Parenting Together When You Live Apart

As a parent their duty is to be a role model for the child show the child the correct and mental stability that it is in. Becoming a role model means helping and showing guidance and support towards the child. Coming into a new home the child might have trust issues, might be shy, a little rude, scared. Depending on what has happened to the child in the past everyone has a different background story but don’t pressure the child to open up he/she will adapt differently towards other. People can’t one day wake up and think “ I want to become a foster/adoptive parent today”.

Holding a child back from who they are just because you want them to be something different will also separate you two and can affect their future happiness greatly. In the end, new parents should try their best to not be too strict with their children and need to let their child express themselves. In conclusion, my parents were a mix of authoritative and permissive with me and my three older siblings. Their mixture of parenting styles had both positive and negative influences on my behavior as child. However, I hope I am the same way with my children as my parents were with me.

Ultimately, raising children without being married can affect the child’s well-being. Infants would not know whether their parents are married or not, but they can sense their parents when they are in a bad mood. For example, infants will reveal their negative emotions such as crying and yelling (if yelling is seen in bickering of adults). Parent’s behaviors toward their child or children is important because their behaviors will reflect how a child will behave in their future. However, when children are old enough to go to school such as a child enters preschool for the first time, he or she might compare themselves to the other children in their class.

Figure 1 Macoby and Martin’s simplification of parenting styles as seen in Bee’s The Growing Child (Source: Adapted from Macoby & Martin, 1983, Fifure 2, p.39.). Parents only want what’s good for their children and for them to grow intro great adults, for their children to be independent and to be able to undergo hardships. There are quite a few advantages of being over protective parents. Because over protecting parents control their children’s decisions and day to day activities, they are able to monitor their children and ensure their safety (Overprotective Parents, n.d.). Being over protective also helps the child to learn to limit himself and to control their emotions.

Description of Four Attachments Secure attachment involved providing the child with a friendly and safe environment, regulating stable emotions while creating joyful emotions and offer possibility of positive exploration. (psychalive,2018). Ambivalent attachment is when children lack to build emotional attachment connections with the parent/caregiver and are desperate for their attention. They often face confusion, concerns, agitation and worry about receiving comfort or support from parents (psychalive, 2018). When parents grow with a specific attachment style, they will tend to react the same towards the children.

It would be great for a child to be put in a loving and caring home but now with homosexual parents. Raising a child in being homosexual may influence the child to be something they are not or even confuse the child about their own sexuality. All children follow their parent footsteps, so they do what they see. Becoming a parent it’s not easy, a parent is considered someone who is caring for you and wants the best in your life. Parents are responsible for lots of things in a child life, their responsible for their education, their well-being, decisions, safety, and the respect their child show to others.

One criterion that makes an excellent parent is that they give their children advice that is useful including but not limited to their current difficulties. The parent can give the help that the child needs but doesn’t solve the problem, allowing the child to deal with his or her own situation with the help and advice of their parents. The child can use that advice and use it for different situations and tolerate it. Another criterion that makes a satisfactory parent is that they treat their children equally and doesn’t favor one child over another because of their differences. The children will also learn to treat other people equally like how their parent did.

When considering the scenario about a parent requesting their toddler be fed instead of feeding himself because of their cultural beliefs my initial response would be to try to understand why the parent feels this way. Being empathetic to the parent’s wishes and putting myself in their shoes will help me to understand them better. I do not want to approach this situation like I know more than do or I am better qualified than they are. They are the family and the primary caretakers of the child so with any request they come to me with about their child, as a professional, I must approach the matter with care and respect. However, I want to understand why they made this request.

Picking one over the other parenting style is not the solution for me. Parenting seems to be work in progress and a parent might not know how to react to certain situations at the beginning but learns how to deal with them after gaining more experience. Reflecting on my childhood and my mother 's authoritative parenting style, I realize that the set boundaries created emotional security and trust in the relationship between my mother and I. It taught me how to evaluate situations to make adult decisions. Essentially, the authoritative parenting style was good for me.

Children learn to be responsible for their actions, it is deemed a helpful and vital trait for the youth. Parents teach their children through love and kindness. But not all types of responsibilities come with love, some emerge out of hate or a loveless relationship. Many know of an obligation to yourself as well as friends and family. These traits help humans in becoming well-rounded citizens, but often burdens like these begin to feel like a weight dragging you away from the light of a productive life.