Process Essay: Lack Of Self Confidence

Self confidence comes from within. But some places mentioned that you build self confidence from with-out. Example like learning a skill, achieving a goal, dressing well or changing your physical appearance. No doubt you will improve self confidence by these methods, but you don 't get to address the cause of the lack of self confidence.

Since self confidence comes from within, you have to get to within to access it. In most books, you are asked to search outside to boost self confidence. Going outside to gain self confidence can create a gap. A gap that you won 't be able to discover what 's going on within you. You won 't be able to find out the causes of your lack of self confidence. This way your self confidence is not built on solid foundation.

True self

Do you get discourage when you are hit by failure? Do you get despair when things don 't turn out the way you want it? We all do at one point of our life. That 's because you look at failure as failure.

In 2008, I conducted a terrible workshop. After training for five years, I couldn 't believe that I screwed up that workshop. Huge failure for me. I went into my hole for two days. I learned from that experience, picked myself up, started training again.

Shift away from the belief of "failure is failure". We were taught to believe that failure is failure in school. Remember the exam result that we were afraid to receive. It affected our self confidence today.

But if you look at the successful people today, how many of them fail more than once? All of them. Though failed more than once, they continued to come back stronger and wiser.

Failure is not failure. Failure is just a feedback that something isn 't working. Having this new belief, there won 't be anymore failures in your life, there will only be feedbacks and lessons. In that case, nothing is holding you anymore, you can soar like an eagle. Just by shifting one belief, you build self confidence.

Experience