Being A Quiet Person

A wise man once said: “ you can choose your words, but you cannot choose the effect that they can have on people”. It’s funny how some people might think that they are asking very standard and normal questions, but the very specific questions that they ask may be a bit annoying to others because they simply point out the obvious, or they may even be offensive sometimes. Even though people don’t do that on purpose, they should take a minute to think what they say through, because these unintentionally silly questions could make others feel insecure or odd which, eventually, hurts their feelings. So when I encounter one of these weird questions, I always have two possible ways to reply: the first is just an awkward smile, and the second is a

If someone is funny, shy, sensitive or God knows what, it’s because they simply are. You can’t just walk up to someone and be like: so how did you become so enthusiastic? Except, I actually get asked such questions. Being a quiet person myself, some certain people love to keep on asking me why I’m so shy. It seems like they mistaken shyness with just being quiet. I am not shy, I just don’t like talking that much, or maybe I don’t want to talk to you who knows. I am not shy because if I want to say something I will say it, and if I need anything I will ask for it, but I am just not talkative, simple as that. And this is actually one of the questions that I have an answer for: “I am not shy...I am just quiet” with a tone that makes them feel they’re stupid. I’m fed up of people asking a lot of awkward unuseful questions that annoy others or lower their self esteem. This question doesn’t actually hurt my feelings or anything but it is just so freaking annoying. When someone comments on how quiet I am, it seems to me that maybe they just don’t like my personality or somethings; not that I care, but I don’t get what’s wrong with being quiet like it doesn’t hurt anyone. But people, especially teachers, just want me to talk and express some leadership skills or whatever, but this is who I am. I don’t need to change myself because some person just thinks that I should talk more. What if I just have nothing to say. People have to say their opinions all the time even when it’s inappropriate, even when this question or comment will have an effect on the person they’re talking to. People should just put others feelings in consideration before asking such stupid questions because although it may not sound like a big deal, it