Essay on Family Reflection and Attachment Did you know that lack of attunement or misattunement from parent or primary caregiver can result in an insecure attachment? First, let’s define what is attunement? “attunement means being in harmony; being aware of and responsive to another” (Catlett, n.d.). The purpose of my paper is to explain more in depth the four types of attachments styles, learn more about the personal early childhood attachments styles, reflection on adult attachment styles and the implications of attachment styles for engagements. As a Social Work student understanding attachment theory along with my own attachment style is very important because I can use this knowledge as a tool during my assessment process when working with clients. Description of Four Attachments Styles a) SECURE ATTACHMENT, is a relationship that gets developed during infancy between parents and babies, where parents should provide a sense of safety and security to their babies, also be attentive to their emotions by soothing them when they feel stress, giving them joy and calmness and lastly offering them a secure environment for them to explore (Divecha, 2017). “Secure attached children are able to regulate their emotions, feel more confident in exploring their …show more content…
I am the oldest of three children, I lived with my parents and grandparents, I grew up in a very small town in Mexico, farm life, rural area type of environment. I identified with these two attachments because my mom was a very loving woman at times but was dealing with many risk factors, such as, being a victim of domestic violence, poverty, lack of moral support. Most of my memories are of pain, her being physically, verbally abuse and jumping from house to house not being wanted. As an older child, I had to mature fast for my age, to be a support for my siblings and my
His idea of the theory was that when infants became attached to adults whom are responsive and sensitive during the social interactions and form a maintained caregiving relationship during the 6 months to 3 years of life (McLeod). Without the development of attachment, children could suffer from serious impairments both psychological and social. This process establishes various forms of attachment, which in the future will guide the thoughts, feelings, and expectations in children as adults in their future relationships. In this paper, there will be explanations, examples, and other psychologist discussing their attachment theories. There are four different style of attachment in adults; Secure, Dismissive, Preoccupied, and Fearful-Avoidant.
The secure attachment style is given to a child when they have comforting and consoling parents, that way the child can later go to them when they are in need. On the other side of the spectrum, Ainsworth names another attachment style insecure avoidant; a child is insecure avoidant when they receive no response or concern from their mother or father figures and they learn that they need to rely mostly on themselves in times of need. A mix of the two is given the name insecure preoccupied, or insecure anxious, and this attachment style happens when sometimes the mother or father are present when the child needs help, so they receive some contact; the child yearns for attention, but rarely gets a reciprocating
Cindy Hazan and Philip Shaver in 1980 were able to move the theory of attachment and children into developed theories of attachment on adulthood relationships. They found that even in cases of adults a strong attachment is still very important, Hazan and Shaver (1980) concluded that a balance intimacy with independence within a relationship is best, if the attachment was too strong both parties would be over dependent, and if the attachment was weak there would be a lack of intimacy with feeing of inadequacy (Hazan and Shaver, 1980). Many past findings have suggested that secure attachment is related to high levels of self-esteem; such is found evident in Wilkinson (2004) research about the role of parental and peer attachment in the psychological
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From the time we began talking in class about attachment styles and what they look like, I have been fairly certain about what my attachment style is. I believe I have a secure attachment style, but with ambivalent tendencies. This attachment style impacts every part of my life, especially my relationships with God and others. I consider myself a securely attached person, but my life has also produced some insecure attachment issues that I am still working through. Relational beliefs that come from my secure attachment style include the beliefs that I am worthy of love and capable of receiving love, that others are trustworthy and available to be there for me and display love.
The most important things for a caregiver to do to promote secure attachment is learn that childs behaviors. What makes them nervous, sad, anxious, happy, know what the childs cries means. I had to learn this when I had my kids and had no one to help me when everyone was gone back to work fulltime. They have a cry for hunger, a fussy cry when they want to be held, a cry when they are wet. In the book it states “it take two to tango, a childs temperant affects the parents sensitivity too.”
