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Dating In College

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his is not a message intending to discourage students from dating in college. Many committed marriages come from college. Rather it is a means of critiquing the process and possibly expedite finding the right person while avoiding much of the wreckage along the way. And while some may feel that my credentials (being 30 and single) don’t qualify me as an authority on the matter, I believe logic and maturity serve as a credible platform. This is also written from a Christian perspective.

So, when you have a crush and you’re debating whether to move forward consider these questions to help filter the process.

1. Are they into you or the idea of you?
It’s completely normal and healthy to desire companionship. We want love, affirmation, intimacy …show more content…

Is their faith their own?
It is around the college age that people start to think more critically about life and their traditions. While this is a very important part of individual development, some people don’t exactly surface where they once did in Sunday school. I’ve seen it time and time again where the kid who was the worship leader, small group leader, theological brain child etc. will graduate and then months later they’re posting pictures of a lifestyle far contrary to the aforementioned. It’s difficult enough to see a friend go down that path, you don’t want this to happen with someone who you are romantically invested with- or married to. This can have severe ramifications on your marriage and the raising of your children.

But how can I know the true spiritual state of their heart?
Good question. My pastor recently tackled this very topic in a recent sermon.

“The best way to discern the condition of our heart is to listen to our rhetoric and watch our routines.” -Dr. Andrew Moroz

Does their talk reflect the gospel message? Do their actions reflect the gospel message? More importantly, do they reflect the gospel message when nobody is around to recognize them for it? Be sure to note that I’m using the phrase “gospel message” intentionally. That is, they should pursue holiness but in their failures they crave grace to restore

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