Marty Deeks is a complicated guy filled with contradictions and extremes. We only know the basics of his life before NCIS, but what we know isn’t a fairytale. He had an incredibly difficult childhood filled with trauma. How did that childhood influence the man he grew to become? This question has always intrigued me, so I set out to learn about childhood trauma and its effects on adult survivors.
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This is not an article infused with happiness (although it does end pretty well for the hero of the story). I feel it necessary to issue a warning to anyone who might be triggered by discussions of child and spousal abuse and their aftermath. But before anyone stops reading, let me add that there are an astounding
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Also may be random choices by the writers and not really informed by any link to his childhood experiences.
We know very little about Deeks’ childhood
When I was 11 years old, my dad was…one drink away from killing my mom and me…
- Marty Deeks in “Plan B”
We know that Deeks’ dad drank to the point that he “was one drink away” from killing him and his mother. I’m taking that to mean that he was an alcoholic who regularly physically abused both of them. We know that when he was 11, he shot his dad who was wielding a shotgun against him and his mother. Deeks may have been arrested at the time, given that he had records “sealed in a juvie court,” but that in the end his relationship with his mother was much improved after his father was sent to prison.
Put childhood experiences into context- How bad was it?
No child should ever be forced to shoot his own father.
- Roberta Deeks to her son in “Internal Affairs”
Let’s try to put that kind of a childhood into some context. First of all, little Marty Brandel wasn’t the only abused child. An estimated 28% of all children in the U.S. experience some form of physical abuse, and a report of child abuse is made every 10 seconds. And little Marty was luckier than some: an estimated four American children die every day due to abuse and neglect. And one in three women will be the victim of intimate partner violence at some point in her life.
A Child Called It Every year more than 2.9 million cases of child abuse are reported said “Safe Horizon”. Most kids go home to a loving family that loves and cares for each other. But unfortunately this is not what David Pelzer the main character of “A Child Called It”, comes home to. David goes through a life changing experience in this book, and yet he teaches us a very valuable lesson: Always stick up for ourselves and never stop fighting. For example, when 9 year old David had a punishment of cleaning the bathroom for being a “bad boy” she said “You have 30 mins to clean”.
“Astonishing and extraordinary! You have to read this book. It will mesmerize you, confound you, and eventually inspire you!” Which was stated by a best selling author, Jack Canfield. In the nonfiction book, Scared Selfless, by Michelle Stevens she develops her theme, that not only does one need to know about the abuse and trauma that individuals go through but how to seek recovery.
This level of profound child abuse by Claireece’s parents left no domain of trauma unscathed because the degree of complexity increased in this cases over time because of multiple, recurrent and additional trauma exposure. The first noted case of sexual abuse began when Carl engaged
Valeria Oceguera Violence in the family Professor Hoffman February 23,2017 A Child Called ‘It” A Child Called “It” by Dave Pelzer is a story about a child named David, who is a victim of abuse from his mother and tells his story of how he struggles to stay alive, search for food and the problems he has in school. David lives with his mother, father and brothers, but at the end of the book, he feels a strong hatred for his family and a strong hate for the people who knew about the abuse, David also regrets being born and questions if God exists. There are many health issues that happen when abuse happens to a child specifically and these include, “suicidal thoughts, eating disorder, PTSD can develop from a childhood of abuse.”
Spousal Abuse People often turn away from issues that do not affect them, but this only lets the issue grow further until there is nothing left to do but deal with it. This could be why domestic violence has been taking place for centuries now. One issue that comes with domestic violence is spousal abuse- a problem that only seems to be getting worse, with ten million victims being beaten by an intimate partner each year (“Domestic Violence”). Although spousal abuse seems to be an ongoing issue in the United States, efforts are being made at both national and local levels to suppress the violence.
Most youth detained in juvenile justice facilities have extensive histories of exposure to psychological trauma. Traumatic stress plays a key role in their mental health and behavioral problems and needs, and in their safety and rehabilitation and in the security and effectiveness of detention facilities. In a study conducted by _______, 92.5% of the sample of detained youth had experienced at least one type of psychological trauma at some point in their lives and over 50% of the sample had been exposed to six or more potentially traumatic adversities (Abram et al., 2014). Exposure to multiple adversities in childhood increase the risk for negative physical health, mental health, and social outcomes later in life. These problems are related
First off this book is incredibly disturbing telling you things that you would never think could happen to someone, none the less a kid. It’s written by Dave Pelzer who is the child who had to go through all of this. His perspective and message behind this book is child abuse is happening and it’s worse than we think. It was written in 1995, and it’s meant for all who are willing to listen about what he went through and what’s happening around them. This book is extremely reliable taking you through the experience of child abuse through the eyes of one of the worst cases I’ve ever heard of.
