Inquiries and interviews reveal the shattered family view that open adoption adoptees face every day. Adoptees often “fight feelings of being unloved and unwanted, even though [they are] constantly told how much they [are] loved” (Siegel, “One Adoptee from an ‘Open Adoption’ Tells Her Story”). This often occurs because their biological family relinquished rights to the child and gave them to another family, only to infrequently and erratically surface in the child’s life, confusing their feelings of being loved and wanted. Family structure, according to one young adoptee, is “unstructured and ambiguous. It includes legal ties that lack genetic ties and genetic ties that lack legal ties, both of which have emotional ties” (“What Growing Up In An Open Adoption Has Taught Me As An Adoptee”).
(Simms, et al). Once the foster parents feel that they can not control the child's emotional outbursts, or misbehaving, they become disconnected. “Other child welfare authors have documented the intrapsychic conflict that many foster care children experience as a result of traumatic separation from biological parents. This conflict is often manifest by expressed or observed feeling of guilt, rejection, abandonment and shame” (Gonzales). The foster parents begin to feel helpless, which can lead them to stop caring for the child, causing more emotional detachment for the
It limits role models for children. It can lead to a sense of hopelessness. And it can even lead to child abuse” (p. 309). It is too sad that there are many abused children because, the family feel helpless, when there are many resources available to the community. We all, could orienting families and help them to access the resources available in the community and improve their lifestyle.
Many people ask this question: Why do people stay in abusive relationships? The problem with the question is that is puts the blame on the abused instead of the abuser. This suggests that the abused person wants to stay in the relationship, when meanswhile, they may be fooled into thinking that they have no means of escape. Many abusers grew up in an abusive home; either one of their parents abused the other or the parent abused them. Because of growing up in this atmosphere, they do not know how to treat a significant other.
Children are able to develop into adulthood hole they are seeing the responsibility their parents experience. The children brain in poverty is different from other children because they witness so much violence, housing problems and family issues. These children feel like their is no hope for the future in it can lead to not continuing. This can be extremely hard for a child to achieve success. Not only do they feel like their is not hope but they also feel like there is no going back.
Recitatif and The Scar have mental violence or abuse that changes the child’s mindset, like An-Mei being told the scary stories and the cruel phrases the older girls would say around Twyla and Roberta. Physical violence is also present in both stories. Some examples of physical violence in The Scar are An-Mei’s burn, her mother’s sacrifice, and her aunt’s constant harassment. Similar to events in The Scar, there was constant harassment in Recitatif through the mistreatment of Maggie and when she was shoved to the ground. With all this violence in someone’s life, it would be challenging, especially as a fragile child, to stay happy with yourself and your
However, they all fail to do so; Baby lamented "they are afraid of my sadness" (O'Neill, 2006, p.128). Nevertheless, Baby was correct in her assumption society feared her sadness, with teachers and social workers perpetuating the notion that she is a troubled kid, it was difficult to keep friends. This could have acted as a buffer from her home life. (Johnson, A.G. ,2008, pg8) stated that " The resulting patterns of inequality and oppression not only ruin people's lives, but also create division and resentment fed by injustice and suffering that eat away at the core of life in communities, workplaces, schools, and other social situations." Throughout the book progression of social exclusion affected Baby’s life; every step Baby makes in the right direction is thwarted by rejection.
Life is composed of a bunch of different events, some great and some not so good. For all of the orphans in the world, most of the events in their life fall into the not so good category. Imagine losing your parents and being put into a system you have no control of. In, The Orphan Train by Christina Baker Kline, she explains the how the system The Children’s Aid Society set up worked. They had very good intentions but unrealistic expectations, most of the kids were placed into bad homes and had to go to multiple new homes until they found on that was good for them.
Foster kids never really get a break until they are adopted by a loving family. Sadly, they usually are more unfortunate than lucky. Treating foster kids poorly and placing them in bad homes just to get your job done is not okay. The foster care system is failing kids badly, because they are more emotional, scared, and most have developmental issues because of what they have been through. According to many authors the statement about foster care systems failing is true.
Personality dynamics can consist of an individual management of stress and conflicts, their expression of anger, and their ability to emphasize with others. (Burgess, Regehr, & Roberts, 2013). Next, family dynamics typically describe the ability of family to provide support and stability (Burgess, Regehr, & Roberts, 2013). In the scenario, T.J was brought into a broken home and was not able to develop a proper bond with neither his mother nor his father. In his upbringing, T.J. saw signs of domestic violence and drug use, that could have caused T.J. as a child to have potentially blamed himself, felt anxious, and even slight confusion to what was happening between his mother and father.