Tannen’s usage of stories create the tone of “Can’t We Talk?”, by making Tannen’s tone informative yet uncomplicated. Tannen’s piece analyzes how men and women differ in their conversational skills, and how most instances of miscommunication are because of these
The scene further showcases that male desire is much more complicated than it would first seem and a less universal phenomenon, as far as ideals are concerned, than men are aware of or even care to admit. Men do not want their masculinity to be threatened and are willing to hide and even change their preferences in women just to protect their masculinity in society. It is a commentary on men and the male attitude towards women, revealing that men view women as sex objects. Moreover they will only consider a women attractive if she is marketable and accepted as a sex object because then she will be labeled by society as “attractive”. They want to agree on the consensus that would showcase a perfect woman without any flaws, however they are suppressing the fact that these differences and distinctions is what make women distinct individuals and these differences and distinctions are what the men are attracted to; however the men who were dominating the conversation while talking about the “flaw less women” are never going to agree with that.
These stereotypes have proven to be harsher for the men to break out of compared to women. Although women are pushing for gender role shifts unaware of the effects that it may have on our society and the stereotypes that men are still stuck filling. The stereotypes men try to conform to are often set by woman including dominance, toughness, and many more attributes woman find attractive in a guy. Therefore, men find it hard to try and change these attributes when asked to do so. This is prevalent in occupations as well.
"Gender is such a familiar part of daily life that it usually takes a deliberate disruption of our expectations of how women and men are supposed to act to pay attention to how it is produced"(The Social Construction of Gender 65). This tells us that once someone does something out of the "norm" then we start to conceive ideas of what gender is and how it is produced. Once something is done out of what we were taught and perceived to believe is right we then frown upon these actions. Our genitalia is often used as an indicator of which sex we belong to. The reading also talks about gender stratification and how it ranks men above women.
It’s hard to hear about the way something is without reading or learning about it for one’s self. This paper helps someone do exactly that. Society does have an impact on the way people think, and in some ways they mediate or control what is being thought through their actions. When Aaron said, “As we move through our lives, society demands different gender performances from us and rewards, tolerates, or punishes us differently for conformity to, or digression from, social norms.” (Devor, 424) he was right. People are afraid to stray from what they have been conditioned to think by society.
Essay 3 In Deborah Tannen’s “But What Do You Mean,” she delves into the complications men and women may have when it comes to expressing their ideas and opinions to one another. In this essay, Tannen explores common situations in communication including apologies, criticism, thank-yous, fighting, praise, complaints, and jokes. In each section, she expresses the idea that the lack of communication between men and women is because of differentiations in the thought process. She continues to say that when it comes to voicing opinions males and females are wired differently. While Tannen’s theory may apply to a large spectrum, it is too generalized to base it on individual people.
Men should see women as their equals and of capable abilities instead of sexual beings that serve them. However, because of the way media portrays women it has become increasingly more difficult for men to not sexualize women and demean them, and although the media does play a huge role in the demoralizing depiction of women, women are also contributing to the way man view them by overly sexualizing themselves. The only way men will fully be able to give women the proper respect they deserve is if women stop covering their full potential to demand more in society. Women must demand to be treated with more respect and not to be seen as sexual objects, but also, as equals with
Overall, my assessment of this article, “A Radically Different Voice”, was very informational and great description of case and evidence to support his main claims. As I read, I did feel as if Tobin was a little bit biased. Though his writing, I picked up that he was mostly for and with Hutchinson because she was female who voice should be vocalized equally to men. No matter what I believe think should have happened, he persuaded the reader with more indication that what Hutchinson was doing was good. Though to some, it could be a disgrace similarly to what the leaders felt at the time when Hutchinson was accusing
One of these perspectives is analyzing communication through gender. In the book, You Just Don’t Understand, Deborah Tannen (1990) popularized the term “genderlect” to describe the way in which men and women communicate with each other. She suggested that men and women have different styles of conversing, forming two distinct dialects. In a review of Tannen’s book, DeFrancisco (1992) attributed the differing communication styles of men and women to the respective cultures in which they grow up. Because of such gender differences, misunderstanding between men and women creates a gap in the communication process.
Sadly, out society places those stereotypes on male individuals and they are looked down upon if they choose a different career such as becoming a stay at home father or becoming a hair dresser. These professions would be considered more feminine and the individuals may even receive rude feedback from family and friends for choosing this career path. Masculinity in Okonkwo’s culture is similar but different. I still feel that there is a very distinct masculine few on men that they are in charge and in power but woman in America have more of a say than women in Okonkwo’s culture do. While reading Things Fall Apart it became very evident that the man in society and tribe was definitely the leader and the ruler.