women were forced to leave their homes and start their new lives in Dadi’s home. Inside the household, the film shows some of the aspects of the daily lives of the daughter-in -laws.
The family plays a huge role in the wedding ceremony and as such, the bride and groom are described as part of their families coming together and accepting one another. Cultures that are high in institutional collectivism try and make decisions that is best for the group rather than the individual person (Lustig & Koester, 2013). Since the marriages are often arranged by the families, they make decisions that are in the best interest of the family. This is different from when an individual choices for themselves a spouse because they do so based on their own interest, not often taking into account the interest of their
Hindus don't believe in arranged marriage. Although this may be true, in some parts of India forced marriage still exists. Additionally UNICEF stated that 48% of women in South Asian are forced to be married before they are 18. Not only are the being forced into marriage but are being forced to marry men older than them( UNICEF also states that the average age difference in arranged marriages is that the male is 4.5 years older). Not only can people be forced into an arranged marriage but so can you do children.
Marriage is an important institution in a society and although there have been changes in the trend of marriage pattern, it is still very clear that marriage still matters. Marriage exists and its main aim is to bring two people together to form a union, where a man and a woman leave their families and join together to become one where they often start their own family. Sociologists are mostly interested in the relationship between marriage and family as they form the key structures in a society. The key interest on the correlation between marriage and family is because marriages are historically regarded as the institutions that create a family while families are on the other hand the very basic unit upon which our societies are founded on.