Fixed Gender Roles
Throughout the years, our society has made great changes dealing with the legalization of marijuana and same sex marriages. However, the idea that children who conform to their “fixed” gender roles is caused by “innate brain chemistry” has not changed at all. In the article, “Why Boys Don’t Play With Dolls” by Katha Pollitt, Pollitt believes roles are not caused by genes, rather it is the adult world whom in which conforms their children to their gender roles. Children always look up to their parents. Whether it is copying the way they walk, talk, or behave, young children will always consider their parents as their number one role model. On the other hand, because of this, adults give in to gender stereotypes. Why?
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Society today still lives up to this “norm”. Nevertheless, is this really what we are perceived as? Are males not allowed to express their emotions or are females not allowed to become Doctors because it is considered “incorrect”? “They allow grownups to take the path of least resistance to the dominant culture, which always requires less physical effort” (Pollitt 11). Adults teach their children the way a girl and boy are suppose to act for the reason that it is much easier than teaching them the opposite - or even both. Another example is through a TED talk by Tony Porter called “A Call to Men”. Here, Porter tells the audience the story of when his brother had passed away. In the car, everybody was seen crying except for Porter's father. That is- until all the women stepped out. The minute their bodies were not in the vehicle was when his father bursted into tears. He then tells Porter the reason he did not express his feelings was because he did not want to be perceived as “not manly”. Everybody needs to cry every now and then. It is a natural emotion. Porter, at the end of the video, issues the men in the audience that it is perfectly fine to express their emotions and shed a tear when they need to. Sadly, society does not give in to such
Gender Roles- Are They Inborn? The essay “Why Boys Don’t Play with Dolls”, by Katha Pollitt, argues how boys take the role of being strong and masculine, while girls embody politeness and ladylikeness. Pollitt asserts that males and females’ mentality and actions are a result of social conditioning.
Boys, as soon as they’re born, are held to certain stereotypical expectations; whether it be emotions, interests, or simply how they act or think, boys are indoctrinated to “act like a man”. David Sedaris’ “Loggerheads” shows excellent examples of these male stereotypes and how they can affect boys, mentally and physically, throughout their entire lives. Not only are young men anticipated to not express or discuss emotions, they’re held to the ridiculous expectation to have the same mainstream interests and hobbies -- sports, cars, video games, and women are just a few examples. If, for whatever reasons, a man is not interested in these specific areas or is overly-emotional, society shuns these men and paints them as being lesser and backward.
The essay “Why Boys Don’t Play With Dolls” by Katha Pollitt, is an essay angled at young people who are, or potentially will be parents. The piece begins with an analysis of the indoctrination of gender roles upon children, with the focus beyond societal influences. Pollitt says other people claim that the reasoning behind children’s affinity for specific toys can be traced to things innate in humans, listing “...prenatal hormonal influences, brain chemistry, genes…” (Pollitt 1) as the top offenders. She also includes “...that feminism has reached its natural limits.”
Burak defines gender socialization as “the process of interaction through which we learn the gender norms of our culture and acquire a sense of ourselves as feminine, masculine, or even androgynous” (Burack, 1). According to Burack, people of different genders behave differently not due to biological factors, but due to socialization that teaches individuals to behave in a particular way in order to belong to a certain gender. For example, women may tend to be nurturing, not because they are biologically programed to be caretakers, but as a result of society teaching them through toys and media to act as mothers. In this way, gender becomes a performance based on expectations rather than natural behaviors or biology, a phenomenon called “doing
“And while parents’ support of their children’s gendered behavior is not always and certainly not simply a conscious effort at gender socialization, their behavior is probably more powerful than they think. Even parents who strive for gender equality, and who believe that they do not constrain their children’s behavior along gender lines, have been observed in experimental situations to do just that” (Eckert and McConnell-Ginet, 743). We all have experienced this process while growing into the common “big boys and big girls” (Eckert and McConnell-Ginet, 742). Parents are making the mistake of teaching their kids to act the way they should because of the genital body parts each are born with. It will just raise the issue of gender inequality more when they grow up.
