Communication allows the couple to know what is happening within the dynamic of the family and to also express any feelings that one may have. Although a lack of effective communication is one main reason that a marriage ends, divorce often ruins all ties of communication within the family. When married, couples depend on each other for certain aspects in life like finances or other everyday responsibilities. Without the other half there to communicate and help you pay the bills on time or get the kids to practice, this is when life can start to fall apart. Divorced people do not converse like they did when married, people tend to fight and bicker more therefore causes problems for the family unit.
This happens because both parties did not know each others before marriage. They might also lose respect for their partner if they have made promises that they clearly can’t fulfill. Then, they will feel tired of both of them. In this case, an awkward situation if the couple is in an argument. Therefore, sometimes there will be a hard situation of choosing the right partner.
Because to marry includes several compromises, it is a decision that cannot be faced that easily. Nowadays young adults opt to avoid marriage not only because of the commitment it holds, they are fearing its collapse and the resulting consequences. Commonly, when a couple fail at matrimony a process of divorce takes place, and it results disgusting to almost everyone. Currently, due to fact that to forge a family can be possible in different ways evading marriage,
Sharlene (1995 ) states that there are many causes that lead to divorce. The first cause is lack of commitment. Commitment in a marriage provides safety and security so when a marriage is deprived that, couples can hardly express their feelings and thoughts openly which in the long run leads to a bad marriage. The second cause is the inability to solve disagreements and conflicts. This is mostly due to lack of good communication skills in a marriage.
Couples made a vow to each other and form a bond to live their lives together. But then, there are some instances that the bond they form was not enough to sustain their relationship forever. Many couples or married people ended up in divorce cause of many different issues like lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, early marriage, and mostly common is abuse. Divorce affects family members in many different ways. Couples who are one of the people having a divorce that has a families are facing or will be facing a very big and serious problem within the family.
This is often due to loneliness, but also to the fact that with no children to take into consideration, there is significantly less incentive to keep on fighting for the marriage. When a marriage includes children from a previous relationship, the dynamics of the blended family are far more complicated than those of a traditional family. Getting the kids to get along with your spouse and his or her children in daily life situations can be very challenging for a couple. Parenting skills and discipline might differ drastically between partners and can become a source of conflict. It is more difficult to nurture a marriage in a step-family, because from the outset you don’t get undivided “couple time”.
The idea of neglect is not a physical state, but a mental state like Mr. Lopez’s situation. A lot of times it is harder to deal with mental issues than physical issues. Mental problems lead to suicide just as easy as being physically beaten. The child or children may be being bullied but get no comfort because his parents may neglect him/her. The parents may neglect the child because they know it is their fault because of gay jokes or just forgetting them.
• Few couples want to test their compatibility before getting married to each. • Couples are anxious about the prospect of marriage. • The people are worried about the emotional turmoil that would occur after divorce. (Walton, 2012) PSYCHOLOGICAL EFFECTS OF COHABITATION Live in relationship seems like a stepping stone towards marriage but it is not. According to a research, living together can harm the relationship.
Having affair is the same as cheating on your husband or your wife behind their back. It is having a relationship with a third person without letting your spouse find out. All over the world, there are people having affair while they are still married. People usually have an affair for many reasons such as their needs whether it is psychological or sexual, are not met in marriage. For example, one lady might think that her husband does not appreciate whatever she does to please him, and she met someone else who is more appreciative and admires what she does; the lady will then go to the other man who is not her husband and will have affair because she is psychologically more satisfied or content with the one that is not her husband.
Those who cohabit before marriage have unhappier marriages and their depression rates are more than three times than those who married (Waite 1999/2000). Important values in a successful relationship such as commitment (Forste 2002) and trust also tend to be diminished. Compared to married couples, cohabitants generally do not want to take responsibility for their partner (Waite 1999/2000). Legally, cohabitants may not enjoy rights accorded to the married couples in many aspects including status, maintenance, inheritance and custody. Under Islamic law, as highlighted before, any relationship outside wedlock will not be recognized and in fact the doer will be subjected to severe punishment.