Augusten Burroughs 'How To Identify Love Knowing What It's Not'

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Know What Relationship Your In In “How to identify Love Knowing What it’s Not” Augusten Burroughs provides a definition of abuse that is more nuanced than physical harm. The formal definition of abuse is the improper usage or treatment of an entity, often to unfairly or improperly gain benefit. There are many different types of abuse and the essay touches base on four different types. Abuse is a spectrum that ranges from controlling, to emotional abuse, to physical abuse. For instance, controlling abuse is the way that an abusive person gains and maintains power and control over the person. In the essay it states “An abusive partner is controlling. They are manipulative. They might make a special point of coyly sharing information that they actually know will upset you”. In other words the person wants to get under your skin about anything. There is no support within the relationship that you have with that person. As in the essay of the married couple Burroughs knew of and how the wife left the husband. She also moved out the house but left her dog with him. Months went by without any type of communication on her dog but an email she received saying that the dog had a health problem and he…show more content…
Abusers always want things to get better but for some it never will. Some people don’t even recognize that they are in a abuse relationship, and if they do recognize they are still dealing with it because most likely their is a kid involved. If you think your in a domestic violence relationship contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline or you can think about the things I mention earlier and see is anything relates to you and your relationship. “Don’t let your loyalty become slavery. If they don’t appreciate what you bring to the table… then let them eat alone” - Anonymous. This is a quote that I personally remember because you can’t disrespect yourself. THEY ARE ALWAYS SORRY REMEMBER
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