Why can’t males show their emotions? We make males believe that they can’t have feelings since they are kids. When a boy cries, then the parents tell the boy to be strong. If a boy takes interest in dressing up, cooking, dancing, or doing housework then why do we automatically think that the boy is gay or not normal. When a female is strong, hardworking, and brave then why do people get shocked.
When the speaker’s grandfather passed, her father had more of what is considered a normal response at a funeral: “Did you cry? I asked. I cried, he said. I cry. [...]
Most toddlers are given one of two categories of toys: those for boys and then those for girls. When parents see that their kids are born as boys then they will probably start buying them blocks, race cars, balls, and action figures while for their daughters they will lean towards dolls, baby strollers, crowns, and kitchen sets. At sight, these toys seem harmless and innocent; that is to say what is wrong with a little boy and girl playing with their cars and dolls; however, these toys are the just the beginning of their molding. These kids are slowly being molded into their respective gender role: which are behaviors learned by an individual as appropriate to their gender. For example, gender norms or roles for a girl would be that they’re supposed to be thin, passive, and submissive to males.
More often than not, society compels us to behave like genders we are not. For instance, when faced with challenges like finance, family issues and education, women are expected to be exceptionally strong. Likewise, when men are confronted with sensitive issues they are not expected to openly show their emotions like women. Some jobs description requires female
I have realized my family’s social group has the wrong idea of sexuality. I know their view is sexist and is unfair to women, it hurts women emotionally, and it limits women; but I had never really thought about the one fact that our textbook states so clearly: “gender roles constrict boys more often than girls” (chapter 12). I know about the wage gap and the feminist movement and the search equality; but I had never thought about the unfair restrictions and expectation that come with being born male. Men are expected to be the strong provider because they are male. They are expected to protect their loved ones physically and financially.
Gender roles in the twenty first century world have had evolved over the centuries, the general idea that men and women possess distinct characteristics is often treated skeptically, but this is an almost universal view that has been held since the eighteenth century. Ideas about gender differences were derived from classical thought written by patriarchal societies, Christian ideology from the Catholic Church and science and medicine. Men and women were thought to inhabit bodies with different anatomical structures and that thought that they possess fundamentally
Although some people believe that nature affects the gender identity, others argue that, based on the education an individual receives, it is actually nurture. For example, John Moore, a teacher at a female-only school, says, “My findings suggest that, in some senses, the single-sex school is strongly feminist” (Moore, 2005). On the other hand, many societies teach the children gender stereotypes to try and limit them from becoming against what the society feels is appropriate. Gender roles or stereotypes are “a set of qualities, behaviors, and attitudes that are considered appropriate for males and females based on their biological sex” (Whalen & Maurer-Starks, 2008). Most of the time, these stereotypes are taught and explained to the children in the early stages of learning, since as mentioned above, gender identity is most likely detected after the child is two years old.
These studies suggest that children observe gender stereotypes at an early age unintentionally. Since children’s brains are constantly soaking in new information about the world around them, they have to do so in a way that they are seemingly most comfortable. Studies show that children are most comfortable learning from people who are actively in their lives and attractive movie and TV
Children and young adults are identifying with gender roles at a young age due to mass media. Children develop within a society that is gender-specific when it comes to social and behavioral norms. These come from the family’s structure, how they play with others and by themselves, and school. Girls were expected to be more passive while boys were to be more aggressive and expressive with masculine behaviors. “Before the age of three, children can differentiate toys typically used by boys or girls and begin to play with children of their own gender in activities identified with that gender.
In society, it is intimated that men have to possess the masculinity gender and women have to possess the femininity gender. Typically as seen throughout society, men have to possess the masculinity gender. According to society, it is expected that men are to show wisdom in the line of sorrow and show