Permissive parents make few demands and do not usually use punishment. They tend to be very nurturing and loving. Authoritarian parents are often strict, tightly monitor their children, and show little warmth. While authoritative parents give reasonable demands and limits, give warmth and affection, and listens to the child’s side. Permissive parenting causes a lack of discipline in the child and authoritarian causes children to be anxious, withdrawn, and unhappy (Rice University, 2016).
Like permissive parents, authoritative parents are responsive, nurturing, and involved. But unlike permissive parents, authoritative parents don’t let their children get away with bad behaviour. Authoritative parents take a firm stand, anticipating that their kids should carry on dependably. Like tyrant guardians, legitimate guardians uphold rules. As a psychologist, I feel that authoritative parenting style helps in developing their social behaviour while authoritarian degrades it.
Verenikina, Vialle, and Lysaght (2011) found that permissive parenting approaching their children with easy going and very casual methods and having open communication and developed warmer relationship between them. Kang and Moore (2011) know that children who are brought by permissive parents tend to be more independent and faced less frustration. A study by Strage and Brandt (1991) found that children are also more likely will be involved in social behaviours and do not score in school, however they have higher confidence level, better social skills, and lower levels of depression than children who are raised by authoritarian parents. (Condry & Simon, 1974; Steinberg, 1987) noted that children and adolescents from permissive family are vulnerable to antisocial
Authoritarian parenting is not the best way to raise children Recently, a Hollywood's leading actress, Angelina Jolie, divorced with Brad Pitt because she was upset with the authoritarian parenting of her husband. This news brings the issue, the parenting style, to public’s attention. Authoritarian parenting can be regarded as strict parenting style, which means imposing a rigid structure of rules upon children. There is no doubt that this style can be a good way to raise children but I do not think it is the most suitable method to bring up their children. I am going to explain in three aspects, namely social skills, personality and academic achievement.
Authoritative parenting often hold high expectations for their child, but manage their expectations with understanding and support for their child. They tend to encourage independence upon their child, and teach with nurturing and reason. Parents who use this type of parenting also rely on open communication with their child, which then implies a deeper understands. Results of having an authoritative figure is a child may develop self-responsibility, and high communication skills. Children also develop a sense of identity, and
Diana Baumrind (1971), has been credited for defining three specific parenting styles and their consequences for children. These are: authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive styles of parenting based on levels of warmth and control used by the parent in disciplining the child. According to Baumrind (1991), parenting styles are meant to capture normal variations in the attempt of parents to socialize children. Two points are critical in understanding this definition: i. Parenting style is meant to describe normal variations in parenting.
As the Journal of Adolescence; Personality and parenting style in parents of adolescents by Rose M.E. Huver, Roy Otten, Hein de Vries, Rutger C.M.E. Engels reported there are mainly four distinct parenting styles called Authoritative, Authoritarian, Indulgent, Uninvolved. Parents mainly use strict/parental control (parental demandingness) or parental support (parental responsiveness). In Authoritative parents use both strict/parental control (parental demandingness) and parental support (parental responsiveness) in raising their adolescents.
According to Strage (2000), authoritative parenting incorporates with high standards for achievement such as demandingness provide emotional support and encouraging independence in the adolescent. Authoritarian parents try to shape, control, and jugged the behavior of the children’s and they usually followed an absolute standard. They also used punishing and forceful measures when the child’s views conflicted with parents. The permissive parenting style matches to the behaviors of affection and responsiveness with the child, without any restrictions for appropriate behavior. Mandara and Murray (2002) used the approach of Baumrind and they want to study the association between parental rearing, psychopathology, and competence in childhood and in adolescence.
Permissive parenting style is when parents tend to be lenient and may only step in when there is a serious problem. There may be few consequences for misbehavior because parents have an attitude of "kids will be kids." Permissive parenting is potentially a harmful style of parenting simply because permissive parents take on more of a friend role than a parent role. Few rules are set for the children of permissive parents, and the rules are inconsistent when they do exist. This lack of structure causes children to grow up with little self-discipline and self-control.