Escaping The Magnet That Is Your Comfortable Life Analysis

So here is the long version to keep at the back of your head:

Ask for help from the people closest to you (proximity wise meaning in front of you) by telling them what your ultimate goals are and what is really going on in your head. Then ask them who could help you.

Don't directly ask for help. If you do that then you are essentially demanding, begging, and putting them on the spot. Instead, give them the opportunity to help you on their own terms. It's better that way.

To understand this better, I want you to think of Genghis Khan. Yes, Genghis Khan. The story goes that he would tell his generals his ultimate goal and give them the flexibility on how to reach it on the battlefield. That open communication created an efficient and resourceful

Remember the clay pot analogy?

Both sets of students had the basic idea, the equipment, and a teacher to help them, but the ones who focused on just making the pot over and over again produced the best results, not the people studying theory.

Just focus on taking action, on finding different ways to ask people for help, and you'll figure out what works best for you.

Escaping The Magnet That Is Your Comfortable Life

I bet you keep turning to self-help because you can't escape your life.

I think a lot of self-help people are under the idea that there has to be this big shift in your life like moving to somewhere new or something like that. But the further you pull away from your comfortable life, the stronger its pull on you becomes.

So how do you win?

Don't fight the current situation, use it to your advantage. Use the one thing that always gets results.

The trick, just like using a planet's gravitational pull to help you escape it, is to use your regular life to break you free.

Don't reject your current situation. Make your current situation aid your growth.

Don't go it alone. Opportunity cost makes self-help a bad choice. Self-help will cause you