The Right Way of Praising and Criticizing Our Children I believe that a lot of people, including me, sooner or later will get the most challenging job ever, which is raising a child. Most of them, especially mothers, are afraid to become a parent. I mentioned mother is because a mother usually spending more time with their children compare to a father, so mother has a bigger influence for children. There are a lot of reason for them to be afraid, because we live in such a cruel and an unfair world are few of them. One big mistake could hurt them. One big mistake could make them worse. After read the book of Mindset by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D. I know that children are sensitive, they would be able to sense anything since they were really young. …show more content…
Most children don 't like being criticize. Critics are not a solution for any problem, it just makes it worse. Criticizing means to tell someone or something negative things without having any solution. Instead of criticizing children, it is better to guide them. People have different kind of limit and ability, some people good at sports, some good at music, and some good at biology, etc. We need to know our children 's limit and ability. Don 't push them to hard especially to something that they don 't like, always support what they do like. We still can give criticism, but it must be constructive criticism. "Constructive means helping the child to fix something, build better product, or do a better job. (Mindset 182) I remember my old high school classmate told me about his parents, his parents always criticized in anything he did, for example: "This is an easy problem, why you still got it wrong?" or "You are so stupid!" Most of his grades was C and even when he got B+ in one of his subjects, his parents still told him "Why only B+?" My friend was really upset, it was like anything he did was a mistake. My friend was becoming lazy and lazier in school, because he thought that his efforts are useless. He could have done much better in school if his parents didn 't criticizing him like that. His parents should say something like "Son, would you let me know which problem is hard so I can teach you the easiest way to do it?" or "I know this problem is hard, but sometimes …show more content…
My friend and I are struggling to change our mindset, from fixed mindset to growth mindset. We don’t blame our parents for that, and we can’t, because we also learn at school and at our community, which are really out of our parents’ control. Instead, we are thankful to becoming what we are and knowing that we are able to change our mindset now. I know change is hard, but it is possible and worth it. I like the quote from Mindset book, “Change can be tough, but I’ve never heard anyone say it wasn’t worth it.” (Mindset 246) It is become the biggest challenge in our life, because if we want to change our mindset, then we need to change it now while we are young, otherwise it would be too late. Growth mindset not only helpful in our school life, it also helpful in our relationship, family, business, and all aspects of
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I realise I should have praised and encouraged the children more. When Karen was giving me advice she stressed the importance of praise because encourages that child to continue the behaviour in future and also motivates others to join in, she said this was known as positive reinforcement. She explained to me that the children should not only be praised for giving the right answer but also for attempting to involve themselves and speaking out. She also described many other things out with floor book that children should be praised for. For example when they use good listening skills, share well with others and are kind.
Firstly raise and encouragement are crucial within supporting a child 's development so the child doesn 't search elsewhere for other ways of gaining attention. Praise is important as children can become more critical of themselves and start comparing themselves to other children. Secondly; explanation, this should be enforced so that the children understand why certain boundaries and rules are put into place. For example, the routine of the particular room in which the child is in.
Nevertheless, there is still time to change how children are praised and step them up for success by teaching them set backs, failure, and effort are
Dr. Carol Dweck explain the two forms of mindsets, fixed and growth, through experiments and examples through her own life. These two types of mindsets shows the short-term and long-term benefits. A "growth mindset" illustrates the positive benefits, showing how our relationships, education, and way of life can be change through the way we think. Through the chapter Dr. Dweck explains the proof of both mindsets, through examples of how people react through different scenarios and how people 's lives changed through a certain mindset. One particular way Dr. Dweck provides evidence of the existence of the "growth mindset" is through the observation of brain waves.
The Mindset “Although people may differ in every which way- in their initial talents and aptitudes, interests, or temperaments- everyone can change and grow through application and experience.” Does the people that an individual is surrounded by have an impact on someone developing a growth mindset? For years people have been wondering why people think and act differently from each other. In the article “The Mindsets,” Carol Dweck talks about two different types of mindsets that she has studied for thirty years.
When they do make mistakes or reveal deficiencies, rather than correct, they try to hide the mistakes.” Dweck says this about a growth mind-set “By contrast in growth mind-set, students care about learning. When they make mistakes or exhibit a deficiency they correct it, for them effort is a positive thing.” For instance, my brother has a fixed mind-set and my cousins has a growth mind-set, they have many similarities and differences. My brother has a fixed mind-set because he doesn’t try very hard in school.
Dweck states in her article “if you only have a certain amount of intelligence, a certain personality and a certain moral character- well then you'd better prove that you have a health dose of them “ (52). Those quotes breakdown the ideas of having a fixed mindset. A fixed mindset individual mainly dwells on their mistakes so they will only do the minimum which doesn't guarantee success. In the passage The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck she states, “Students with growth mindset instead mobilized their resources for learning.
The growth mindset believes that their potential intelligence comes from learning, while the fixed mindset thinks they only have a certain amount of intelligence. Along with their differences in learning, these students also have a difference in school priorities. The students with the fixed mindset only cared how smart they would appear and turned down opportunities that were critical to their success. Students with the growth mindset thought about their efforts, and when they work harder it will show in their abilities and accomplishments. I agree with this because everyone will react differently to a setback, especially if they already react differently to education.
I. Introduction A. P. J. O 'Rourke once said “Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them” (O’Rourke, Pg.10). Parents always want their children to be better than what they used to be when they were at their age; that is why they care about every detail in their children’s life especially when it comes to behavior, obeying them and listening to their words. B. Background Information: i. People came to realize that physical punishment is a rough, atrocious, unacceptable mean of punishment that should be banned for its appalling, horrifying effects. ii. Facts about physical punishment (sources used) 1.