Grief: The Five Stages Of Grieving

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Death has always been a psychological problem for anyone who has lost loved ones, whether it be family or close friends. Getting over the death is really the hard part of the grieving process. The grieving process can be a long process depending on the relationships between you and the loved one because we never want to come to the conclusion that they are gone forever. Chappel and Mathieu (1997) said that there is no other way to cope with death than the five stages of grief and if one was to ignore the stages, it would just come at a later date and possibly will take more time to heal from a death. Following the death of a loved one, there are five stages of grief that one must experience in order to cope with death and enter tranquility. …show more content…

In this stage, individuals look to a higher power for a “truce” to keep or get your loved one back. One may ask God to please give your loved one back in exchange for something they have done in life. For example, individuals bargain with God and say, “Lord, I’ll go visit my grandmother every day for the rest of my life if you allow her to stay with us.” While doing that, one may start to ask themselves questions and give statements. For example, “ What if I came to visit you? Maybe you wouldn’t have gotten into an accident.” “What if we found the illness earlier to cure it?” “If only I would’ve came to see you more often…” and things of that nature. Basically, we want to go back in time and try to fix things before they happen. Usually, bargaining comes with a huge problem which is guilt. Individuals find some way to place blame on ourselves for the death of our loved ones although we had nothing to do with it. People try their best to avoid the pain from the loss so they try to bargain and negotiate it to get away from feeling …show more content…

To be more specific, Christopher Meshot and Larry Leitner said unresolved grief is “when the grief process is prolonged, obstructed, intensified or delayed.” When that happens, relationships with family members and yourself begin to fall apart. It will be harder to find happiness for themselves because that pain is always in the back of your mind and they haven’t released it. That’s one of the reasons the grieving process is for, releasing the pain built up from losing a loved one. When the grieving process is ignored and pain is built up, there are multiple things that individuals could experience. First, they could go through a lifetime of depression until they finally go through the entire process. Second, the depression and pain from the death will begin to wear you down. This causes physical illnesses and sometimes eating disorders. Finally, and this is the biggest negative behind not going through the grieving process, the increased risk of drug and alcohol abuse. The abuse of drugs and alcohol comes when you need something to ease the pain. And since the pain is gonna be there forever until you go through the grieving process or seek help from family to get through it, this becomes a daily thing. Testing new drugs and alcohol to see which one soothes the pain better for the moment. Now, and individual is addicted and it’s

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