Broken Family Problems

Divorce is a word that can be define as a disconnected relationship between a mother and father or separation of parents due to some problems happened in the family that cannot be solved. Divorce can affected the family relationship especially the children. “Divorce and separation can breed bad blood between parents and children when one partner uses the children to target the other partner.” (Amy,2008). Divorce can give some problems to the young children and teen that make them respond differently and can be solved by the parents need to take some actions that can save the children in the family.

As mentioned by Carl (2011), divorce introduces a massive change into the life of a child no matter what the age. Witnessing loss of love between

For example, as mentioned by Carl (2011), children need to be able to express their feelings to an adult who listens attentively. Counselling can provide children with a caring adult who, unlike their parents, will not be upset by their feelings. Children adjust best when parents cooperate with each other and focus on the child's needs. Parents must remember that a divorce only severs their relationship as spouses, not their relationship as parents of their children. Whenever possible, parents should live close to each other, treat each other respectfully in the child's presence, maintain the other's involvement in the child's life, and consider the child's wishes regarding visitation. Older children and adolescents should be given increasing say in living arrangements. Parents should never suggest that their children take sides and should try not to express negative feelings about the other parent to their children. Other than that, parents should continue to discipline consistently. For the parent who divorces with a child, the priority is establishing a sense of family order and predictability. This means observing the three R's required to restore a child's trust in security, familiarity, and dependency - Routines, Rituals, and Reassurance. Thus parents establish household and visitation Routines so the child knows what to expect. They

Usually, children always be the victims and also the target when the parents got divorced. Conflicts develop in every family, but healthy families are strong enough to resolve conflicts or thrive despite them. Whatever their makeup, healthy families provide children with a sense of belonging and meet children's physical, emotional, developmental, and spiritual needs. Members of healthy families express emotion and support for each other in ways consistent within their own culture and family traditions. Last words, build a healthy family in order to avoid divorce and help the