Difference Between Grief And Grieving

“Grief is the inevitable process we experience as the result of loss.” There is a difference between grief and grieving. The emotional reaction to a significant loss is grief. The process of life and emotional adjustment that is gone through after a loss is grieving. Everyone’s process of grieving is never the same as another person’s experience. There is also no order or time period a person experiences when grieving.

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, psychiatrist and journalist knows this. Elisabeth was born on July 8, 1926, in Zurich, Switzerland. From a very young age, Kubler-Ross knew she wanted be a doctor. At the age of 16, Kubler-Ross and her father had a huge disagreement about her career aspirations. This disagreement encouraged her to leave

There is no specific order in the five stages, and each stage is expressed with different levels of intensity. Before achieving a more peaceful acceptance of death, people often mover between stages. Some people may be outwardly emotional while others may experience grief more internally. Each person will experience grief differently. One of the first reactions to learning of death or terminal illness of a loved one is often to deny the loss. It is a normal defense mechanism to overwhelming emotions. This stage is often a temporary response that leads to the next stage of grief. As denial begins to wear anger emerges. Anger is a part of the healing process, and is a necessary stage. The anger may seem endless, but the more you feel it, the more you will begin to heal. Anger is the emotion that is most used to managing by people. Because anger has no limits, it can extend to friends, family, doctors, yourself, and even to your deceased loved one. Often people begin to blame the deceased loved one, for causing them pain or for leaving them. There may be guilt for being angry, which may lead to the person to feel more anger. Before a loss, most people seem like they will do anything for their loved one’s life to be spared. People begin to bargain. Saying things like, “Please God, I will never get mad at my father, if you let him live.” After a major loss, bargaining may take the form of a temporary truce. Mostly people become lost in statements such as “If only.” and “What if.” They want their loved one back to the way in once was. Often people want to go back in time. They want to go back and recognize their loved ones illness more quickly, or stop the accident from happening. A bargaining’s companion is often guilt. The “if only” statements may cause people to blame themselves and think about what they could have done