After I had started dating more and becoming sexually active, I engaged in conversations about sex with my friends and partners, who I found had conservative attitudes about sex. For example when talking about anal sex or butt play many people I knew at the time insisted that “Butt sex is only for gay guys and weirdos,” and one partner shamed me for being interested in anal sex or anything remotely non-normative in the bedroom because of these
Award winning author Mohsin Hamid talks in depth on this topic in his novel “Exit West.” The novel follows two characters, Saeed and Nadia, as they escape together around the world, teasing each other and learning more about the ideas surrounding sex and its associated pleasure along the way. Through his word choice and character descriptions, Hamid portrays women in his novel as being more sexually inclined than men, taking control of the pleasure they want. It becomes apparent very early on in the novel that Saeed is a very chaste man who wants to refrain from having sexual intercourse with Nadia until marriage. This is witnessed through Saeed’s “a bit excessive a delay” (55, Hamid) in initiating sexual intercourse while in bed with Nadia, and his response of “‘I don’t think we should have sex until we’re married’” (55, Hamid) to Nadia’s comment on whether he brought a condom. However, both characters still explore ways to find pleasure, establishing the idea that direct sexual intercourse is not the only source in which to obtain pleasure.
Anne McClintock wrote her essay “Gonad the Barbarian and the Venus Flytrap: Portraying the female and male orgasm” to examine pornography and how it has changed throughout history and its effects on how women perform as sexual beings. McClintock focuses on the various roles of pornography such as its emphasis on voyeurism, pleasure, and the male ego. She wants her readers to know that women are still not represented in pornography to satisfy their own desires, but they are there to cater to men and their subconscious. I will analyze how McClintock argues that due to the history of sexism towards women, the roles that men and women have in pornography are inherently different because of the societal belief that women are only seen as objects of sexual desire and are solely there to satisfy the male audience.
Baldwin describes that while he seeks out a driven, sophisticated, traditionally “heterosexual” form of masculinity, this is something that he cannot easily attain. Holden is a character who falls more comfortably in a feminine form of masculinity, which Baldwin supports by Holden’s tendency to prefer tangents rather than a directly conveying a point, shown by his attitude in his Oral Expressions class. Holden’s strive for this idealized manhood is also shown when he attempts to have sex with a prostitute, though not being emotionally prepared for what he is about to put himself through. Holden’s idea of masculinity is very James Bond, an unrealistic embodiment of strength, resilience, and adoration from females. At the end of The Catcher in the Rye, there is no clear resolution of his struggles with self-imposed
A second fact of Holden’s personality is that his comments is his attitude toward sex. Holden is a virgin, but he is mostly interested in sex, in fact, he spends much of the story trying to lose his virginity. He feels strongly about sex, he says it should happen between “people who care deeply about and respect one another.” Also he gets upset by the realization that sex can be casual. Stradlater’s date with Jane doesn’t just make him jealous. Holden goes in to the bathroom while stradlater is shaving he asked him about girls and how he’s going to take Jane Gallagher out that he’s attracted too.
Sex creates an extremely exclusive bond between two individuals; it’s an unspoken contract of trust and love. Not only are sexual experiences private, but they also fulfill humanity’s instinctual desire and promote individuality. However, when this intimacy is either erased or condemned by society, individuals lose touch with that vital part of their humanity and individuality. In 1984 by George Orwell, sexuality plays an important role in both Oceania’s totalitarian government and Winston’s rebellion against his oppressors; as he explores his sexuality, Winston revolts against the Party’s manipulative political control, the destruction of individuality, the absence of human connection, and the practice of sexual puritanism. Within Oceania, the Party strives for sexual puritanism in order to eradicate true humanity and demonize sex.
Kilbourne argues how sex in advertising, subconsciously promotes violence against women. With ads about alcohol, skimpy clothing, and even one about an elevator, Kilbourne reveals that these kinds of ads can signify violence, when paid enough attention to. These ads play on the media so often nowadays, that society is numb to them and no longer pays close attention to what the ads are implying. Not only does sex in advertising objectify women, but when a man is objectified, the woman is blamed for not so being innocent, which is what Kilbourne argues as further poor treatment towards women. Sex in advertising seems to allow dominant and forceful men to get away with violating the passive and playful women because the women are teasing.
I believe this is true and our community seems to agree that this is the beginning of irresponsible sex for teens. Joyce Garity, the author of the essay, "Is Sex All That Matters?” agrees by saying that magazines, "Although intended to be mainstream and wholesome, trumpet sexuality page
Both of the men offer sex to their women. After they both get rejected, who would have guessed that, each man begins to pour his heart out as to why she should say yes. For Marvell, the argument was that she couldn’t say no because there was not time for her to say anything but yes. If they had more time, her coyness wouldn’t be a crime and she could say no. Donne’s argument has to do with a flea.
Branstetter uses the word promiscuous because it is a rhetorical approach that focuses on those people who are deviant from the norm. A promiscuous approach “wants to ‘have sex’ with lots of different kinds of projects in lots of different ways and understand those projects on their own terms in order to bring something unique out of the result” (20). Therefore, “...there should be room for promiscuous approaches, topics, perspectives, and styles” in rhetoric (20). Hence, rhetorical promiscuity is a way to refer to rhetorics and rhetors that do not fall within the dominant and celebrated sphere of the field of rhetorics, or academia as a whole. To Branstetter, by “exploring the value” of “perspectives that have traditionally been denigrated or dismissed [so, promiscuous perspectives], we enhance possibilities for scholarly invention and persuasive action” (18).