“Just save all your homework until I get back.” He told me jokingly. He left two weeks after that conversation. It was easy at first, but as weeks and more weeks went by I was in agony. I couldn’t live without my older brother. He always send notes to my mom with little notes to me which I appreciated but it was no comparison to having him there to mess with me and bring me the type of joy you can only get from your sibling.
Then when I read the information I was not wrong at all. This connection it’s due to the twenty two years my husband has served the USA Army. I can see and feel her pain and frustration. I remember when my husband was at war, not knowing if I will see him again, if he was coming back the same way he left. This painting reflects my friend Ana’s life.
“I should be with you!” But my husband hadn’t gone on a vacation in five years; his every waking moment had been spent caring for me, taking care of my broken body, my needs, managing my illness. Because of that, I forced him to go on this trip. It took months of convincing, but he finally relented, and his sister had gone along with him. And he was having an incredible time, the best of his life! Without me.
In addition, Chris Kyle used passion when it came to being there for his family. Chris Kyle’s wife talks in the book “American Sniper” about her and Chris’s disputes throughout their marriage, but they got through it all and she’s glad they did. Chris had talked about how even through all the distance between them, they still had “some kind of connection” and that would be what both Chris and Taya held onto (Kyle). Chris was deployed 4 times, but he had still managed to keep a bond with his family. Chris was a new father and had yet to bond with his kids, after both of them were born he was deployed again, only being able to see them for a brief period of time.
He said, “We are all weirdos here, that’s what makes it great.” We all share our opinions and we talk about how we want to make a difference. This year the Thursday I was at Montreat, my grandfather passed away. I did not tell anyone until I told my small group after keynote, but I think people knew something was wrong. I was not as bouncy or happy as I usually was, and Sam kept asking me if I was okay. I told my small group about how my aunt had died last year, my uncle a few weeks ago, and then my grandfather the day before.
He said this change was even tougher than the last because he left his wife and their four children behind, but again he stated that since he and Mae were so committed to each other they found ways to make it work. He said he did have the unique opportunity once a week to speak with Mae over a telephone line, which they enjoyed very much. Jerry was supposed to spend a total of 13 months in Vietnam, but only spent nine and thankfully did not see any action. The reason his term was cut short was because his father passed away and he was granted 30-day leave to attend the funeral. After the funeral he asked if he could return to his instructor position in Denver since his term was almost up anyways, which was approved
Good example of this also in the book was when the family was able to still drive with little to no gasoline for four hours until it finally stops and dies, but ends up coming across Roxanne Cawley, who becomes a big part of their family. In the Bible, the book John on chapter thirteen, verse seven says, “You do not realize now what I am doing, but later you will understand.” Sometimes we have to experience things we don’t understand just so God can bring us to the place where he needs us to be. Never doubt the season he has you. It is not always good news either. In the book when the dad died, that was awful news.
Spending countless hours every week on something might make someone tired, but luckily, this is not the case for me. Since joining the Monacan Band, my life has in one way or another revolved around the band. Four years ago I would have never thought about applying for a leadership position. The idea of having a leadership position seemed scary and different. However, having past members exemplify leadership skills and Ms. Ryan’s guidance, I was lucky to learn from them and used those skills as I served as a section leader for two years.
This past week I flew to Texas with my Mom so we could attend my Grammy’s funeral. It was a very difficult week but once I got down there my friend from kindergarten picked me up so I could get out of the house for a while. Even though I told him I was doing okay, he knew that I was really struggling. I was in such a better mood after spending some time with him that I couldn’t stop thanking him for understanding what I needed. Even though it was hard for me to know that my Grammy had passed away, someone told me that I needed to be excited for her.
My dad was deathly sick and needed surgery at this time. As a result, him and my mom couldn 't go to the most important tournament that I would ever play in. Averey and her parents decided to take me in for the week long tournament. Although I wish I could have had my family there with me this tournament was still one of the best times of my life! Getting to spend a whole week with my best friend and my whole team, eating out every day (even twice some days), spending the times we weren 't playing at the pool or watching movies in the lobby and most importantly, a week of what we all loved to do most, play softball.
The last and final vet clinic that I visited was the Lakeland Vet Clinic, which is located in Manson. With the help of my mom, I had successfully gained a few hours of job shadowing. I was ecstatic but also nervous because I have never personally experienced what the every day life of a vet is really like. On a Monday morning, my mom drove me to the clinic. When we walked in both my mom and I were introduced to Dr. Rich the Assistant Vet.
In August of 2013, my dad moved to Florida. For the longest time, he kept me in the dark about the issues he had with his money. He still has never told me directly that he was in debt; the only reason I know is because I overheard my sister talking to her boyfriend about it. He moved to Florida to manage a warehouse for his nephew’s beauty company, JacoSpa. He was offered this job multiple times, but he could not bear the thought of leaving his family in a state across the country.
He has had heart surgery, and as stated above, hospitalizations, for various reasons. However, when compared with others, it is amazing that his health did not begin to decline until he was well into his 70s. Hayward has always been very independent and has taken pride in his ability to care for his family, so it has been more difficult for him to accept help from his children. He shared that he does not like that they “try to control” him. Hayward did express some regret that he has been unable to travel back to his hometown, for 20 years, due to his health and finances.