Greg is trying to find his way through his middle school life the entire book. He begins to learn about his development and how he is just being the puberty process. Through situations, family involvement and life experiences he develops the forty developmental assets for adolescents. If I was Greg’s teacher I would get to know him on a personal level to make him feel like he can talk to me about anything. What I noticed throughout the book is that Greg does not have an adult role model that will listen to him.
Although Bowen’s family systems theory, and Bowlby’s attachment theory are unique with their own thoughts and perceptions, both of the theories can also be taken as different viewpoints of the same human experience, specifically the development of relationship patterns and human attachment. Both theories touch upon the influence that unsolved problems in the parents may have on their children. Attachment theory focuses more on the infant’s first attachment, or primary attachment. This is usually between the mother and the infant. If the attachment is interrupted and the infant’s needs are not being met by the primary attachment, mother, this could adversely affect the infant’s cognitive and mental development as well as future attachments.
The works of British psychologist, psychoanalyst, and psychiatrist John Bowlby, and Canadian developmental psychologist Mary Ainsworth revolutionized the idea of attachment. Bowlby came up with the basic ideas on child attachment and their ties to the caregiver, and Ainsworth developed the way we test the attachment of infants in a observational measure she coined the “The strange situation”. This test is now an accepted way of assessing and measuring an infant’s level of attachment to the primary caregiver. The idea of attachment explains how the first close relationship an infant has can have lifelong implications and affect the quality of all other relationships (Fitton, V.A. 2012). Both Bowlby and Ainsworth’s research tried to reveal and
Although we are studying theories, some of them appear to explain human behavior and personality with certain accuracy. John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth theories of attachment can also explain what happens to people when attachment to their parents or caregivers is healthy or potential problems that could occur due to detachments. They suggest that individuals raised with secure attachments to their primary caregivers help them to feel secure; moreover, these children appear to be more socially skilled and less likely to experience major emotional disturbances. However, failure to form healthy attachments, especially mother-child, could serve as a descriptive mechanism for many negative psychological outcomes later in the life of an individual,
What is the attachment theory? , The attachment theory is a
Attachment theory focuses on the idea that a person can have an emotional bond with someone that goes beyond distance and time. (Bretherton, 1992, p. 762) Also attachment theory says that the attachment does not have to be reciprocated. Bowlby’s basic idea was that a child has a tie to its main caregiver (mother), with a focus on the social, emotional and cognitive development of the child. (Bretherton, 1992, p. 762)
Overview of Attachment Theory Attachment theory tries to describe the evolution of personality and behaviour in relationships and it gives a reason for the difference in a person’s emotional and relationship attitudes. In the beginning, it looked at the mechanics of relationships between children and their parents but it has since been expanded to cover the entire life of the human being (Howe, 2000). Attachment theory includes insights learned from evolutionary theory, ethology, systems theory and developmental psychology (Howe, 2001).
The paper mainly focuses on the conceptual framework of Attachment theory as well as attachment style of a client with Self-esteem issues that helps in the case formulation and treatment plan in Cognitive Behavioural Theory (CBT). Attachment style can be explained as an emotional connection of one person with another. The aim of this research study is to evaluate an association between attachment theory and cognitive behavioural approaches, explicitly pointing out similarities as well as differences between both. For the research analysis, qualitative research methodology has been selected for which distinctive previous researches, books and journal article resources has been examined as the gathered evidences are based on attachment theory
Bowlby 's attachment theory had vast investigation done by Mary Ainsworth, who studied the interactions between mother and child, specifically, the theme of an infant’s investigation of their surroundings and the separation from their mother. This essay will focus on Bowlby’s attachment theory and Mary Ainsworth’s experiments and findings, discussing their views on the development and importance of attachment in early life. John Bowlby’s primary interest was in the relationship between child and mother or primary caregiver. Bowlby suspected that the earliest relationships formed by children and their primary parent or care giver, have huge impacts on the child’s later life. From this, Bowlby developed the attachment theory.