The Generational Curse Since 1976, when my mother was born, my family’s generational curse can into effect. My material grandmother, Mattie, had my mom at the early age of 15 years old. Although my grandmother Mattie wanted to keep my mom, she reluctantly gave her up to be raised by her mother, my great-great grandmother Ann. Later on in the years, resentment began to damage my mother’s and Grandmother Mattie relationship, and completely damaging my grandmothers and granny Ann’s relationship. The animosity began to eat way to having a relationship at all. My grandmother Mattie despised the semi-closeness of my granny Ann and my mom. My grandmother Mattie would start rumors and fights between the two trying to split them up. My …show more content…
It was then that I finally met my much older Aunt and Uncle. Sadly, my aunt’s relationship was the same as my mom’s and her mom. They wasn’t close and was very much at odds with one another. It was later when I understood, how the emotional disconnect trickled down from generation to generation. The emotional trauma and misbalance effected everyone. Feeling un-loved, un-wanted, and un-appreciated. In my family, getting a hug or an “I love you” is like pulling teeth. I followed in my mother’s and grandmother’s footsteps. I had my son at the age of 18 years old. He was the first born boy out of the past 4 generations. Becoming a mother myself, I know understand the pain everyone has felt. The love of a child is very strong. A love from a child to their parents is strong as well. The misplaced anger was what put a wedge between everyone. In conclusion, breaking this curse has been a top priority of mine. Now that I have my own family I know what to do and what not to do. I understand the issues that my family has and decide to be more loving, accepting, and forgiving to everyone, but mostly to my own children. Even though these issues continuously tear my family apart, deep down I know they care for one another. With my son, I will teach him the importance of family. Despite mistakes and flaws, family reigns before
I have been in many different family dynamics. I can relate to the people who have both parents in their life and I can relate to the people who don’t have any parents. This period of my life is where I grew the most. It is the period when I realized I get to choose my outcome. I can choose to be angry for the rest of my life or I can choose to be happy and look at the past
Another unfortunate circumstance is that my grandmother can’t remember many vivid things she did even with her own parents. Her parents, Gladys and Cecil Knight, raised her until the age of 10. Her father divorced her mother when my grandmother was only 9 years old. Being a single mother with many children, Gladys could not support her family and was forced to send her children to be raised by strong Christian foster parents Willis and Annie Adams. Only a few memories stuck with her over the years of her real parents, including her trips to Dairy Queen on the weekends and her father taking her to church when she was little.
Comparable to www.blogs.setonhill.edu, the quote, “points out one of the grandmothers most crucial flaws: she values money and material comforts over love and relationships” (Unmentioned). The kids and the grandmother, argues several times throughout the trip. The grandmother even went on, saying how children were more respectful back in her days. The mother, as quiet as she is, didn’t speak to or acknowledge the grandmother much. The grandmother, however, cares more about her son, quite more than the rest of her family.
Tamales is more than just a simple Mexican recipe. “Tamales” means unity, in my family; it means more family gatherings, and new memories. At the age of five most kinds don’t comprehend what’s going on, however I did. I always had a clear understanding, I don’t know if my parents didn’t know how to hide it well or if I knew how to put the puzzle together, either way, I knew. I knew my Grandma was in trouble, but no one ever told me otherwise.
My grandma and I never seen eye to eye. She use to think i was the biggest hoe but i wasn’t get paid for. I wasn’t even having sex but u can’t tell her that. Her favorite saying was, “ You going to be just like your mother.”
“There is a lot of talk these days about dysfunctional families. These are families that simply don't work, that are troubled in one way or the other. They do more harm than good, we are told, and they are a blight on our time. From all the hype about families lately, one might think they are a fairly new thing.” This quote from The All Too Human gods, written by Rebecca Christian and Linda Mazunik, an elucidative piece about the Greek and roman gods being a dysfunctional family shows that even the best of people can be imperfect.
Suddenly, the connection I felt with them all the years prior began to fade and it felt like I was talking to strangers whenever we communicated. At the time, this had such a huge impact on my life. I was in my peak year of middle school, I was starting to figure out who I was, and these were people I had grown up with and whose company I felt familiar with. I had decided to branch out and do something that I had not felt comfortable enough in my own skin to do. Receiving judgement for my own personal leap of faith, taught me that happiness within yourself is the most important happiness you can have.
Later in the interview she reported that she had been experiencing fear and anxiety that the worst could happen to her. Ms. NS elaborated on the response that there would be always a possibility that unthinkable events could happen, especially after she had already encounter events like losing her home, getting kicked out from her Godmother’s house, and losing her grandmother and friend around the same time. Precipitating Factors and History of the Problem Ms. NS reported that she and her family lost her grandmother around two years ago. Upon the loss of her grandmother, Ms. NS stated that the house she had lived in as long as she could remember had to be sold.
One of the biggest difficulties during this time was my brother was very sick when he was born, and he needed surgery to fix a problem with his stomach, and she was taking him back and forth from the doctor frequently plus my sister was only 18 months old. My mom stated, “I don’t know how I got through it, “while discussing this stage of her life but never felt isolated in any way. I was born later which a five year age gap between me and my brother. My mom told me, “After Eileen and John were born, I felt like I was going to be pregnant very year because they were born so close together. It was my biggest fear I would have all these kids, and get lost, but thankfully this did not happen.”
I did not realize how dramatic the change would be in our relationship with my mother. After her return home, we both struggled to find our roles in the house and that was a huge challenge. The arguing between my mother and step-father became more obvious and illustrated just how different things were at home since my mother’s departure.
When Social Worker meet clients with many differents types of problem , it is important to start where the clients is. Therefore, this is one of the reasons that it important we treat our clients and their problems differently. The reason for that, it is a way to find solution relate to our clients problems so we use techniques and models. The family system theory was developed in 1954 by Dr. Murray Bowen. According to Bowen, he believe that a change in one member of the family will followed by changes in all members of the family.
I am not mixed with any other race. I am all African- American. My mother, Donna Kent, is 46 years old. My mother is the second eldest of three. Donna was born on October 1st.
Looking from a child to an adult I now understand why the adults in the neighborhood watched over everyone. It taught me a that there is strength in numbers and love conquers all. Growing up the fourth girl of five kids wasn’t tough or awkward for me. I am the baby girl, therefore I got away with a lot. I learned early on I was different, but could not comprehend whether it was in a good/bad way as a child.
One argument pulled out of this story is that even the closest of families and the closest of friends can be pulled apart by traditions. Although some traditions pull families and friends apart, others can work to pull them
Families can be regarded as the foundation of society. For Fleetwood (2012: 1), the importance of families is highlighted by the fact that it would be difficult to comprehend a society that could function without them. In addition, even though families and their compositions vary across societies and cultures, the family can be viewed as a universal social institution (Macionis & Plummer, 2012: 625. Specifically, according to Macionis and Plummer (2012: 625) and Neale (2000:1), it has the ability to unite individuals into cooperative groups via social bonds (kinship) and is ultimately experienced differently from individual to individual. However, the family can be a source of conflict, tension and inequality, which is why one of the key practices