“Black men struggle with masculinity so much. The idea that we must always be strong really presses us all down - it keeps us from growing” (“Donald Glover Quotes), says Donald Glover, a famous African-American actor. This is shown during the book, “Things Fall Apart”, by Chinua Achebe. Okonkwo, the main character, hates his father who acts very feminine according to their tribe’s definition and is not successful at all, but still lives life to the fullest. Okonkwo’s actions are based on his fear of becoming like his father so he rejects all characteristics that his father had (feminine qualities).
Lt. Cross’s other character shortcoming is his emotional and personal inability to lead the Alpha Company. Cross zealously guards a picture of a girl named Martha, who is not even his girlfriend, to continue with his strong linkage to love as well as his livelihood. However, he fails to remember the connection between love and war in the plot. He depends upon his love for Martha as a huge escape from the reality of war. Unable to handle the combination of being in love as well as being in the war at the same time, his love for Martha arrays itself in his mind as fiction.
Similar to Revolutionary Road, wife and husband’s different notions of self-fulfilment and dealing with a disappointing daily life contribute to severe problems in their relationship. American Beauty, however, does not emphasise the inability to compensate for a failed marriage between two partners who have forgotten how to love each other, but rather highlights the relationship between Carolyn, materialistic values and her blind urge to ensure an social power. Lester himself states, “Our marriage is just for show. A commercial for how normal we are; when we are anything but” (American Beauty). Carolyn does her best to keep up appreances according to her idol, Buddy ‘local-real-estate’ King’s principle “In order to be successful, one must project an image of success.
All Huck needs is to believe in himself and not worry about any family. Pap is a terrible father to Huck “he is a monster, a vicious child abuser Mark Twain and Manhood 101 nouncing how the law could stand between him and "a man 's own son, which he has had all the trouble and all the anxiety and all the expense of raising," but actually bemoaning his inability to grab Huck 's money. Pap 's only sense of worth comes from asserting his meager white supremacy” (Obenzinger 101). Huck would rather act as though he was dead than live a life with a man like Pap as his father. After Pap finally comes back to see Huck and decides that he wants to live with him Huck starts to get uneasy.
Bubba questions why he is the way he is an example is when he said " he is always buried in those books or shuffling around the house like his loss and some dream I was in like that Baba said frustrated almost angry. "Bubba doesn't understand why amir is so different so they are very distant leaving them in life and relationship with his father. Amir feels betrayed by his father because Bubba's actions so shows that he prefers his van because he is more man then send it from your invites Bubba said if I hadn't seen the doctor pull him out of my way with my own eyes I never believe he's my son. Amir is depressed because he isn't like his father and so is his father because he can't believe Amires his son. In the kite Runner Amir is desperate to find his father and try some mask himself to be more like baba.
He initially seems concerned, asking about his father’s state and condition, but his distress quickly turns into hostility. Hally adamantly opposes his father’s return, spitefully saying “Order him to get back into bed at once! If he’s going to behave like a child, treat him like one” (33). Hally treats his father like an immature adult incapable of making proper decisions. By telling his mom
One of Amir’s most cowardly moments was when he let Hassan get raped by Assef and pretended that it never happened. Following this event, he acted negatively towards Hassan and ignored him. Hassan and his father Ali ended up moving out of the house to live on their own after Amir framed Hassan for stealing his money and wristwatch. Hassan never protested or betrayed Amir in any way, showing how loyal he was in their friendship. Amir had been guilty for most of his life but always pushed his feelings aside because he was afraid to face the truth.
He rejects everything that Mr. Darling and all adults in general represent; to be precise he wants “to have fun” and be free of someone’s control and responsibilities forever. Moreover, Peter even ran away from home after hearing parents dialogue about his future. He says Wendy: “I don’t want ever to be a man”, “go to school and learn something new”. Also, there is a rejection of fatherhood: while Wendy enthusiastically took the role of mother seriously, Peter was anxious about the idea that he could be the father of Lost Boys in reality.
Amir’s cowardice and selfishness is seen best in this same situation. Amir is paralyzed the moment he sees Hassan in the alley, surrounded by the bullies. He knows that Assef is about to rape his best friend. However, instead of standing up for him like a true friend would, he just stands there frozen. “I actually aspired to cowardice, because the alternative, the real reason I was running, was that Assef was right: Nothing was free in this world.” Amir sees the blue kite as a way to win over his father’s love and respect and is therefore concerned with his own interest only, finding it more important than the price Hassan has to pay.
He is always in the quest of redemption in some way or the other. He avoids Hassan at times and talks rudely to him just to make Hassan hate him, He wanted Hassan to detest him, some hurt him so he is able to free himself from his guilt, he even urges Hassan to throw pomegranates at him. Amir also asks Baba to replace the servants and when Baba denies to do so he places the money he got on his birthday under Hassan’s mattress to make him go away because he was not able face Hassan everyday as it reminded him about his failure as a friend and as a man for which he is guilty even after years so as to find redemption he places some money under the mattress at Farid’s house on learning that the boys who he thought were looking at his watch were actually staring at the food which he was eating. ; “Earlier that morning when I was certain no one was looking . I did something I had done 26 years earlier.