The Importance Of Family Structure Of The Family

It is of great importance to start by emphasizing that in family structure, the family is a living open system, and that it is subjected to influences of the environment and it is in constant transformation over time. We are talking about influences and changes that naturally take place in the system. According to Jorge Calapinto, “Change, on the other hand, is the reaccommodation that the living system undergoes in order to adjust to a different set of environmental circumstances or to an intrinsic developmental need.” Jorge Colapinto, Structural, family therapy, 1982, p. 6) When looking at couples in general, one must consider changes that occur as being necessary and normal processes that people go through in order to adjust to that environment. How they deal and adapt to this changes is a whole other story.

If we take into consideration that family transactions are repeated, and that they foster expectations that establish enduring patterns, we see very clearly from this case that, the daughter and mother have established enduring patterns by sharing and being there for each other and with the husband being left out. There can be pattern of ignoring and delaying the conflict resolution, although, there is a need of accommodating to each other’s needs and preferred styles of interaction even in this period when they

My opinion in this matter is that, the young couple must discover ways to establish a boundary that separates them from future children, parents and outsiders. This does not mean that parents should be excluded from every decision or arguments, but if parents always step in to settle arguments between the couple, they won’t learn to fight their own battles. This is significant because “healthy families boundaries are enough to protect independence and autonomy, and permeable enough to allow mutual support and affection.”(Michael & Richard, 2004,