Eric Berne's Theory Of Personal Communication

Interpersonal relationships can take form in many different ways and are everywhere, such as at the workplace, school, home, and even the grocery store. Interpersonal relationships consist of family, friendship, social, romantic, and online relationships; all of these relationships have one big thing in common: the element of communication. In the movie, The Notebook, the film primarily focuses on the romantic relationship between people named Noah and Allie. Upon meeting Noah, a poor man, and Allie, an upper-class woman, quickly fall in love, however, struggle with maintaining their relationship due to their social differences. The movie displays an array of interpersonal communication concepts, such as the social exchange theory, the declining

Effective communication is determined by the inter professional working between the manager and others whom are integrated into the organisation. Managers whom can identify the needs of effective communication can provide direction for the conversation, use resources available to enhance better communication, be able to facilitate change and achieve results in relation to positive outcomes of communication.

This theory was made by Michael Argyle (1925- 2002), who was a social psychologist. In the late 1960s he studied social skills, body language, non-verbal communication and interpersonal behaviour. In this study, he found that non-verbal signals can be much more important and useful than verbal communication when trying to trigger peoples’ attitudes and feelings. His research showed and found that the stronger the relationship between the people communicating so with close friends for example the much better eye contact. However, when the relationship is not very strong so when speaking to a stranger people don’t have very good eye contact and they tend to look away when talking. Argyle thought that a positive attitude and the feelings a close friendship has can be encouraged by the good and effective eye contact. He also found that non-verbal signals are just important and effective as verbal signals or communication.

In today’s workplace communication is key, collaboration crucial and teamwork a top management buzzword. These facets encourage knowledge sharing, co‐operation and a joint sense of purpose. However, such an increase in interpersonal relationships too often creates an unwanted side effect: conflict.

People pass through different stages of development throughout their lives. In the process of this, many changes are experienced that affect the life course. There are various theories as well as theorist to choose from in order to gain a greater knowledge of an individual’s development. In this paper I will analyze the Life Course Perspective and Levinson’s Theory of Seasons of Adulthood. After analyzing these theories, I will apply the concepts of The Life Course Perspective and Levinson to my father’s life.

Transactional Analysis was developed by a psychiatrist named Eric Berne. Dr. Berne defined transactional analysis, or known as "TA", as the method for studying individual's relationships and interactions. Psychotherapists were able to read about Berne’s theories and test them out in their own practices.1 Dr. Berne took inspiration from Sigmund Freud's theories of personality, combining them with his own observations of human interaction this led to the development of transactional analysis .

During this semester, I gained a lot of skills and knowledge about interpersonal relations. As a human being, as a member of the "global village", everyone need to communicate with others. It is important to learn how to communicate well and how to build a healthy and positive interpersonal relationship with others. Like the textbook’ name “Looking Out Looking In”, we looked in the communication itself, looked out the language barrier, nonverbal messages and effective listening, and looked at relational dynamics.

Interpersonal communication is a transactional process- This principle states that IPC is ever-changing and is a circular process. The elements of this communication are interdependent and connected to one another. The communication of one affects the communication of other.

Chapter two in the textbook Reflect & Relate an Introduction to Interpersonal Communication by Steven McCornack talks all about what “self” is and how to achieve complete fulfillment for one’s self which is also known as self-actualization. The components of self, as described in the book are, “ . . . self-awareness, self-concept, and self-esteem” (McCornack 39). Self-awareness is the idea in which one can take a moment to move feelings, beliefs, and other external influences aside and just evaluate oneself in a holistic perspective that is not skewed by opinions of others, etc. Having the ability to actually think about who one is brings a lot of power and mental stability in such a way that allows for improvement. For example,

(Berne, 1964). Similar to the parent, modern transactional analysis theory also divides the child into the Adapted and Free child each with positive and negative aspects as depicted in Figure 2 below:

Communication flow are affected by three factors, individual, organization, culture. In the business communication, these three factors are described as interpersonal communication, intercultural communication and organizational communication. By handling problems that bring by these factors, the communication within the group will be more efficiency. In a group working, an effective communication can help us have a better understanding of others’ opinions, this is the fountainhead of productivity and efficiency. In addition, effective communication is one of the most important factors that can influence the result of team’s work. Whether there is a good result of group’s work

2. The psychodynamic theory is associated with, Sigmund Freud and Erik Erikson. Theorists who support this theory state, early childhood experiences play a major part in later development of a child’s personality, even if it is buried in there unconscious. Psychodynamic Theorists also believe that children go through qualitatively distinct stages in their development. In my classroom, how I could apply this theory is by engaging the child on who they think they are, and how it will affect their future. Identity plays a major role in this theory, by engaging the child on who they think they are, I feel I will be able to assess their ability to learn.

It refers to the patterns of communication, interpretation and adjustment between individuals. Both the verbal and nonverbal responses that a listener then delivers are similarly constructed in expectation of how the original speaker will react. Workers contribution is more involved in this theory. (Markes, 1999)

Communication is sharing process which involves expressing ideas, thoughts, feelings or sending the right message that is also being correctly received and understand by the other person/s who is receiving it on the other end.

The process of communicating successfully with our family, friends, co-workers, business associates and people is one of the most critical skills. Communication is such a key part of life that I often tell to a person that “Its no use of someone if he/she really don’t know by associates people in their work place or area of field”. Communication makes us to be known of others, good or bad that depends on usability of a person communication. And, it is up to each of us to learn to communicate well with those who are important to us. Our body language and non-verbal hints such as eye contact or the lack of it. Our highlighting the positive and negative aspects of our communication styles, skills and effectiveness we all experience when we communicate. In this report, we will study and observe that how effectively communication skills can improve with the example/inspiration taking from a