Everybody has different beliefs on rather children should be spanked, or if that is considered abuse. Their is a huge difference between spanking your child to show them what is right and wrong, and abusing them. Children have a more likely change to perform better later on in life if they get spanked at the appropriate time. I agree with some of the things bell hooks’ says, but disagree with how she views spanking. I believe that spanking can be a good tool as long as it is used correctly and only if all else has failed.
The correct way to administer a spanking is when it is ' '... ' 'two open-handed swats, not out of control due to anger ' ' as a backup for children between the ages of 2 and 6” (Goode). If you leave marks or bruises on the child, is becomes abuse, not only from my believes, but also from the California law. If you do anything other than softly hit their bottom, it could leave visible marks, which is illegal. You can not spank while you are angry or else you can hurt them. You are not
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If you spank your child they have a better outcome later in life. “Those who were physically disciplined performed better than those who weren’t in a whole series of categories, including school grades, an optimistic outlook on life, the willingness to perform volunteer work, and the ambition to attend college...” (Kettle). Children who are shown what it right from wrong at a young age have more ambition, and want to do better in life. When your child is never disciplined, the child becomes rude, and has no respect for you. It becomes hard to raise a child who has no respect for you or any other adults. If you do not discipline early enough, they will not respond to it later. As long as you are doing it right, spanking can be a good way to teach your children. You just have to make sure to not cross over that line, and make it become abuse. When you spank your child you are making them respect you, they will not want to disobey you when they know the outcome will
Is Spanking A Problem Solver? Today's day and age parents try to steer clear of spanking their children and try a more modern approach on parenting trying to give a positive discipline. But does that solve everything? In this article “No Spanking, No Time-Out, No Problem” Alan Kazdin uses several elements throughout this article.
My feelings regarding spankings are inappropriate because it models aggressive behavior in young children. 8. Spankings should be administered with care. 9. Corporal punishment is the use of physical force causing pain, but not wounds, as a means of discipline; such as spanking, shaking, slapping hands and etc.
After reading “What’s the Best Way to Discipline My Child?” it says “The AAP advises that parents and caregivers should not spank or hit children. Instead of teaching responsibility and self-control spanking often increases aggression and anger in children”(“What’s”). Spanking Scout was not right in general. Although if he chose to go about it in a different manner it would have been more respectful. Moving forward in Scout’s life she will need adults that respect her, so she can learn from different mistakes and move on
To me spanking should be the last thing a parent need to use as a punishment. I do occasionally spank my children, but only after I have tried everything else (i.e multiple warnings, time outs , and loose privileges). However, as my children gets older I am noticing that I am spanking them less because they are getting to the age where I can talk to them and reason with them more. As a child I was spanked quite often, mostly by my teacher. I grew up in a country where teachers are free to spank children in classrooms whenever they feel the need to.
As Karen Stephens (2007) said parent play a major role in how children turn out. Parent should try to use teaching method to help children to development a sense of responsibility. Also, parent should have more than one strategies to raise a child. The way you respond to a child’s manipulation as a baby sets the tone of the rest of the life together. In my opinion, parents should try to avoid spanking because those children are going to do the same thing on their siblings, their classmate or their friends.
I feel that what Critchley has claimed is true but a swift tap on the bum or smack (within reason) shouldn’t be considered child abuse because child abuse and discipline are two different things. Discipline is training a person to obey rules and have the correct behaviour by using punishment to correct their misconduct, light physical punishment is considered as
If families do not have some form of discipline inside of their household things would begin to get out of control and become chaotic. So some parents choose to use spankings as a form of discipline. I think that spanking is necessary in raising children. In my household spanking was enforced for my siblings and I when we were younger, it was to teach us what’s right from wrong. Spanking is a disciplinary action where children can learn from it.
On major advantage of no spanking is the children will grow up better, happier and has healthy lifestyle than the children will be spanked. Actually, I start by looking up articles New York Times about spanking. I found article by Perri Klass, M.D. called the “Connection between Spanking
This study was conducted on April 25, 2016 by experts at The University of Texas at Austin and the University of Michigan. Elizabeth Gershoff and co-author Andrew Grogan-Kaylor. Their study focuses on what most Americans would see as spanking and not a potentially abusive behavior. During their study they found that spanking your children can cause them to defy their parents more frequently and can also cause a lifelong mental health issue. It showed as the frequency of spanking increases, the likelihood of anti-social behavior, mental health issues, and aggression also increases.
Of course, once the child is a little older they state that spanking should only be used if they are putting themselves or others in danger (206). Spanking should not be used to hurt your child, but only as a physical intervention (video). When you do spank your child, it is very important to explain to them why they are being punished (206). This is to ensure that the child knows why they are in trouble and, hopefully, keep them from doing it again. As stated earlier, most African Americans use spanking as punishment.
Spanking can be effective when a child is not listening to a parent. If a child isn’t following proper rules and disregarding their parents’ statement, then a spanking can enforce a form of respect that the child has to follow (Jasmine, 2015). It can be an awakening to reality as the child could now think of how their actions are deviant. Parents that don’t resolve to spanking as the first and only method of discipline is essential for both the parents and the child. I believe a parent should always try to enforce rules by talking and showing examples of how deviant actions are frowned upon.
For many, spanking a kid is deemed to be one of the best ways to raise a kid. Since the previous generations, also known as the older generations were raised this mode, many accredit that applying the almost exact same method on their kids can lead these youngsters to learn and grow straight, therefore expecting that a spanked kid will aftermath in a prospective society with future gracefully informed and well educated adults. However, corporal punishments aren’t indeed the appropriate way neither the best solution to deal with the misbehavior of a little bairn. Spanking a kid, whether it’s with bare hands or a flat object, may lead some kids to actually rebel against their family.
Many people think that the reason for this is easily described as “if you hold the reins too tight, the horse will buck.” Over punishing a child can be a bad thing, it will make the child want to retaliate more so than if one were to cut a little slack. However, under punishing a child can be bad as well, not teaching a child right from wrong can majorly increase the odds of the child doing the wrong thing. Reasons that parents give for spanking their children are to make children listen better, and to encourage better behavior, especially to put a stop to children's aggressive behaviors. Research shows, however, that spanking, or indeed any form of physical punishment, tends to have the opposite effect.
As mentioned previously, a significant number of parents emphasize the use of punishment to ensure total obedience and submission of the child. Most overprotective parents discipline their child through physical punishment and only a few acknowledge the use of explaining and reasoning with the child. The following is a statement of a father and his experience and opinion in punishments: After punishment [such as spanking], we believe we should always end up reconciled, with a hug and a kiss, and the situation is over. No matter what the situation is or what the punishment is, we always love them afterward. As a matter of fact we show more love toward them after we have punished them.
Growing up my parents ran a daycare in(at) our house so I was always surrounded by children (the good and the bad). My parents were the type who had no problem enforcing physical punishments such as spanking, the flick of the hand, a pop on the mouth, etc. All these punishments are within the definition of acceptable punishment as stated by Oklahoma law (qtd. ---). They practiced this on me, my siblings, and the daycare kids (with parental consent).