Having a positive outlook on the situation can help a person get through the tough time. But “Sitting in the midst of a crisis with a blank smile on your face, repeating ‘It’s going to be fine’ is not positive thinking -- that’s unrealistic” (DiNenna). Having a positive attitude isn’t denying the problems around you, but thinking of the best possible outcome for each situation. Positive thinking is believing that something good can come out of even the worst situations. “Better coping with hardships and stress” (Mayo Foundation) is one of many benefits of being optimistic, especially when faced with struggles.
Sometimes you have to realize what you have already before wanting more. The Vignettes The House on Mango Street and Mango Says Goodbye Sometimes from the novel The House on Mango Street, both discuss a time of advent and a time of parting. A girl named Esperanza had just moved away from a living situation which she thought was horrible. Esperanza felt her new house, while nicer, was still not as nice as she thought it it would be and embarrassing. Throughout her life, Esperanza had moved from place to place not feeling happy.
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Having a positive attitude can make people less stressed during a time of conflict. According to the Clinical Practice and Epidemiology in Mental Health, “...optimists tend to use coping strategies that focalize on the problem more frequently compared to pessimists. When these strategies cannot be enacted, optimists resort to adaptive strategies that focalize on the emotions, for example, acceptance, humour and positive re-assessment of the situation.” Unlike pessimists, optimists are more equipped to unravel a dispute calmly and quickly. After people use healthy strategies, a conflict would not be as stressful as before.
She has not only lost her job, with which came her passion for helping people in her field of expertise, but she is also trapped within her house and she feels unmotivated and that her lifestyle is “meaningless in itself”. I believe she had a passion for using her talents to help people, which is why she started her own company with her husband. By losing her job, she lost this part of herself. Obviously she felt trapped by the control of the CorpSeCorps, and this is one of the reasons why she chose to run away. The isolation she experienced greatly decreases her vitality, as shown by a series of experiments done by the University of Rochester which found that “spending time outside in green, natural environments can boost your vitality—a feeling of physical and mental energy—by nearly 40%.
She writes in her diary, “You no doubt want to hear what I think of being in hiding. Well, all I can say is that I don't really know yet. I don't think I'll ever feel at home in this house, but that doesn't mean I hate it. It's more like being on vacation in some strange pension” (StudySync). Even though Anne knows she is supposed to hate the place she is at, she still manages to compare it with something happy.
First, maintaining a positive and hopeful attitude can shift the focus away from negativity in difficult situations. For instance, during World War II, Anne Frank wrote in her diary, “The Annex is an ideal place to hide in. It may be damp and lopsided, but there 's probably not a more comfortable hiding place in all of Amsterdam. No, in all of Holland” (Frank). Though living in a small attic with another family and fearing for their lives, Anne was still able to find the good in her situation.
Not following the instructions given to her by her doctor and being confined in this area has caused some sort of mental build up. The wallpaper driving her crazy, suffering a mental illness, and having such an isolated lifestyle in a house isolated from the main villages has put thoughts into her head that she believes, like being the woman in the wall. That was the effect; the cause of all of this is simply because she wanted something to do after having her whole life changed for a few months, so she went to the
Although it can be argued that optimism and courage are irrelevant to resolving conflict because the pessimist may see the conflict in a more negative way and be able to react differently, it is proven that the optimist has a better chance to resolve conflict efficiently and successfully. People can best respond to conflict with courage and optimism because optimism shows strength and positively affects the situation whereas showing fear or cowardliness adds to the conflict and makes one run away from the issue. An optimist sees the good in every situation, making the resolution more efficient and one with courage is willing to stand up to confront the issue. Optimism is a positive way to confront conflict because it shows strength and positively affects the situation. According to Forbes’ “How to Use Optimism to Defeat
The book The House On Mango Street by Sandra Cisneros is a story about a girl named Esperanza. Esperanza is happy that she is finally moving into a new house, but it is not what she expected. Esperanza is in poverty meaning she doesn't have much money. The big house she was expecting wasn't in her favor. She moved into the house on Mango Street which is also located in what seems to be a bad neighborhood.