As I watched the documentary “Road Beyond Abuse,” I experienced a whirlwind of emotions. From disgusted and disappointed to impressed and joyful, I felt it all. It truly disturbed me to hear about the experiences both Michael McCain and Johnnetta McSwain endured. I was disgusted that no one protected these innocent children from being verbally abused, beaten, raped, and left to fend for themselves. It was shocking to hear that these children withstood this amount of abuse from their family members until they were teenagers.
Upon introduction, this book was instantly intriguing. The title itself gives the reader a feeling of wonderment that allows the mind to wonder about what strange tales the text might contain. Yet, as the reader will soon find out, the stories invoke wonder as well as heartbreak. “The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog” is a collection of stories and journal entries written mainly by a psychiatrist by the name of Bruce D. Perry. He began working with children in the the early 90s, and as he did so, he realized that the world had yet to understand the incredible needs of young, developing children.
The short documentary “Child of Rage” presents an example of how experiencing abuse as a child can shape the child later in life and how some children can recover. The intrafamilial abuse that Beth experienced as a one year old affected her behavior later in her childhood when she was adopted. Beth was also able to recover from some of the effects of the child abuse she experienced once she was separated from her adoptive family and taken to a special home. Beth experienced intrafamilial abuse at the hands of her biological father after her mother passed away when she was one.
Maltreatment has a severe impact on a child’s current and future functioning and development regarding their emotional, social, cognitive, behavioral, and physical wellbeing.(Frederico 345). Different types of abuse, such as physical, emotional, and sexual have different consequences, but the consequences of all maltreatment, are likely to happen in three stages. Firstly, a child may have an initial reaction such as post-traumatic symptoms, painful emotions, and cognitive distortions. Secondly, children develop coping strategies that are aimed to help increase their safety or reduce their pain. Thirdly, a child 's sense of self-worth is damaged and develop the feeling of shame and hopelessness..
Though child abuse is inevitable, the ability to improve outcomes for children of abuse is achievable with the right resources. This is why creating and an awareness of child abuse, identifying attributes of resilience and their relevance in overcoming adversity is imperative. According to Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University resilience can make or break a child’s journey in overcoming their abuse, “In the final analysis, resilience is rooted in both the physiology of adaptation and the experiences we provide for children that either promote or limit its development.” (2015, p. 1), which is why to be active members of society and understanding the importance of reporting abuse. Reporting abuse not only provides an opportunity to safeguard that child, but it also rolls up into federal reporting leading to increased awareness at a national level with potential for increased funding to sustain or improve existing or create new programs and services for abused children.
My family has raised me in a safe environment enabling me to feel I have a place in the world. Although I have never experienced abuse first hand, I have witnessed the effect that lack of safety has on a child. My friend was once abused to the point where she had to wear long sleeves in summer to hide her wounds. She blamed herself and did not feel wanted; she is comparable to Bone who constantly blames herself and states variations of “‘I made him mad’”(Allison 247). Bone lives in a war zone, a place of broken hearts and bones, a place of constant fear.
Effects of Child Neglect The consequences of child maltreatment can be heartbreaking. For years, clinicians have described the effects of child abuse and neglect on the physical, psychological, cognitive, and behavioral development of children (Understanding Child Abuse and Neglect, 1996). “Neglect remains the most common form of child maltreatment, typically starting in early infancy, and can have extremely damaging consequences for mental and physical health throughout the lifespan” (Maguire, S., & Naughton, A., 2016). Years ago, child maltreatment was not publicly recognized in the United States, in fact, it was not until around 1874, that the first case of child abuse was recognized – it was not the first case of child abuse, but it was
The study of these two novel shows how different people deal with the after effects of the same problem that is ‘Child Abuse’. In contemporary urban society, this problem of child abuse is of much prominence. Child abuse at times happens due to the neglect of parents towards their children because of their busy work-life schedule and so the outside world take advantage of the innocent children. Like in the novel, Perfect Match by Jodi Picoult, since both the parents were bread-earners, they did not pay much attention to their growing child and one day the child is abused by the priest. The irony of the novel is that the mother of the abused child, who herself is shown as a lawyer did not know about the case of her own child.