Emotional Intelligence: The Social Skills You Weren T Taught In School

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" 'Our emotions need to be as educated as our intellect. It is important to know how to feel, how to respond, and how to let life in so that it can touch you '" (Grant). By knowing how our mind and body coincide with one another, which is emotion intelligence, we can better understand who we are and who we want to be. "We all need emotional intelligence to help us through our emotionally demanding days. Even if we are not emotionally intelligent ourselves, we may rely on those higher in emotional intelligence to guide us... They 're particularly good at understanding psychologically healthy living and avoiding such problems as drugs and drug abuse" (Mayer). Emotinal intelligence can lead to having a healthier mind and lifestyle. We are…show more content…
In other ways, emotional intelligence can help you to understand and relate to the emotions of those around you. In Eric Ravencrafts’ article, “Emotional Intelligence: The Social Skills You Weren’t Taught in School,” “Disputes are best resolved when you know what you want, can communicate it clearly, understand what someone else wants, and come to favorable terms for everyone. If you’ve been paying attention, you’ll notice that this involves every other area of the emotional intelligence model.” Knowing what someone is feeling or wanting is the one of the first steps in emotional intelligence. If you know what makes a person sad, angry, happy, etc., it’s easier to know how to talk and interact with that person so they understand what you are saying and wanting. According to “Emotional Intelligence,” by Royale Scuderi, “We are also better able to understand and relate to those with who we are in relationships. Understanding the needs, feelings, and responses of those we care about leads to stronger and more fulfilling relationships.” To have a stronger, more structured relationship with someone, knowing what they need in the relationship is the best start, which is one of the things you learn to do when learning emotional intelligence. By working to give them what they need, that shows them you truly care, leading to a great bond between one person and another (whether it be friend, girlfriend, or boyfriend). It shows that they are willing to do whatever it takes to make them happy, and it even makes the other happy seeing their colleague happy. “The ability to recognize how people feel is important to success in your life and career. The more skillful you are at discerning the feelings behind others’ signals the better you can control the signals you send them” (Akers and Porter). Having a job can also involve understanding what others require to work with another person. Making business deals or offering life insurance includes picking up on different signals,

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