Therefore, the value of love is its ability to create a dialogue through self-realisation. Cowburn (2003) stresses that 'all love involves oneness ' (p.25), and so love is an acceptance of oneself as a whole. To be one within yourself is a base for any other relationship (Little, 1993). Thus, Kierkegaard (1962) argues that 'if anyone, therefore, refuses to learn […] how to love himself in the right way, he cannot love his neighbour either ' (p.39). In other words, love is the bases for moral growth, established through an integration of the self.
Marriage is not a necessity and people could be happier without entering this institution. Growing up in a low socioeconomic status household I was able to see the hardships my parents went through. In a society where the majority of people are in debt, my parents taught me that money is very essential to life. Society has many beliefs that it imposes on others. As an individual I have decided that I do not agree with the institution of marriage.
Love in marriage was never a thought, in fact it was unworldly. It was not necessarily a problem if the two spouses got along, or if they agreed with each other, love wasn’t a foremost necessity. Each relationship had a specific purpose, usually depicted on social status
Fidelity is the most important in marriage specially fidelity in men. Marriage doe not have the emphasis as an institution that should organize everyone’s life. Women in marriages must stay home and raised children as well they must do all the household job. Men must provide everything to the house. This is a clear sign of inequality in marriage.
In the confusion of arranged marriages where women are dealt away by the parents like cows, a true love forms against the odds and against the rules. Unfortunately, love was irrelevant during these times, and social class and monetary value were more important when it came to marriage. However, it seems that love pushes
This makes marriage more open in the sense of being able to choose versus being chosen. As the title suggests, Pride and Prejudice are a main concern for Women and their marriages. If a woman chooses to be with someone she loves, even if it means being poor, she also loses her honor within the society and even her family’s honor. In Austen’s novel, this can be seen through Lydia Bennet. She runs away with her lover, Wickham, and ruins not only her reputation - but her families as well, “Elizabeth’s power was sinking; everything must sink under such a proof of family weakness, such an assurance 3 of the deepest disgrace.
Neither the master nor the servant respected the established verticality (Baselga). Not only did Algernon do this with Lane, but he also happened to have a conflict with Jack that is another jab at the Victorian idea of morality: Jack: It is a very ungentlemanly thing to read a private cigarette case. Algernon: Oh! It is absurd to have a hard and fast rule about what one should read and what one shouldn’t. More than half of modern culture depends on what one shouldn’t read.” (Wilde 6) Wilde made fun of the Victorian idea of morality as a “rigid body of rules” whose purpose is to tell people what they should and shouldn’t do (Sparknotes, Morality) Wilde’s play offers “rather biting … criticism of the institutions and values that … made Britain the world 's greatest colonial power
It has thought me to value myself and my marriage. It has thought me how marriages back then would be based on better social status rather than for love. Marriages were arranged by social status between known family and friends; rather than based on the values you looked for in a person. The prompt was successful in changing my personal views on the topic of marriage because it reassured me in knowing that I got married for all the right reasons. The prompt has shown me how far we have come when it comes to marriages and the values that we hold dear
Women in the Victorian Era were diminished and degraded to the point of property, which is a difference from many places across the globe in modern day. Many women were referred to as “Ladies of the Estate,” a distinguished title for a role that didn’t make many women happy. A Victorian Lady of the Estate had no choice in her marriage and was expected to raise children, be as social as possible, and be virtually a servant to her husband, who in turn had complete control over her. Unmarried Victorian women often didn’t stay unmarried for long. Since it was a standard for men to provide for women, women were expected to marry.
Love is a complicated affair, it involves the two lives of the couples and the lives of everyone around them. There are many factors that could break or make a relationship, for one to be successful they must be able to succeed in all of those factors. Oscar Wilde’s The Importance of Being Earnest delves into these factors regarding love and marriage. Wilde stresses the importance of social status and gender expectations as a key guideline for a successful marriage. For Wilde, social status is defined as birth, wealth, and power.