Okonkwo has a very hard time with his firstborn Nwoye, he’s lazy and Okonkwo asks him to do chores first, but when he sees that he doesn’t, he starts to beat him. “Okonkwo’s first son, Nwoye, was causing his father great anxiety for his incipient laziness, so he sought to correct him by nagging him and beating him.” It may seem harsh but he never tolerated laziness. Due to his father, he hated the sight of laziness, which is why he’d never want to be like him, or have his kids turn out that way. “He had no patience for unsuccessful men. He had no patience for his father.” He saw Nwoye become lazy at times, which is why he was so harsh, because he doesn’t want him to be unsuccessful.
At the end of the story Okonkwo ends up being just like his father which is ironic because he strived to be nothing like him. The fear Okonkwo has from failing becomes his greatest downfall right to the end of his life. He became everything he didn’t want to become in the first place. If Okonkwo forgave his father from the beginning then things would have gone much differently. If he wouldn’t have been so cruel, harsh, warlike, and he would have been someone admired, strong, and courageous throughout the clan.
Okonkwo’s worst fear was to be the kind of man his father was, so he tried his best not to let his fear become a reality. With a father like Unoka, Okonkwo didn’t get the start as most young men in the village; however, he worked his way to the position of leadership of the clan. There was only one emotion that Okonkwo showed, and it was anger. This was his only emotion because it was how he expressed his feelings. Okonkwo had to leave his fatherland, but after returning home, he found his home unrecognizable.
But much to the anguish of Okonkwo, Nwoye embodied most of his grandfather’s traits and this enraged Okonkwo deeply. Okonkwo dreads that Nwoye will blot the acclaim and honour he has worked so hard to achieve. Nwoye’s “incipient laziness” was causing Okonkwo great deal of distress and he sought to correct him by “constant nagging and beating” and as a result Nwoye was “turning into a sad-faced youth” (Pg. 13). Nwoye is aware that he should adopt the more masculine traits of his tribesmen, as desired by his father but he still prefers his mother’s company.
“Although there were clear disadvantages to women, paradoxically, many of them enjoyed being provided for and complied to the female gender roles that had be reinforced within the group for years. As these expectations had been accepted as traditional, gender roles and stereotypes were internalized to the point where the men and women rarely butted heads over what had become social norms”. - http://ibthingsfallapart.weebly.com/children-and-gender-roles.html. Since the women in the igbo tribe had such a dominate role in society this caused the women to get used to this and accept their role even though the were portrayed as lesser. The effect of this is that the women never challenged this role because they were used to it and then it soon grew on to them and became
Through Brother’s actions and words, he is depicted as selfish, and he just wants his younger brother Doodle to be more physically active with him. Doodle was born with many deformities, and he isn’t able to be on the same level as the other children. Throughout the story, Brother is very concerned about his self-image. He truly did not want a brother that couldn’t do anything a “normal” human being
How many times have you been in a situation where gender roles played a major factor? Gender roles affect every aspect of our life. The gender roles of males and females both develop as a pattern of behavior based on genes. Males and females are expected to follow certain gender roles in today’s society. In the play Antigone, the main character shows a simple example of a courageous woman defying her gender limits.
Doing this really doesn’t help Paul because he is already terrified of his brother. In Tangerine, Paul says,” I’ve already been afraid of Erik, now I get to be afraid of Erik and Arthur” (Bloor 17). Paul’s statement affects his father’s choice. Sadly, Mr.Fisher still thinks his boys are very close, whereas in reality, Paul is scared. If Mr. Fisher had told the truth.
On page 347 the brother admits his guilt, “’What are you crying for?’ asked Daddy, but I couldn’t answer. They did not know that I did it for myself, that pride, whose slave I was, spoke to me louder than all their voices, and that Doodle walked only because I was ashamed of having a crippled brother.” As you can see, the brother not only avoided the doctor’s directions of no walking because Doodle is special, but only taught him for the plain reason of being ashamed of a disabled sibling. This harmful pride doesn’t stop there. Yet again the brother proves his guilt on page 347 stating, in an eerie form, “But all of us must have something or someone to be proud of, and Doodle became mine.” His brother is admitting Doodle’s innocence. Next, the brother gives us plenty of moments that prove his cruel behavior and thoughts during the story.
Life takes unexpected turns and with those unexpected turns, we find out more about ourselves and eventually become an individual with our own ways of thinking. Nwoye is one of Okonkwo’s children who Okonkwo considers a pessimistic feminine and very much like his father, Unoka. As a child, Nwoye is the regularly victim of his father’s criticism and seems to be always emotionally displeased. Achebe depicts Nwoye as a gentle child who prefers to listen to the stories that the women of the Ibo culture tell, then the bloody war stories that Okonkwo and the men of the village tells. Nwoye has different beliefs than that of his father and fellow villagers.
Rose lived a very recluse life only allowed with the permission of her family and the priest in her small hut. She would also help some Inca natives who were hurt brutally by the Spaniards. The garden helped Rose provide herbal medicines because food was scarce for the family and it was well needed. Rose decided to use her garden to make medicines because it was from their own garden and it was beneficial to her family by saving money and it was helpful to those in need. While she was helping the poor, she was also helping her family by selling her lace creations and embroidery.
This detail again strengthens the idea that regarding women, men had little values regarding their treatment and they did not hold marriage in such a sanctity that it is now held. Another instance of male brashness is witness in the relationship between Telemachus and Penelope. Once matured, her son speaks harshly toward his mother declaring that “I cannot fault your anger at all this. My heart takes not of everything, feels it too, both the good that the bad—the boy you knew is gone” (XVIII.255-258). The most painful of these words arrives at the end when her son proclaims that the child she raised is not the same anymore.