Majority of parents just want the best outcome for their child and for them to develop to the best of their ability. Even though this is the case, some parents are not always exactly sure how to encourage this and for this reason might seek advice from practitioners within the setting. The better the partnership between a staff member and a parent the more comfortable they will feel in confiding in the practitioner. Parents know their own child best and sometimes what they need in order to keep them happy, Children know what they want, whilst practitioners have knowledge of general child develop. For this reason, if the relationship between parents, children and practitioners is positive and consistent the child should receive the best outcome and develop well.
The following case by Diguiseppe and Bernard (2006) illustrates the use of one of REBT’s main treatment methods with children—empirical disputing (and problem solving) of faulty inferences. Sara, a 9-year-old girl, was particularly depressed because of the infrequency of her seeing her father. Her parents had been divorced for six years and her mother and father continued to argue. Sara’s older siblings had a great deal of animosity towards their father and he reacted by avoiding them; this led to Sara feeling that her father could not really care for her if he did not love or care about her mother or siblings. Empirical disputing of this inference revealed the irrationality in Sara’s beliefs about her father.
In the other hands, children tend to grow up and act like their parents and they do the exact same thing that their parents used to do with them when they were a kid. Child abuse effects on a child's life greatly. A family is the primary source for every child. It's their safety, security, love, life, supports, understandings, and even more than that. When child abuse violates the primary relationship of the child with its family is a betrayal, a negative belief develop in a child.
This relates to many of the characters in “The Pigman.” Many teens feel neglected because of their parents. Their parents don’t pay enough attention to them. A parent who verbally abuses their child, just like Mrs. Jensen, is just as bad as a parent who doesn’t do anything to stop their child, just like Bore. If a child begins to talk back to their parents, word abuse retaliation is not the right decision. This can lead to the child having a low self-esteem which then leads to depression.
Baby encounter rejection and stigma from her father, authority figures and classmates which bestow upon her little self-worth. O’Neill (2006) “I couldn’t plead for any rights because I didn’t have any.” (p. 72). • Society feared her sadness and teachers and social workers perpetuated the notion that she is a troubled kid. Baby said: “they are afraid of my sadness” (O’Neill, 2006, p.128). • Baby is unwelcomed at Xavier’s house after a school teacher informed his parents that, Baby is a troubled child from a broken home.
According to Chandramuki, Ph.D. (2012), the contribution of resiliency helps the family to come up and overcome acceptance and rejection. The family, as well as the parents, learn how to accept rather than reject the child with a disability. However, the parents are still affected regarding their well-being. There is a proof that family attitude has an impact on the development of a child through the resilience that the parents possessed. It is also stated that parents normally rejects their child at first, but whatever happens, they still accept their
To those cases where the parents have jobs, usually, the parents are very busy and they cannot monitor their children. What will happen here is that the children will find new group or peers and if those peers are doing bad things, the child will more likely to do the
After getting divorced, my mother’s depression worsened and she was unable to complete everyday tasks such as grocery shopping, paying bills, or taking my siblings to school. Once I recognized the need for these tasks, I took the initiative to take care of them. When schoolwork and volleyball practices increased, I found myself unable to take care of my family which resulted in guilt. Ultimately, I quit the volleyball team because I felt responsible for taking care of my mom and younger siblings. I felt as if I needed to get a job so I could begin financially providing for them as well.
Parents make their children opt for things that they like and restrict them from things they dislike. So by this, they are transforming their children and delivering the message that they will only be loved by parents if they become the person they want them to be (Dr. Peggy, D., 2012). By forcing your choices on your children, your child’s personality develops on
But, that encourages my next point about parents. Since it is your parent’s personality, they should see you going in the defective path. If you are slacking in school or at home; they should correct you and tell you not to be like them and to excel and adjust your performance. Not only should they just talk to you, they should fix their personalities also. For example, maybe they are always late to work or they curse too much, though these are negligible traits, they demonstrate an misguides on the child ,who will start to think this behavior is acceptable and start to pick up on it.