She cannot separate Tom from his father’s memory and is so paralyzed by a fear of being left again that she talks him out of any future dreams he has. By comparing the two, Amanda takes away Tom’s individuality. Because she sees Tom as another version of her husband, he is not given a fair chance to accomplish the things he wants. He is forced to pay for what his father did, which makes it almost impossible for him to move on from the past. Amanda inflicts her pain on her son, forcing the whole family to stay in the past.
Eveline cannot leave her saddened old life to start a new one with Frank because of confliction that is presented to her. There is conflict with a promise that she had made to her mother: "remind her of the promise to her mother, her promise to keep the home together as long as she could” (Joyce). Eveline 's mother has passed away she still deals with conflict that is brought by her mother to keep the family together. Therefore, Eveline does not really have a family anymore to take care of other than her father, who she feels might be abusive to her later. Eveline had two brothers, but the one brother had died and the other went away: " Ernest was dead and Harry, who was in the church decorating business, was nearly always down somewhere in the country” (Joyce).
Mother came to him and said “Honey, you cannot come up here. Do not explore anymore. It is very dangerous. It is over limit now, ok!” The son regretted his fault and said sorry to his mother. Another example I saw in other movie is, a daughter sulked when her father would go to work.
There is no rulebook or play-by-play list that you can refer to on the days when the panic and rage are so raw that you think you might lose your mind. And while your friends do their best to sympathize with you, no one understands the sheer desperation that always threatens to bubble over. A dying grandparent means facing my mortality with new eyes. In the final weeks of my grams illness, I’d often look at my children and worry that my death would burden them in the same way. I worried that the fear and terror I felt in these last months would be their journey someday when their father and I face our health issues.
The loss of his once cool headed mindset is now causing him to lose his family in a sense. Civilian families experience troubles similar to this as well. Michelle Cacho Negrete stated, “My anger at my husband had deepened over his views on the war; his cavaliers attitude about working for gumman; his support for the president’s policies; his lack of support for me”(Cacho-Negrete, 877). For Michelle the war was also a fight between her husband and their different viewpoints. She's losing her husband over how the fighting overseas is affecting people back on the homelines.
Even though Johnny was going through his last hours alive he did not want to see his mother, he wanted to see his family: the gang. “I said I don’t want to see her.” His voice was rising. “She’s probably come to tell me about all the trouble I’m causing her, and how glad her and the old man’ll be when I’m dead. Well tell her to leave me alone. For once.
Thirdly, the theme appears when Peter Van Houten speaks with Hazel and explains how his grief about his daughter’s death revealed his true self. Peter’s daughter’s death was a part of his life and ruined him, so in order for Hazel to live her best life she cannot give up because Gus is dead. Hazel must conquer her fear of death to then live her best life. Only when Hazel lives her best life can she be ready to
Liesel desperately wanted to blot it out and move on but that is not how life works. Her life had to keep on going with more obstacles every day. Liesel then starts having recurring nightmares (Zusak #36) at her foster parents house about her brother, to which she wakes up screaming as if the Fuhrer were to be arrested. Liesel has to put up with this constantly but she does get comfort through her father. She had to push through it.
After being classified as worthless, I began to fear how these emotions could affect my future life, such as when I am a parent. I have always been scared of being a terrible parent, such as my father was. When I heard the song Daughters, I felt as if the song was talking to me. The lyrics, “Since the day she saw him walking away she's [been] left cleaning up the mess he made”, made my heart sink. My dad had left my family with broken hearts, and a massive void that only a father could fill.
“The Dark Holds No Terrors”, her second novel, is about the traumatic experience the protagonist Saru undergoes as her husband refuses to play a second-fiddle role. Saru undergoes great humiliation and neglect as a child and, after marriage, as a wife. Deshpande discusses the blatant gender discrimination shown by parents towards their daughters and their desire to have a male child. After her marriage, as she gains a greater social status than her husband Manohar, all begins to fall apart. Her husband's sense of inferiority complex and the humiliation he feels as a result of society's reaction to Saru's superior position develops sadism in him.