Deborah Tannen

In the first half of her essay, Tannen illustrates men and women communicate differently since they are raised at a young age. Little girls exchange their secrets to retain their friendship. Women maintain their friendship by sharing life stories and expressing feelings. In addition, women expect their husbands to be a listener as the best friends do. According to Tannen, “For women, as for girls,

The therapist should point out to Yelena that she had a responsibility of telling her husband about her sexual disappointment. In a marriage both the man and the woman should express their feelings about sex it is not unfeminine for a woman to complain about being displeased. As a result, Yelena should have discussed the sexual displeasures in order for her husband to know about her disappointment so that she could start enjoying her sex life. The special issues about Yelena perimenopause that should be addressed include her mood swing, feeling despair and anxiety.

In the article “Who Does The Talking”, Deborah Tannen implies that “women and men conversate equally” (Tannen 356). Tannen justifies this by researching women’s (“talking to much”) and men’s (“talking less than women”), but in reality the research found was that both men and women talk coequal. She describes and illustrates this research in order to inform readers don’t (“judge a book by it’s cover”) in other words do “research on women and men talk equally before suggesting that women talk more than men” (Tannen 356). Tannen addresses men and women by questioning who talks more ,and in this case, “researches were done on both men and women talking”,but both speak more in different

Both women pretend, for some time, to be male pirates. The reading does not mention the women having many difficulties living as men. This makes me wonder how the social norms of women and men became so different. If women could do the same tasks as men then why were they treated differently? I also wonder how many other women pretended to be men and for what reasons.

Debra Tannen wrote, “When a girl told a friend about a problem, the friend responded by asking probing question and expressing agreement and understanding” (404). Women have a support group when talking amongst themselves, but men have the exact opposite disposition. “Boys dismissed each other’s problems,” wrote Debra Tannen (404). Men downplay the severity of other people’s problems when communicating. A woman talking to an inexperienced man may get rather mad because the woman expects support from the man, who much to his chagrin, may dismiss the woman’s problems.

In the article “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” written Deborah Tannen, she states and discusses the differences between men and women communication and refers to it as cross-cultural communication. Females think intimacy and talking are the biggest parts of a relationship, males think less talking and more doing are the biggest parts of a relationship. Different genders have different listening strategies. Females face each other, make strong eye contact while talking about one subject. When males talk they sit angled from one another and their eyes wander the room when talking about multiple subjects.

Kilbourne shows good character by also trying to appeal to the opposition. “Wouldn’t it be wonderful if, realizing the importance of relationships in all of our lives, we could seek to learn relational skills from women and to help men develop these strengths in themselves?” (461). Kilbourne established good credibility when she does this. She is taking a stance for women, but at the same time she is encouraging men to do the same and try to put themselves into a woman’s

In the article “ ‘Bossy’ is More Than a Word to Women” Tannen explains about a campaign called ban bossy. Ban “bossy” is a campaign to make it so women and girls are no longer called bossy for reasons other than trying to speak their mind without softening the words. Women and girls are often called “bossy” because they tell others what to do. The problem with that is girls and boys often speak different “languages”, which enables a girl to seem bossy. Boys often speak in a way as girls do but get different responses from it.

Now that kid got raised wrong. It is not that parents are raising sexist boys, but its society. There are different Generations, they are taught different and they think differently. Some boys actually like to play with girls. The only problem is that a lot of girls are not as competitive as most boys for example: I am in a competitive gym class, when we play sports most girls stand around and do anything.

Men and women differ in how they negotiate work and family in terms of balancing autonomy and intimacy (Seidman, 152). To provide further evidence, Kathleen Gerson, author of “The Unfinished Revolution,” divides women into two groups: those who prioritize family (traditionalists) and those who prioritize independent economic stability (self-reliant). Gerson observes that majority of women, across race and class, prefer to be self-reliant. These women still aspire to be in intimate relationships but expect career support from their male partner. These findings are unlike those from previous generations and are rooted in the entrance of women into the work force.

Examining Generational Change toward the American Dream in Two kinds Two kinds, a short story by Amy Tan, explores the relationship between an immigrant mother and her first generation daughter. The mother, who has faith in the American dream, values the belief that to be happy, you have to be famous and change yourself; Ni Kan, the daughter, yearns for a personality of her own. Tan characterize these women as foils to each other. As a result of them being foils, they’re relationship is strained and they never have a close bond until Ni Kan grows older. Tan uses these characters to show that with each generation the American dream is changed.

Tannen beliefs in her essay that the dissimilarities in early stage communication between the men and women makes communication as if it is a like “cross cultural communication”. The author describes about a video during her research regarding the conversations between men and women that, “their eyes anchored on each other's faces and they faced each other directly". On the other hand, for the males, she states, "they sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other". Tannen describes about the example of a boyfriend and girlfriend in which, whenever the girlfriend wanted to make a conversation with the boyfriend, he would lie on the ground, shut his eyes, and put his bicep on the face. The girlfriend clearly thought that he is taking a nap, but he actually was super attentive avoiding all the distractions by doing that.