Comparing Yourself To Others Essay

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CHAPTER 6 – COMBAT COMPARATIVE COMPETENCIES

“Comparison is an act of violence against the self.”
—Iyanla Vanzant, American lawyer, television personality, life coach, author, inspirational speaker, and New Thought spiritual teacher

In relation to the aforementioned quote, yours truly, Cyril Schultz, contends philosophically:

“Comparing yourself to others is an act of blasphemy. To start with, each of us is a creation in the likeness and image of God. It is a likeness socially, morally, and mentally.”

All of Earth’s humanity, 7.6 billion people strong, is a divine creation of respective uniqueness, destiny, and value. Each of us has a profound purpose in life, and all of us have to contribute something worthwhile through exercising our skills,
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Comparing ourselves to others is essentially a slippery slope— a dangerous course of action, which likely leads us to failure or serious trouble. Generally, it depletes joy from our lives, inhibits or limits our productivities, and introduces self-doubts.

COMMON COMPARISON TRAPS

A comparison trap is the propensity of assessing your person relative to others. Mostly assessed comparisons are personality, success, appearances or attractiveness, quality and quantity of friends, skills, talents, and other personal competencies.

Generally, upon falling into the trap, you end up creating insecurities and other negative feelings for yourself. The following are the twin mistakes we oftentimes commit, and thereby, ensnaring ourselves in comparison traps.

 Comparison Trap I: Our Weaknesses, Negatives, Faults and Failures versus Others’ Strengths, Positives, and Triumphs. Our comparisons are usually predetermined and slanted, and thus, unfair. We compare our negatives (personal aspects where people fall short and struggle to improve) to others’ positives (personal aspects where people do well and
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