Disadvantages Of Concerted Cultivation

If their child does poorly in school they will blame the teacher for not doing their job. In contrast, parents apart of a higher social class tend to be more involved in their child’s school work resulting in high expectations of their children 's success in the classroom. Children become more self driven and motivated to complete their assignments and pass classes in hopes of not disappointing their parents. From my own experience, my parents have always been involved in my school activities. This not only has assisted me in the learning process, but also taught me assertiveness and confidence.

I found the focus of the book to be perhaps the most fascinating aspect of the reading; Professor Lareau, instead of centering her research on the economic advantages of middle and upper class children, she concentrates on the impacts these class differences had on the overall development of the child as a result of diverging parenting strategies from parents in each socio-economic group. In other words, she notes that the disadvantages lower income children experience were more than just an economic; instead, these socio-economic differences truly manifested themselves in different ways of parenting. It was these differences in parenting, (a result of their socioeconomic class), that impacted the outcome of the children. Middle class parents practiced a method of parenting coined cultured cultivation, while lower income parents practiced a method on the basis of the accomplishment of natural growth. Middle class parents for example, instilled a broader cultural repertoire in their children.

In a family there are many different roles; there's the role of the mother, the father, the child, the grandparents, then there’s the brothers and sisters. Every single one of those roles has different responsibilities. The father, according to most of society, is supposed to be the breadwinner for the family. However, nowadays the mother is actually quite capable of being the breadwinner just as much of as the father. As they work to show their children what it is to be an adult they are teaching them as well on how to be an active member of society.

Volunteerism in Communities Fellowship, neighbors, and solidarity are just a few of the words that come to mind when thinking about community. Communities thrive on togetherness and support, and the best way to ensure the flourishing of these concepts is to get involved within the neighborhoods, towns, or communities that we live in. In his writing, “Bowling Alone: America’s Declining Social Capital”, Robert Putnam discusses the connection between social capital and community engagement. Putnam defines social capital as, “…features of social organization such as networks, norms, and social trust that facilitate coordination and cooperation for mutual benefits” (Putnam 182).

“Successful parenting does not just happen: parents must make a conscious effort to be active in their children 's lives by nourishing and developing their children 's talents and skills.” (Spring,

In every family, children are treated according to their ranks or hierarchy. The oldest child is considered as leader of the pack; parents think that they are the one who will earn a living when they would retire. The youngest child is the baby of the bunch. Something parents want to hold onto and savor.

The reason children’s interests in education have plummeted are because of the parents. Barber explains, “And parents will have to be drawn in not just because they have rights or because they are politically potent but because they have responsibilities and their children are unlikely to learn without parental engagement.” (Barber, 2014 p. 217) Parents need to engage with their children. Nowadays kids do their own things, and parents do not care or know about their children’s life.

Summary The speaker of the TedTalk How to raise successful kids – without over-parenting, Julie Lythcott-Haims is the author of How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success (Lythcott-Haims). Besides writing a New York Times best selling novel Julie Lythcott-Haims was the former associate vice provost for undergraduate education and the dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising at Stanford University (Chesley, 2012). In the TedTalk, Julie Lythcott-Haims discusses over-parenting and the pressure parents put on their children to succeed.

In recent years, our culture has busied itself with work, technology, and parenting. Parents today have micromanaged their children’s time more than ever, a parenting style known as helicopter parenting. In youth sports alone, participation has grown astronomically (Haidt and Skenazy). Extracurricular activities are on the rise due to this trend of parents enrolling their children in more and more activities, causing a decrease in leisure time. Parental involvement even goes beyond extracurricular activities, extending into classrooms and the workplace.

We live in a complex, unpredictable world, filled with an array of family styles and personalities. Whether or not we recognize it, the family in which one is raised or currently resides plays a pivotal role in their development and opportunities. While we should not blame our circumstance on where we came from, it is crucial that we understand how our childhood influences why we are the way we are. One phenomenon that affects several families, particularly ones with low-income, is parentification. Parentification, also known as the role-reversal of a parent and a child, is not inherently harmful for a child, but it is important to look at the situation objectively and consider the risk-factors.

Her parents are so consumed with their problems they neglect Lynda and her brother. Instead of being able to focus on the children, the parents are focused on finding a solution for their financial problems or emotional problems. The children often have to give up their room for relatives that need a place to stay. They also feel they don't have a voice in their family. Lynda describes this in her essay by writing, "We were children with the sound turned off."

Today, both fathers and mothers have limited time for their children. For example, most parents are concentrating on their work so much that they don't even know what grade their child is in. Parents should at least spend one hour a day spending time with them. For example, in the novel To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee, Atticus Finch shows that he is an attentive listener by listening

”3 The four children grew up in a loving home. Nonetheless, the girls felt that their brother received preferential treatment and thus, had an idyllic life. He always rode with his parents in the front seat of the car, while their parents relegated them to the back seat.4

It is a corner of the world that, to the best of its ability, dignifies every person who enters, no matter whether they are the giver or receiver – and often achieves this through blurring these roles. I think the energy of love and acceptance created here ripples out and affects the world in ways that are known only by God” (Megan Mcdonald). Volunteering creates a satisfaction of joy and happiness, not only to the volunteer, but to the guest as

Amantine Lucile Aurore Dupin also known from her pseudonym George Sand, once said “charity degrades those who receive it and hardens those who dispense it.” Those who give to others solely believe they are helping for the greater good. While those receiving more or less don’t reciprocate the same gratitude. It comes from human nature to believe deep down to help others less fortunate than one. Generosity spreads to those in need creates gratitudes to those who dispense.