Socializing: The Irony Of The Educational System

CHALLENGE

„With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.“ Wayne Dyer, spiritual teacher (1940–2015)

The irony of the educational system is that tradition has been intimately perplexed with the contemporary world. Teachers who have been threatening their students had been themselves treated a similar way at the time of their studies. While nurturing the unconditional respect for the authority, they had managed to grow out from the fear as much as to become agonizing teachers themselves. However, it is not only the teachers and their students who fall into this category.

Everyone has to learn good and bad things, to experience all various emotions while being a part of the community. No lesson is better than the one that we learn from experience. Pointless is to anticipate that parents should protect their children and feel guilty if they allow their child being physically or emotionally hurt. As a consequence, feeling of guilt is a big trap on the path of the self-realization. To explain, it is a result of living in the competitive world of winners or losers, based on the judge/victim relationship. Living this kind of circumstances is a predominant yet pathological pattern in our society. The judge is blaming the victim for not being the way people would want him to be. He puts pressure on the victim, promises 'prosperity and fame' far in the future, manipulates and wants him to do the one and only way – the way he considers and is convinced to be the only right way. The victim obeys the rules as well as fears that the expectations might not fall into completion. But, when he fails to produce what was trusted to him, he feels guilty even though the task might have looked ridiculous to an outside observer.

Let us face the truth. The judge/victim relationship is just another expression of letting someone remain in a comfort zone. It means not daring to reach beyond the fear, anger and all uncomfortable situations that often are just another

Yoga, Feldenkrais Method, Grindea or Alexander Techniques help to relax excessive tensions in the body, balance the body and bring peace of mind. Some people want to be physically fit and find fulfillment in cycling or running in a marathon. The others prefer working more on the spiritual level. They are learning about chakras, healing energies, meditation, or they do EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), use creative visualization to fulfill their goals, use positive statements, etc. No matter what we choose, most important is to stay focused and not blame the others for any situation, even if it feels very ugly. While we seek our own expression, it is recommended to learn about Freud's teaching or Jung's approach to the collective unconscious, to understand our dreams and the symbols and myths as reflected in reality. Furthermore, it is worth recognizing the behavioural patterns of a family or analyze genetics. Karmic diagnostics can look into our previous lives and teach us lessons that we have to fulfill in the present life. If, however, we do not believe in the reincarnation, we can still go to a hypnotist, listen to spiritual teachers or be devoted to any religion. In any case, it is worthy to find an emotional knot from an earlier experience that needs to be resolved and is a trigger to open the door for new situations and