You have to persevere with ignorant people in order to agree upon a solution. By fighting it just gets more people angry and riled up and more people will fight. But, if you cooperate with other people then you can accomplish so much more because arguing provoked the person to get madder with you then they already are. Sometimes countries fight with other countries over things like resources, but with perseverance and kindness you can come upon an agreement instead of fighting. I agree with this quote there will always be a person who has a different opinion.
Even without uttering a word, communication can be misinterpreted and lost, causing tension. Facial and body gestures are an important way of communication when interacting with people or groups because the way you listen, look, move, and react tells the other person whether
If felt like the author was encouraging us to have a pep talk with ourselves, instead of engaging in deeper levels of understanding of the other person and ourselves. I like that the other strategies offered specific strategies to create an atmosphere conducive to solving a problem and coming out of that (potentially difficult exchange) with our working relationship intact. I did not feel that was the case with Fierce Conversations. This type of conversation depended too much on the emotions of the administrator and not enough on solving the problem at hand in the most productive, respectful way possible. The only way I could see the benefit of Fierce Conversation would be if an extremely rude, or sarcastic administrator was engaged in more than one inflammatory situation in his or her school building.
I also have a weakness in negotiating conflict and try to encourage people to work it out themselves because I do not like to be seen as having preferences amongst people. I tend to worry about what other people want more than concentrating on the problem, which can make decision making difficult because you cannot always make everyone happy ie; group pressure can influence my decisions (Northouse,
Effective listening requires that you ask yourself what you and your partner are thinking and feeling. Listening is most difficult when you are being told things that you don’t want to hear. People tend to cut in to reassure themselves that what the other person is saying is not what they really mean; they defend themselves and sometimes they even start attacking the other person. Effective listening requires that you listen attentively, compassionately and uncritically so as to allow room for your partner to trust you enough to talk about his/her most intimate thoughts and feelings without the risk of being judged or rejected. Here are some very helpful listening techniques as explained by Relate; the UK’s largest provider of relationship support:- • Forget about yourself: Put aside your own feelings and thoughts and aim to get an idea of what the other person is saying.
Benjamin Franklin’s suggestions about effective communication are key elements in achieving effective communication with others. As noted, the habit of getting into verbal disputes with others can cause a very pernicious effect on the conversation. This can turn a conversation that was meant to exchange information into one that can escalate into more of an altercation. If this happens then the intent of a conversation has been defeated, in which case both individuals should notice and quickly deescalate the situation. If the situation doesn’t get resolved then there is a high possibility that the conversation will result in the individuals becoming enemies rather than friends.
By doing so, we will be able to sort through our thoughts and clarify what we’re stressing about - if it’s worth getting worked up and upset about it. Besides that, by talking it out and getting support and sympathy—especially through face-to-face conversations—can be highly-effective for getting rid of steam and also recapturing sense of calm. This is because sometimes when we tend to worry about a problem without talking to someone about it, it might seem as if the problem starts getting bigger and worse than they originally are. While all our stuff is internal, it's hard to see how it really works. Once we've shared it and said it out loud, it gets easier to get hold of.
Self- disclosure is not something I am good at. I am in constant fear, of people judging me. I feel as though individuals will judge past decisions I may have made, and not understand why I had to make those choices. I felt with minimal self- disclosure, there is less opportunity for hurt. To more effectively improve communicate with others I need to increase my self-disclosure.
I assume that a lot of people limit themselves due to their fears. As human beings we all have fears. This argument will definitely connect to the audience, this is best mentioned in Everything is an Argument, “No argument, even one that engages stasis questions thoroughly, can be effective unless it speaks well others-to what we describe as the audiences for arguments” (27). Lastly, I agree that using pathos in your argument is an effective strategy because you want your audience feel the way you feel. Emotional appeals are important because you can make connections with your audiences.
“A moment of silence is often helpful for the client to dive into his emotions and think about a specific topic or circumstances.” From what I have practiced this statement is correct but it is very difficult to accomplish this as a new coach. This might happen to me because of being nervous and doubtful of my own level of ability for coaching. I feel that I can have a tendency to talk and try and assume what the coachee must feel when I am nervous or to just fill a void of silence. I tried to stick to the model this occasionally I felt like the model was restricting the conversation. This model is best utilized with a light touch and as a source of perspective should you get stuck.
In conversation it can be difficult to be the listener with a speaker who is a stutterer. The listener may feel extra pressure or confusion as to how he or she should respond or act in a moment where the speaker has become dysfluent. The stutterer can recognize this level of discomfort and begins to for negative emotions about his or her self. Healey (2010) believes the following emotions may manifest, “From the perspective of individuals who stutter, it is not uncommon to hear them report they are fearful of a listener’s negative reactions, being made fun of, looking foolish, or appearing unintelligent (p. 227). It is important for people who stutter (PWS) to recognize that not every listener or audience will formulate negative opinions.
This quote shows how some people don’t care about other people or their opinions if it gets in the way of their goals. They insult and threaten people to try to scare others into listening to them and to prevent them from opposing their beliefs. Although some might object that these ideas and plans should be supported, I maintain that it is a threat to people if it continues to get out of hand. Therefore, I conclude that politicians need to have their power limited, as well as language, to prevent them from becoming a negative
When people are facing adversity they don’t want to accept what is happening they want to fight back. The actions everyone makes to fight back are influenced by what will help them get away from their problems. Junior’s conflicts heavily encouraged him to take risky actions that could’ve led to a positive or negative outcome.