Etiquette In Modern Society

Etiquette covers the whole field of social relations, including rules for simplest actions and for most elaborate of social actions, also known as traits of a civilized society.

Thanks to more than 60 new etiquette guides published during the 1870's and the 1880's, Victorians could learn how to conduct themselves in all social situations. The rules of etiquette are just as alterable today therefore, yesterday's rules could become today's bad manners. Many good manners are universal, and many rules of etiquette that were once based on a moral principle may continue to exist today.

There are certain pointers of etiquettes that I'd like to address-

TABLE MANNERS :

•Back in the Victorian era a proper young lady had to learn the rules of etiquette

From the 1850s,the market was flooded with etiquette books which laid out to people who had never been exposed to such things,the rules of "polite society". In many cases,they did not describe 19th century America as it was,but the author hoped it could become.

SOCIAL RITUALS

•The manners of the 19th century, as expressed in etiquette books, do contain many elaborate social rituals which seem a bit quaint to us moderns, but the vast majority of their space is devoted to what would seem to be common sense rules like " Don't chew with your mouth open" or " Don't interrupt people " or " Don't be a lot of bother when you are a house guest".

•Two things may be drawn from this. First, there must have been a lot of people back then ( just as there are today ) who lacked " common courtesy " and needed to be told such things, and and and, second, if you wish to portray yourself as on of the refined 19th Century person, then just do the things your mama taught you and you are more than half way there

It was a time of glory! Victorian era had its own charm and it still manages to intrigue us with its talks and memories. Etiquttes are a part and parcel of social life,it is necessary to have them follow. It puts a great impact on the person on whom you try to create an impression.Comparing the 21st century to the old Victorian days, the one thing that is clearly evident is the fact that, women have lost the gracefulness and males, their chivalry. Even though people try and be as decent and presentable and "sophisticated", they seem to be trying a little too hard. People these days don't pay heed to knowing each other that well. Sharing problems have become another task because a large section of the society is not interested in knowing your fears, thoughts, grievances, sorrows, foresight or even opinion on certain things. People don't greet each other the way people living in the Victorian era did. Ego clashes have overpowered everything else. Dignity has got a new tag ; arrogance! Men these days have lost ends with their inner gentleman, while females don't believe in ankle length dresses. Not that it's all bad, it's the way it's done today, that's not as graceful and charming as previous years, but then change is constant, ain't it? Victorian era and the etiquettes it strongly believed in, has somewhere or the other left an impression in our minds. No matter how much things have changed, we still do remember